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Friend and husband moved in to an assisted living facility. $275k buy-in.

The place is supposed to take care of you at different levels until you get wheeled out, feet first. This went well for the first two years. Then she developed an undiagnosed neurological condition which leaves her in a motorized wheelchair. The condition also requires her to be away from her apartment and into a nursing care part of the facility.

This means that she is now costing the facility more to provide for her upkeep.

So she went to the bistro in the facility and had two glasses of wine. This is where it gets weird. I have known her for 55 years. We were lovers for 10 years. I know her well. She likes to sing show tunes. So a member of staff reports that she was singing, smelled of alcohol and is possibly an alcoholic. They checked the records at the bar and found that she had two glasses of wine. She doesn't know in what time frame the wine was consumed.

No prior incidents have transpired involving any behavioral problems in the facility.

So now, she is confined to her room, except for meals and THREATENED WITH EVICTION from the facility because she is an alcoholic. This is based on one event. If she is an alcoholic, it is a disease. This place is supposed to care for you during illness and such.


She is hiring an elder care attorney.

But WHAT DA FUCK?