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      I'm not going to talk about my sexual assault yet.  Not ready for that.  
There's been some talk about domestic violence in GD and other places.  So I'm going to talk a little about that.  Not too much.  
My mom married a man that beat her--it was a short but very violent marriage.  She did try and get away from him.  She called the police, but this was during a time when men were told to take a walk.  But for my mother, she was treated unbelievably cruel, she was a white woman that dared marry a black man--the police told her she deserved what she got. 
My grandmother paid the man to leave her, he took the money (and a beating from a friend of granny) and left.  When the money was gone he was back.  
Mom moved and was able to hide for a while.  Then he found her.  And it started all over again.  
He never beat my me or my brother.  
I remember my mom begging him to stop.  The bruises, the blood, the tears.
The gun shot.
He shot my mom.  She'd bought a gun.  You can guess what for.  He found it and used it on her.  
He had her pinned to the bed.  Pointed the gun in her face and pulled the trigger.  
I don't know how she did it, but she manged to get free enough that bullet got the side of her face down by her jaw.  It was more than a graze, but not too 'deep'.  
She still has the scar there.  That's one of the ones you can see. 
We were lucky we got away.  My mom married a wonderful man (this is who I'm talking about when I talk about my dad) who never raised a hand in anger to her or the kids.  
Ok, enough for now.  
If anyone else wants to share about domestic violence please feel free.