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no_hypocrisy

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26. Trust me. Having children didn't make my parents happy at all.

Tue May 13, 2025, 08:55 PM

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Both of my siblings didn't have children for reproductive frustrations. I chose "safe sex" because I knew our father would weaponize my children against me. You don't enhance a dysfunctional family.

And Dad (Bless his heart!) sought his retribution upon us by disinheriting all of us for not continuing the family legacy. Our surname will die out with me and my brother.

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Trust me. Having children didn't make my parents happy at all. no_hypocrisy Tuesday #26

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