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seabeyond

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11. i think a writer needs to get past the concern of defeminizing and this is why...
Sat Feb 4, 2012, 01:28 PM
Feb 2012

when that is in the back of the mind, then conditions of what is feminine is forefront. and that is where the writing gets contaminated.

but if you stay true to the character of the woman, then she cannot be unfeminine simply for the fact she is woman and feminine.

i am very aggressive, some gals have said intimidating and i don't try at all nor want to be. in so many ways i perceive myself as not feminine just from the definitions of what feminism is. years ago i had said something to my mother about not being and she corrected me right away that just was not true. the essence of who i am is very much feminine.

years later, without thinking about this, i had said something to a man about not really being feminine (the defined perspective) and he corrected me immediately, telling me it was not so. absolutely wrong. he is just a male friend, hubbys best friend, very male, repug, fox news watching. we often talk about the gender issues. so not about making me feel good.

it just is not something i am concerned with so never really thought much about it. but, it told me that wherever the feel of feminine comes from, it is not about strong, aggressive, competent women, regardless of what we are being told.

interesting post.

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You bring up a very good point. Justice wanted Feb 2012 #1
I have a problem with fiction in general justiceischeap Feb 2012 #2
I know exactly what you mean. It isn't just heroes it has been in movies since they started. Justice wanted Feb 2012 #3
i stopped reading in the 80's cause of the protrayals of women seabeyond Feb 2012 #7
i read a new author kindle book and loved it. truly a kick ass main female character seabeyond Feb 2012 #5
since getting a kindle, i have received a lot of free or cheap books from new authors. seabeyond Feb 2012 #4
I just think it's sad justiceischeap Feb 2012 #6
Some Thoughts From a Writer kurt_cagle Feb 2012 #8
Your book sounds interesting and something I'd probably like reading justiceischeap Feb 2012 #9
Rescue kurt_cagle Feb 2012 #12
love this. and this is what i was thinking reading thru this thread. seabeyond Feb 2012 #14
I totally get that fiction is not real life and often real life is quite boring justiceischeap Feb 2012 #15
Ah yes, the Unholy Triangle kurt_cagle Feb 2012 #17
except you and i are seeing ourselves about the same, and over time and experience, conclude about seabeyond Feb 2012 #13
i think a writer needs to get past the concern of defeminizing and this is why... seabeyond Feb 2012 #11
Yeah, sadly it isn't even surprising to me. redqueen Feb 2012 #10
Caricatures kurt_cagle Feb 2012 #16
I generally base my characters off real people, but tone them down. ZombieHorde Feb 2012 #18
So interesting libodem Feb 2012 #19
Are you a reader? Are you a feminist? If so, you have something to add to the conversation justiceischeap Feb 2012 #20
Yes, I love to read libodem Feb 2012 #21
that is a fun series. stopped reading about 12, 13. seabeyond Feb 2012 #23
I would just like to add this to the thread. Lunacee2012 Feb 2012 #22
It happens with a lot of female writers too justiceischeap Feb 2012 #24
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