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3Hotdogs

(14,821 posts)
Tue Oct 28, 2025, 08:09 AM Oct 28

Assisted living: Read your contract before you buy in. Also look for online recommendations. Background -

Friend and husband moved in to an assisted living facility. $275k buy-in.

The place is supposed to take care of you at different levels until you get wheeled out, feet first. This went well for the first two years. Then she developed an undiagnosed neurological condition which leaves her in a motorized wheelchair. The condition also requires her to be away from her apartment and into a nursing care part of the facility.

This means that she is now costing the facility more to provide for her upkeep.

So she went to the bistro in the facility and had two glasses of wine. This is where it gets weird. I have known her for 55 years. We were lovers for 10 years. I know her well. She likes to sing show tunes. So a member of staff reports that she was singing, smelled of alcohol and is possibly an alcoholic. They checked the records at the bar and found that she had two glasses of wine. She doesn't know in what time frame the wine was consumed.

No prior incidents have transpired involving any behavioral problems in the facility.

So now, she is confined to her room, except for meals and THREATENED WITH EVICTION from the facility because she is an alcoholic. This is based on one event. If she is an alcoholic, it is a disease. This place is supposed to care for you during illness and such.


She is hiring an elder care attorney.

But WHAT DA FUCK?


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Assisted living: Read your contract before you buy in. Also look for online recommendations. Background - (Original Post) 3Hotdogs Oct 28 OP
A similar thing happened to a friend of mine. Irish_Dem Oct 28 #1
Thank you. snowybirdie Oct 28 #2
Accepting bribes from United Healthcare for avoiding hospitalizations and to get DNRs signed (Guardian) lostnfound Oct 28 #3

Irish_Dem

(78,021 posts)
1. A similar thing happened to a friend of mine.
Tue Oct 28, 2025, 08:19 AM
Oct 28

This is a long time friend with no history of drug or alcohol use at all.
Stable history, upstanding citizen.

She had fallen and broken her hip, was in a lot of pain and nursing home was giving her pain
meds. One night she said she wanted to try skipping one dose of the pain meds, and would
take it later if she needed it. She was afraid of getting addicted to the stuff.

The staff didn't like this idea and reported her.
She was shocked when the nursing director accused her of hoarding drugs to sell them!

This friend had made some polite complaints prior about the conditions in the nursing home.
This was their revenge we figured.

lostnfound

(17,295 posts)
3. Accepting bribes from United Healthcare for avoiding hospitalizations and to get DNRs signed (Guardian)
Tue Oct 28, 2025, 09:04 AM
Oct 28
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025/may/21/unitedhealth-nursing-homes-payments-hospital-transfers
“ Revealed: UnitedHealth secretly paid nursing homes to reduce hospital transfers”

UnitedHealth Group, the nation’s largest healthcare conglomerate, has secretly paid nursing homes thousands in bonuses to help slash hospital transfers for ailing residents – part of a series of cost-cutting tactics that has saved the company millions, but at times risked residents’ health, a Guardian investigation has found. Those secret bonuses have been paid out as part of a UnitedHealth program that stations the company’s own medical teams in nursing homes and pushes them to cut care expenses for residents covered by the insurance giant.

In several cases identified by the Guardian, nursing home residents who needed immediate hospital care under the program failed to receive it, after interventions from UnitedHealth staffers. At least one lived with permanent brain damage following his delayed transfer, according to a confidential nursing home incident log, recordings and photo evidence.

“No one is truly investigating when a patient suffers harm. Absolutely no one,” said one current UnitedHealth nurse practitioner who recently filed a congressional complaint about the nursing home program. “These incidents are hidden, downplayed and minimized. The sense is: ‘Well, they’re medically frail, and no one lives for ever.’”

The Guardian’s investigation is based on thousands of confidential corporate and patient records obtained through sources, public records requests and court files, interviews with more than 20 current and former UnitedHealth and nursing home employees, and two whistleblower declarations submitted to Congress this month through the non-profit legal group Whistleblower Aid.
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