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CountAllVotes

(21,704 posts)
23. it really sucks
Wed Apr 23, 2025, 11:46 AM
23 hrs ago

And that goes for the VA too.

I remember driving around with him in the car going from one place to the next trying to find something called HELP for him.

The VA enrolled him as a patient and gave him one-half of a shingles shot. He did not live long enough to get the other half of it.

The VA told him that he was "in at the wrong time" and that he did not qualify for much help. He enlisted in 1959 and got out after being extended in 1963. He was stationed in Germany and received an honorable discharge and a commendation from JFK for his extended service time, and no don't you dare say that there was "something wrong with his DD214"!!!!

He got nothing and was released with impaired hearing which was at a 70% loss when he died. It was from firing off guns for 4 years with no hearing protection.

In the end, he fell and broke his hip. Why they operated on a man his age that weighed maybe 120 lbs. tops is beyond me other than sheer greed.

When he woke up from the surgery, he could not breathe nor swallow. The was no nursing home to be found for him so he was transferred to their local "Hero Center" for end of life "care" = morphine until you are dead and gone.

He tried to escape from this facility but was unable to do so.

The last time I saw him, they had called me and told me to come there ASAP. And, so I went. He was in a bed and going up and down, up and down, up and down like doing sit-ups! I received no explanation as to WHY he was doing this. He was not aware that I was in the room.

I left never to return. He died a few hours later.

SO MUCH FOR HOSPISSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm still so fucking angry I cannot see straight.

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Kicking. n/t ChazII Yesterday #1
Hospice care is one of the greatest services possible GulfofMexico 17 hrs ago #34
How sad the U.S. does not fund full hospice care. AloeVera Yesterday #2
It's even worse if you don't have any family support Random Boomer Yesterday #14
It shouldn't be that way. AloeVera Yesterday #20
That is the boat I am now in CountAllVotes 10 hrs ago #49
hospice benefits CountAllVotes Yesterday #3
That is bizarre - completely the opposite of my experience recently with hospice whopis01 Yesterday #6
Our health care "system" sucks. That was one sad example and I am sorry 😞 Evolve Dammit Yesterday #9
And it is not the fault of doctors and nurses. Just to clarify Evolve Dammit Yesterday #11
it really sucks CountAllVotes 23 hrs ago #23
I am so sorry for him to have to put up with all that, and then pass. And your frustration. Your anger is justified. Evolve Dammit 18 hrs ago #30
You must have gotten hold of one of the few hospice folks with no empathy. lark Yesterday #10
It has ruined my life! CountAllVotes 23 hrs ago #24
Must Rebl2 Yesterday #18
There was no "choice" CountAllVotes 23 hrs ago #25
This matches my experience with my uncle Farmer-Rick 14 hrs ago #41
Thanks for sharing CountAllVotes 10 hrs ago #48
Oh, I feel ya EuterpeThelo 12 hrs ago #44
Damn! CountAllVotes 10 hrs ago #47
I had a bad experience with hospice too when my husband was dying maptap22 3 hrs ago #53
I hope I have the courage to take assisted end of life if I ever get in a terminal cancer or 3Hotdogs Yesterday #4
I lived through this with my Daddy. I miss him. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Yesterday #5
Hospice was wonderful LittleGirl Yesterday #7
Hospice care should seriously reduce suffering. Prairie_Seagull Yesterday #8
Great health care system. Just wonderful. Mr. Mustard 2023 Yesterday #12
I don't understand why people don't use MAID. Jacson6 Yesterday #13
Where do you live? Random Boomer Yesterday #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Ruby the Liberal 15 hrs ago #36
Sorry - self deleted. Ruby the Liberal 15 hrs ago #38
Never Rebl2 Yesterday #19
Medical Assistance In Dying. It used to be called assisted suicide. n/t Jacson6 23 hrs ago #21
There are only a handful of states that allow Death with Dignity Ruby the Liberal 15 hrs ago #37
MAID is only available/authorized drmeow 15 hrs ago #39
And republicans don't give a shit.......... joshdawg Yesterday #16
I could not have survived my wife's cancer without the angels in hospice. bluescribbler Yesterday #17
My Husband just died in Hospice in our home in Jan this year NCgayguy 23 hrs ago #22
Oh, my heart EuterpeThelo 12 hrs ago #45
This message hit me like a thunderbolt... Moostache 22 hrs ago #26
Big hug to you SARose 18 hrs ago #32
we had a horrible experience with in patient hospice when my mom was dying. Native 22 hrs ago #27
Mine was awful too CountAllVotes 22 hrs ago #28
My Grandpere spent the last month or so of his life in a hospice. It was a gift to us all... TygrBright 18 hrs ago #29
My Mother-In-Law passed in a hospice hospital SARose 18 hrs ago #31
Tom apparently was lucky enough to get into a good facility. totodeinhere 17 hrs ago #33
just hope to die painlessly in my sleep CountAllVotes 10 hrs ago #50
The VA is a Federal Agency, but soldierant 17 hrs ago #35
I want to die in Italy JustAnotherGen 14 hrs ago #40
I can't imagine how my experience with Hospice could have been any better than it was. jackcrow2001 13 hrs ago #42
I'm so afraid of that time in my life Tickle 12 hrs ago #43
God Bless You blueinredLa 12 hrs ago #46
I took care of my husband at home. The hospice nurse came a few times to make sure everything was ok. TommieMommy 4 hrs ago #51
I had no idea there was such drastic variation in the quality of hospice services! ShazzieB 4 hrs ago #52
In patient hospice even if it is good costs a fortune and is not fully covered if at all Meowmee 3 hrs ago #54
If there is a trick to get the best care one can, Prairie_Seagull 1 hr ago #55
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