Elder-caregivers

We just lost my mom, who, in one way or another, has depended upon my husband and me for over two decades. My brother washed his hands of her years ago. Similarly, we cared for my father-in-law when several of my husband's siblings were closer and more financially able to help.

Anger and resentment are natural responses, however, you as a caregiver also have choices. For both my mom and my father-in-law there came a time when long term care that we did not provide or help pay for was the only option.

In the end, I have learned to let go of my negative feelings toward those family members and be at peace with the choices my husband and I made that reflect our values and character. I wish you and your wife strength and peace in what is a challenging season of life.