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Buckeyeblue

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3. I don't think having kids is a key to happiness

Tue May 13, 2025, 02:27 PM

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It can be fun, for sure. It can also be stressful and a great deal of work. My kids are 22 and 20. I don't either wants kids. But at that age I didn't either. But as you get older, you sometimes change your mind. My spouse and I have a great relationship. We're fortunate that way. After we were married for a fews years, we thought it would be interesting to have kids. And it has been. Watching them grow and change has been amazing. But sometimes I feel bad for bringing them into this world. They are 22 and 20. They are going to have to live in a world and country that will be on the brink of tyranny for a long time to come. They are smart kids and will figure it out. I just wish they didn't have to navigate our current landscape.

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none of my 5 kids has kids. mopinko Tuesday #1

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i think our moms hid the cost. mopinko Yesterday #47

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I don't think having kids is a key to happiness Buckeyeblue Tuesday #3

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Watching Saturday soccer in 95 degree heat lame54 Tuesday #8

It USED to be rewarding and enjoyable for families back in the day...... Ziggysmom Tuesday #11

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I forgot about the babysitting. I hated it too. Vinca Tuesday #25

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