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BigmanPigman

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192. I hope she visits you

Sun Nov 9, 2025, 07:01 PM

Nov 9

She may already have visited you. Be sure to keep your senses keen and alert for any sort of sign that she is OK, loves you and will be there waiting for you at "home".

This happened, and still happens to me after my dad and my 2 dogs died (they were my babies).

If you are able to relax at all (it is very difficult when you are still in a state of shock) you may want to notice any sounds, smells, voices, dreams, etc. That is usually when I have been visited by my dad and dogs after they died. It's comforting and I welcome it and keep track of the visits in a journal. I get many at 11 AM (the time my dog died here at our home). A lot of people don't believe in this stuff since it can't be explained by science but once they experience something personal they realize that this is real and just not understood at this time.

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my wife passed away yesterday morning [View all] onethatcares Nov 9 OP

I am so sorry to hear this. Irish_Dem Nov 9 #1

So sorry for your loss. piddyprints Nov 9 #2

Ohhhhhh. I'm so sorry. Scrivener7 Nov 9 #3

I'm very sorry for your loss. ❤️ underpants Nov 9 #4

I'm so sorry. Chellee Nov 9 #5

I am so sorry for your loss ms liberty Nov 9 #6

Condolences. I wish I had the words to express my sympathy. NNadir Nov 9 #7

My heart is with you. Hope22 Nov 9 #8

53 years of marriage onethatcares Nov 9 #9

Tears here for that moment, for your loss. Please remember to be kind niyad Nov 9 #24

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I am very sorry for the loss of your beloved wife. 💔 GentryDixon Nov 9 #13

I am so sorry. My deepest condolences to you, and I will keep you in my thoughts. HeartsCanHope Nov 9 #14

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So Sorry for your loss-Best wishes to you and your family marked50 Nov 9 #17

She will be with you. cachukis Nov 9 #18

I am so sorry for your loss. She is at peace now. Fla Dem Nov 9 #19

So sorry to hear of your loss. 14 years is a near miracle, same happened with my dad's prostate cancer. lark Nov 9 #20

I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife. Know that your DU family niyad Nov 9 #21

I am so, so sorry... Trueblue Texan Nov 9 #22

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I am so very sorry Onethatcares, JMCKUSICK Nov 9 #34

I'm so sorry for your loss. Lonestarblue Nov 9 #35

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I am so sorry to hear about your son. Know that your DU family is niyad Nov 9 #65

Thank you Lifeafter70 Nov 9 #121

Strength to you as well. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #209

I wish I could do more than say things. OldBaldy1701E Nov 9 #37

So very sorry.. PittBlue Nov 9 #38

Your pain comes through your words and I could not hope more for all of us to absorb some of it.... hlthe2b Nov 9 #39

Oh, dear onethatcares, please know, as you inch your way through this, your DU family cares mightily for you. Sending KitFox Nov 9 #40

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So sorry for your loss. niyad Nov 9 #67

Very sorry, Ed. My sincerest condolences. Tetrachloride Nov 9 #87

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I am sorry, ed. murielm99 Nov 9 #115

Thanks edhopper Nov 9 #158

The scourge that is still too much with us! Condolences. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #210

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I'm so sorry! Ocelot II Nov 9 #48

I am so sorry, onethatcares. badhair77 Nov 9 #49

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I am sorry for your loss. masmdu Nov 9 #53

I know your heart is hurting. tavernier Nov 9 #54

I'm so sorry! redwitch Nov 9 #55

We care about you, True Dough Nov 9 #56

Sending comfort to you, onethatcares 💖 Clouds Passing Nov 9 #57

My sincerest condolences. Tetrachloride Nov 9 #58

My deepest condolences to you and yours Hey Joe Nov 9 #59

You have my sympathy. bluescribbler Nov 9 #60

I am so sorry. I can't even imagine 14 years. Please take care of yourself and come here and talk to us. ratchiweenie Nov 9 #61

I'm so sorry. highplainsdem Nov 9 #62

Know that those who have walked this trail are with you and here for you Attilatheblond Nov 9 #63

I'm sorry you are going through this heartache. Emile Nov 9 #64

I'm so sorry for your loss. Mr. Mustard 2023 Nov 9 #66

I am so very sorry TNNurse Nov 9 #68

So sorry. appleannie1 Nov 9 #69

I'm so sorry JustAnotherGen Nov 9 #70

So sorry...you both gave it a good fight... Karadeniz Nov 9 #71

We are with you OddMom20 Nov 9 #72

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My sincere condolences Sanity Claws Nov 9 #75

I am sorry for your loss LetMyPeopleVote Nov 9 #76

So sorry DownriverDem Nov 9 #77

I'm very sorry for your loss. Texin Nov 9 #78

Sorry Onethatcares. You need some hugs. Doodley Nov 9 #79

My brother on Feb 15 SuzyandPuffpuff Nov 9 #80

Hugs to your brother and you electric_blue68 Nov 9 #211

Don't try and do this alone justaprogressive Nov 9 #81

So sorry SocialDemocrat61 Nov 9 #82

I am so very sorry, onethatcares Grim Chieftain Nov 9 #83

I am so sorry, one that cares. May the memories of your dear wife be a blessing to you. debm55 Nov 9 #84

Holding you in my heart... thank you for letting us know. n/t TygrBright Nov 9 #85

Of course you hurt, my dear onethatcares . . . CaliforniaPeggy Nov 9 #86

... Aristus Nov 9 #88

Heartbreaking IndyPepper Nov 9 #89

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aw heck AllaN01Bear Nov 9 #92

I join with others and send my sympathy. nt in2herbs Nov 9 #93

I know this feeling 🌠 Richluu Nov 9 #95

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So sorry for your loss Tree Lady Nov 9 #98

I bet you hurt. That was a good long fight. 1WorldHope Nov 9 #99

So sorry, onethatcares. We love you. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Nov 9 #100

I'm so sorry for your loss! yardwork Nov 9 #101

Maybe additional cancer research could avoid such horrors. But of course tax cuts are more important. flashman13 Nov 9 #102

I'm so sorry... CaptainTruth Nov 9 #103

Our hearts are with you along with our condolences lostnfound Nov 9 #104

two songs saving me today onethatcares Nov 9 #105

Words never suffice in a time like this jmbar2 Nov 9 #106

You must, I think, feel eversomuch alone SorellaLaBefana Nov 9 #107

My condolences to you and your family, onethatcares Niagara Nov 9 #108

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How fortunate your wife had you stollen Nov 9 #113

I am so sorry. murielm99 Nov 9 #114

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Dear onethatcares...we care Wicked Blue Nov 9 #126

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A Hug to you. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #212

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YW. I hope you have support. It's relatively new on a long journey to a different life. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #222

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Heartfelt condolences on the loss of your wife. 14 years is a long time, may she rest in peace and may you find Ninga Nov 9 #135

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The saddest part is sellitman Nov 9 #143

Very sorry. S/V Loner Nov 9 #144

Sincere Condolences gademocrat7 Nov 9 #145

I am sorry to here this. ironman99 Nov 9 #146

So Sorry For Your Loss! Deep State Witch Nov 9 #147

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Because of cultural conditioning I'm glad you found a group to process, unburden yourself, and heal electric_blue68 Nov 9 #214

We embrace you, onethatcares, cilla4progress Nov 9 #149

Prayers for both of you. creeksneakers2 Nov 9 #150

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I am so sorry for your loss debsy Nov 9 #155

Onethatcares, I'm so sorry that you lost your dear wife FakeNoose Nov 9 #156

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure each of us feel a little pain on your behalf in the hope that it might alleviate some Buddyzbuddy Nov 9 #157

Strong hugs around the onethatcares family and friends... Tikki Nov 9 #159

I'm so sorry! cate94 Nov 9 #160

I'm so so sorry. I understand the hurt. I'm still grieving the loss of my wonderful husband 🙏 TommieMommy Nov 9 #161

A Hug to you electric_blue68 Nov 9 #215

Condolences vishnura Nov 9 #162

May her memory be a blessing BaronChocula Nov 9 #163

I am so sorry! I pray memories of the wonderful times you shared vanessa_ca Nov 9 #164

May she rest in peace. Queso Delicioso Nov 9 #165

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I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔 live love laugh Nov 9 #168

I am so, so sorry. EuterpeThelo Nov 9 #169

Sending love and good vibes... thomhartmann Nov 9 #170

Oh how awful for you. Stay close - we care. Marie Marie Nov 9 #171

I am so sorry ... rustysgurl Nov 9 #172

Condolences. She must have put up a heck of a fight. 14 years. So sad for you. Vinca Nov 9 #173

I'm so sorry onethatcares. skylucy Nov 9 #174

(((HUGS))) BumRushDaShow Nov 9 #175

I'm really sorry for you and your loss. Sometimes I think that us men really should "go" first because we don't..... FadedMullet Nov 9 #176

Condolences to you. spooky3 Nov 9 #177

So sorry for your loss - nt. TBF Nov 9 #178

Love, just love Roy Rolling Nov 9 #179

May you, your family and friends mercuryblues Nov 9 #180

I'm So Sorry, onethatcares 💙 Cha Nov 9 #181

Deepest Condolences ProfessorGAC Nov 9 #182

I am so very sorry. FM123 Nov 9 #183

so very sorry Skittles Nov 9 #184

As a recent widower my heart goes out to you. TexLaProgressive Nov 9 #185

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So sorry for the passing 0f your wife. riverbendviewgal Nov 9 #187

That's way too close shocks. A hug to you. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #217

My deepest sympathy. Joinfortmill Nov 9 #188

Sending my deepest condolences Tumbulu Nov 9 #189

Caring Ksout Nov 9 #190

I'm so sorry onethatcares .... cliffside Nov 9 #191

I hope she visits you BigmanPigman Nov 9 #192

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So very sorry. That's a long time Phentex Nov 9 #194

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I am so sorry. Morbius Nov 9 #196

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Just feel our love wrapping around you some_of_us_are_sane Nov 9 #198

I am so sorry for your loss. Jay25 Nov 9 #199

I feel so very sorry for you. I'm married, too, to a wonderful woman. 14 years is a hell of a battle. She was very Exp Nov 9 #200

Dear onethatcares, I understand. My dear husband of 38 years passed 26 days ago. I'm finding comfort in talking MLAA Nov 9 #201

Not long ago at all! A hug to you. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #216

Thank you for your kindness. 🩷 MLAA Nov 10 #233

I'm so sorry, MLAA Niagara Nov 11 #240

Thank you for your kindness. 💕 MLAA Monday #245

I am so sorry for your loss, MLAA debm55 Monday #243

Thank you for the hugs, Deb. I need them. MLAA Monday #244

I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota Nov 9 #202

I am so sorry. Thinking of you. bronxiteforever Nov 9 #203

So sorry for your loss onethatcares. Vibes to you and yours. applegrove Nov 9 #204

It's good that she had you.. Permanut Nov 9 #205

My deepest condolences. ❤️ herding cats Nov 9 #206

Time well spent. May you spend your new life well. Festivito Nov 9 #207

My heart breaks for you Mz.LadyRe22 Nov 9 #208

I hurt for you. babylonsister Nov 9 #213

I'm so sorry for your loss. Beacool Nov 9 #218

I'm sorry. 😢 Bluepinky Nov 9 #220

Dang! So sorry. Just seeing this. Strength to you as you navigate both the practical things, and the roils of emotions.. electric_blue68 Nov 9 #221

I'm very sorry for your tough, painful loss. JohnnyLib2 Nov 9 #223

The only consolation I can offer is 'she only left you against her will' Jack Valentino Nov 9 #224

May you fondly remember to good moments spent with her Xipe Totec Nov 10 #225

My most sincere condolences to you and your family. Basso8vb Nov 10 #226

I'm so sorry for your loss, OTC. summer_in_TX Nov 10 #227

I cannot find the words...I grieve by your side irisblue Nov 10 #228

that pain will always have place in your heart Shellback Squid Nov 10 #229

My heartfelt condolences Dystopian Nov 10 #230

Today we are manythatcare. Prairie_Seagull Nov 10 #231

Peace Magoo48 Nov 10 #232

I whish I had words of wisdom for you. I am not so foolish as to think I do. DFW Nov 10 #234

it's been "remission after remission" onethatcares Nov 10 #236

A cruel cycle of, "I think we've beaten it--oh, sorry, no we didn't." And you put up with that for fourteen years? DFW Nov 10 #237

cholangial carcenoma was her first onethatcares Nov 10 #238

onethatcares.... Niagara Nov 10 #239

Thinking of you this morning OTC. Nittersing Nov 10 #235

I'm so sorry. lapucelle Monday #241

You have the right to hurt malaise Monday #242