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In reply to the discussion: Do You Feel Gay Men Do Not Understand the Issues Facing Lesbians that May Be Different for Women? [View all]Tigress DEM
(7,887 posts)16. THESE aren't differences between gays and lesbians, but you list them that way.
But I do know what it is like to be denied a job, face violence, have laws used to deny my dignity, be verbally abused, etc.
Is there a difference between the struggles of gay men and women?
Yes, women can be denied a job simply because she's a woman.
AND a gay man can be denied a job simply because he's gay.
Women face violence in the form or rape and domestic violence at a higher ratio than men, that's true.
BUT gay men are hunted down and beaten by ignorant people and may tolerate abuse from a "spouse" in the same way women do.
Having laws used to deny your dignity? Where is there a difference? IF ANYONE is oppressed WE ARE ALL oppressed.
Women do NOT hold any corner on the market for being verbally abused ESPECIALLY when you are comparing them to gays who by being identified as closer to women than men in many cases get a DOUBLE dose of abuse.
I'm not saying that Lesbians don't get hurt differently.
I'm saying that it ISN'T a competition.
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Do You Feel Gay Men Do Not Understand the Issues Facing Lesbians that May Be Different for Women? [View all]
fightthegoodfightnow
Nov 2012
OP
I think you need to refocus on what can be agreed upon and maybe state what feels misunderstood.
Tigress DEM
Nov 2012
#5
THESE aren't differences between gays and lesbians, but you list them that way.
Tigress DEM
Nov 2012
#16
I am fortunate that I was able to express to her how I felt about her many years ago,
Scruffy Rumbler
Nov 2012
#41