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justiceischeap

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2. IMO, when anyone dismisses your conversation

Reply to MadrasT (Original post)

Fri Feb 10, 2012, 12:14 PM

Feb 2012

by bringing tone into it, what they're really saying is they don't want to listen and getting them to see your point is going to be near impossible, no matter how you couch the conversation.

When someone says, "I refuse to deal with anyone who expresses herself that disrespectfully," they're telling you, one, they don't care to hear what she's saying or two, they know what she is saying is true but refuses to analyze their possible role in it.

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The "tone argument" [View all] MadrasT Feb 2012 OP

That is another good one. boston bean Feb 2012 #1

IMO, when anyone dismisses your conversation justiceischeap Feb 2012 #2

what I do Whisp Feb 2012 #3

The problem is that these folks are our bosses, partners, family members, HOA presidents, etc. yardwork Feb 2012 #12

you are tired of it? think how gd tired i am of it living it a lifetime. YOU dont want to hear it? seabeyond Feb 2012 #4

... redqueen Feb 2012 #6

+1 n/t Sera_Bellum Feb 2012 #7

Ignore them or ask them to deal with the material and stop whining about the tone. redqueen Feb 2012 #5

+1 n/t Sera_Bellum Feb 2012 #8

It's code for "I'm never going to support your point of view". Starry Messenger Feb 2012 #9

A man said exactly that to me recently. yardwork Feb 2012 #11

Ouch, I don't think I've ever encountered it in person. Starry Messenger Feb 2012 #15

Oh, the TONE excuse. That one makes my blood boil. yardwork Feb 2012 #10

even when we are self-confident but not forceful we are perceived as bitchy, pushy, etc seabeyond Feb 2012 #13

Exactly. Too forceful? Bitch. Too gentle? Wimp. These are all excuses to avoid communicating with us yardwork Feb 2012 #14

not up to saying much myself just now iverglas Feb 2012 #16

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Feb 2012 #17

I appreciate all your replies MadrasT Feb 2012 #18