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Aussie105

(7,434 posts)
17. Get another one!
Sat Nov 22, 2025, 04:03 AM
Yesterday

Seriously, quickest way to get past the grief.

Lost my son to Oxycontin, wife got two dogs who filled the hole.
They were from the same litter.
They both died, within 18 months of each other.

Wife says . . . no more dogs, we are too old.
But who bought their food, fed them, who walked them, who cleaned up after them, who took them to the vet when needed? (Not her)
Some solace in the thought they outlived their litter mates, some comfort in the thought I gave them the best life possible.

Hole in my heart for my son, my two dogs.
The holes are always there, and they will resurface. Recede, then flood back.

Tempted to visit the local pound and adopt a middle aged dog.
And thrive in the need to be needed.

One day . . .

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6 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

Not comparable, but been looking closely through old photo albums, elleng Yesterday #1
Photos of her appear on my phone. sprinkleeninow Yesterday #5
🫶🏾🕯️ blm Yesterday #2
Appreciated 💟 sprinkleeninow Yesterday #6
Awwww, Sprink... sending you cyber hugs! SheltieLover Yesterday #3
I've never been 'needy'. It's foreign to me. sprinkleeninow Yesterday #7
Sometimes we all need a helping hand, Sprink! SheltieLover Yesterday #8
There is one rescue adoption girl aways away in my state. sprinkleeninow Yesterday #10
Awwwww... SheltieLover Yesterday #15
I have a tendency geared toward perfectionism. Which can also be a negative. sprinkleeninow Yesterday #16
I can certainly relate to it being difficult without our planetary neighbors. SheltieLover Yesterday #24
''For dogs, love isn't about perfection.'' Donkees 23 hrs ago #31
Listen you your heart, dear one! Tanuki Yesterday #23
💧❤️ littlemissmartypants Yesterday #4
I'm sorry for your loss of your precious girl dog wendyb-NC Yesterday #9
Thank you much for your uplifting words, sharing your personal experiences. sprinkleeninow Yesterday #14
No words, just a big hug. LoisB Yesterday #11
I've been there, too, my friend. It's been over 2 years for me, but I still hurt when I think of my pup Rhiannon12866 Yesterday #12
I hate to say but coming from the heart oldmanlynn Yesterday #13
Get another one! Aussie105 Yesterday #17
Don't Know If It Will Help lavoosh99 Yesterday #18
I look at pictures of my dogs as puppies Aussie105 Yesterday #19
I worry about Muggles worrying after my wife and I are gone. marble falls Yesterday #28
My dogs are giant breed Keepthesoulalive Yesterday #20
Hugs to you friend. Duncanpup Yesterday #21
Green pastures, still waters Dear_Prudence Yesterday #22
Mourning a loved animal is so very, very hard. Give yourself as much time as you need. Timeflyer Yesterday #25
🫂😢🥰🐶🐾🕯️ QueerDuck Yesterday #26
Love carries risk and pain. Let love become the monument, not the pain. marble falls Yesterday #27
The more you loved your dog and the more your dog loved you the more it will hurt. Botany Yesterday #29
I understand how you feel. Still mourning my GSD who disappeared when I was 11. ms liberty Yesterday #30
My girl dog passed this past March too, her brother in September. dem4decades 22 hrs ago #32
My heart grieves with you, sprinkleenow Trueblue Texan 22 hrs ago #33
Sending much love and healing vibes to you, sprinkleeninow Grim Chieftain 22 hrs ago #34
here is a peom that might help a little Nigrum Cattus 21 hrs ago #35
You have to stop BWdem4life 19 hrs ago #36
It is hard to say goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote 19 hrs ago #37
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Aussie105 14 hrs ago #38
I am so very moved by the loving-kindness and wise words sprinkleeninow 14 hrs ago #39
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