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I can't know how it feels for you, my wife passed away from cancer April 2022 , less than a year from diagnosis to dying.
I've never considered any form of therapy as useful to me and by that I really mean just for me, as I feel kind of emotionally balanced and healthy for the most part, I did attend a survivors group recommended and organized by the Hospice that my wife spent her final few days in, and it really did me far more good than I would have imagined. My family and friends could not have been more supportive and loving......but it just felt wrong to me to express my feelings like I would burden family and friends with how colorless I felt at the time. Also as a male of my age even though I don't think there is anything wrong with a man crying, it feels wrong, I still can't break that programming. I was able to say things, express myself, and openly cry in front of other people in the survivors group that I could not have done anywhere else, it helped me to heal emotionally far quicker than if I had not gone there. I can't possibly know if a similar forum would be of use to you, but thought I would share how much it helped me. Whenever asked how I'm doing now after time has passed, I can honestly say that my feelings, thoughts and emotions are based on the 25 wonderful years we had together, it was truly an awesome relationship, and that is the center of my mindset, I would take the time we had together and cherish it again and again forever.
Healing and hope to you
jackcrow2001