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Bozvotros

(951 posts)
23. I hear you.
Wed Nov 5, 2025, 12:44 PM
Nov 5

Suffering with severe chronic pain and/or debilitating illness showing no signs of remittance can be unbearable, particularly when you have very limited support or finances and you can see how your suffering is affecting others you love. I strongly believe in people having the right to die and the ability to decide when life becomes too painful, burdensome and/or hopeless to go on. I cannot decide that point for anyone other than myself. I also believe there are fates worse than death, such as lingering in a coma with very limited signs of brain function or being too demented and confused to recognize or connect with loved ones or participate meaningfully in your own care. I made these and other conditions clear in a very specific advance directive or living well. I sent it to both of my sons and discussed it with both of them. It includes a statement that in the event my state approves euthanasia and I am unconscious or unable to participate in treatment and my condition is very unlikely to improve, I wish to avail myself of that service. They nearly had to make the call to withhold care when I fell into a coma a year and a half ago. I'm glad I made it out. My transplant came 8 months later. I hope you can let your husband and anyone else important to you, know how you feel and what you want. I'm hoping for you to get some relief soon and sending healing thoughts your way.

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Not doing well right now. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Nov 4 OP
(((hug))) and understanding the quandry Attilatheblond Nov 4 #1
Thanks. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #11
Hugs to you and healing vibes on the way to you and your husband SheltieLover Nov 4 #2
Thank you. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #12
Don't overthink. Worry about the things that need worrying, which are the things you can change, can improve. Bernardo de La Paz Nov 4 #3
The DU is the only outlet I have. OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #13
No apology needed. You want some mental health? FIND some pleasures. And beware of self-fulfilling prophecies. Bernardo de La Paz Nov 5 #19
I don't know what to say because nothing is adequate. Just know my heart goes out to you. Hugs. Srkdqltr Nov 4 #4
Thanks. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #14
The struggle is real for so many. pandr32 Nov 4 #5
Thank you. OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #15
I truly wish you much better health in the future. Maraya1969 Nov 4 #6
Thank you. OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #16
I care and I'm sure many others here do too. Bozvotros Nov 4 #7
"For every step towards getting better there seemed to be two more setting me back." OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #17
I hear you. Bozvotros Nov 5 #23
If you and hubby are on the same Obama care plan questionseverything Nov 4 #8
No, his insurance comes from his employer. OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #18
This is exactly how the bastards want us to feel. Irish_Dem Nov 4 #9
You understand that, for me, 'the bastards' are the rich in this country. OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #20
You are worth more than the whole damn power elite combined. Irish_Dem Nov 5 #22
Which, unfortunately, doesn't help me one bit. OldBaldy1701E Nov 6 #25
Big hugs to you both, Dalton. summer_in_TX Nov 5 #10
Thanks. OldBaldy1701E Nov 5 #21
While I expect things to get worse, I do have hope summer_in_TX Nov 5 #24
You have worth and your life is worth living biophile Nov 6 #27
Well, that is one of the issues. OldBaldy1701E Nov 6 #29
Find a place that has a hyperbaric chamber for wounds. Historic NY Nov 6 #26
Damnation !!!! Karadeniz Nov 6 #28
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