Loners

It's partly a factor of her extroversion, but mostly a factor of her rather extreme adhd. She has no filters between her brain and her mouth; whatever is going on in there is coming out of her mouth, and it's often incoherent. I have finally learned how to hang up on her politely; I just say, "I've got to go; I love you, goodbye." Then hang up without waiting for her to go on for several more minutes saying goodbye because I have to go.

It's harder in person; I make appropriate sounds, and just let her go. When she wants a response at the end, either I was able to hang on to a main thread and say something, or I say, "I'm sorry. You completely lost me when you started talking about Y, and then jumped over to A, and then to P; I got confused and lost track of what you wanted me to know." It's useful, at this point, to be able to be "in my head," lol.

I've learned that it's usually not productive to actually have anything to say myself.