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yellowdogintexas

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58. I also regret marrying my first husband .

Sun Apr 20, 2025, 06:18 AM

Apr 20

That marriage lasted about 14 years too long. Like you I knew after our honeymoon that I had made a mistake. He was a very nice guy, smart with great potential and we had a lot of fun together when we were both in college and were surrounded by a lot of mutual friends with common experiences. When we had to start over in a new place, without those friends I felt lost at sea. The last 3 years were an unmitigated disaster and I regret that I did not divorce him sooner. There were no abuse issues, or drugs, alcohol or anything like that it just wasn't right.

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