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Sparkly

(24,561 posts)
Tue Jan 28, 2025, 02:02 AM Jan 2025

Guilt [View all]

Many days, I feel awful for feeling awful. I feel weak for being weak. I feel wrong for having something wrong with me.

I've felt guilt for incapacity, and have apologized for whining that I'm tired, things hurt, I need to rest, or even plainly that I have other, important priorities right now. The more time passes, the more I want to hoard my time, and the more I feel guilt for it.

On the other side, I feel guilt for people mourning the death they know is coming, and the knowing they will live without me. I'm seeking support to get through this -- because surely this must be normal? Like, I feel badly to see the people around me in pain because I am going to die, and they will have to adjust and live without me, and what will next year be like if I don't make it that far, etc...

Don't get me wrong -- I love how much they love me! But on another level, I feel I'm letting them down, somehow. It doesn't have to be rational -- it just is. I can't be the only one who's felt this way, so if anyone knows of a book, a group, anything helpful about this, I'd really appreciate it! Thanks in advance.

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Guilt [View all] Sparkly Jan 2025 OP
I wish I had some truly helpful answers, or at least suggestions, for you, niyad Jan 2025 #1
That is exactly what I need -- thank you! Sparkly Jan 2025 #2
You are most welcome. I am often up late ( this is not late), if you need niyad Jan 2025 #3
I felt similar with my family after my heart episode blm Jan 2025 #4
Thank you. Sparkly Jan 2025 #7
Please don't feel guilty. Frasier Balzov Jan 2025 #5
That perspective is reality, as well. Sparkly Jan 2025 #8
Some Thoughts PikaBlue Jan 2025 #6
WOW - thank you so very much for this!! Sparkly Jan 2025 #9
I love you, Sparkly XanaDUer2 Jan 2025 #10
I love you back Sparkly Jan 2025 #12
I do not know if this is helpful at all but the process of my mom's Maraya1969 Jan 2025 #11
I think I know what you mean Sparkly Jan 2025 #13
I am so sorry this haunts you purr-rat beauty Feb 11 #14
Thank you. Sparkly Feb 13 #15
Checking in, how are you? purr-rat beauty Feb 28 #16
Kind of you to ask, thank you. Sparkly Mar 1 #17
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