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LWolf

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34. To be honest,
Sat Dec 9, 2017, 05:35 PM
Dec 2017

I really don't like business suits, "power" or other. I don't feel more respect for a man because he's wearing a suit and tie; I tend to trust him less.

Of course, I also don't really relate, at all, to the general fashion sense and values of my species. For me, clothing is supposed to be functional, not a billboard to send a message. I like clothes that are clean, in good repair, fit decently, AND ARE FUCKING COMFORTABLE.

So, as a woman, a professional woman, I don't own any suits. I dress pretty casually for day to day work. My normal day includes both presentations, desk work, and more physical work, some indoors and some outdoors. I put up and take down displays. I rearrange furniture. I carry supplies up and down two flights of stairs. I organize outdoor activities. If the people I'm presenting to pay more attention to what I'm wearing than what I'm saying, they've got a values problem; at least, the adult portion of my audiences do.

Yet, I know that I'm an outlier. That the vast majority of the population DOES judge people in part by what they wear, and by cultural norms for fashion. I'm getting away with stepping outside that narrow little box because my experience carries weight, and because I don't care, and am confident about my performance, I have a presence that people see in spite of whether or not I wear a power suit.

Is a suit mandatory? Can you dress "professionally" in something other than a suit? Or do you just like suits?

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Having been a professional for over 30 years Betsy Ross Jun 2012 #1
It has been over 15 years since I've been in the market, but agree maddezmom Jun 2012 #5
I work at home, so normally I don't need power suits. kdmorris Jun 2012 #7
Talbot's, but it's hit or miss. yardwork Jun 2012 #11
Penney's can be good but only online and only if you're just out of college and broke Warpy Sep 2017 #28
It is really difficult to find one obamanut2012 Jun 2012 #2
The label to look for at Penney's is Worthington Warpy Jun 2012 #3
big white orthopedic clods for me too libodem Jun 2012 #8
Reeboks or New Balance for me Warpy Jun 2012 #9
I like both of those too libodem Jun 2012 #15
Your toes emcalcuadrado May 2017 #23
Try Brooks Brothers. elleng Jun 2012 #4
Pendleton usually has some good suits NV Whino Jun 2012 #6
I know. It infuriates me. yardwork Jun 2012 #10
Brooks brothers JustAnotherGen Jun 2012 #12
So there's a market for them? Good to know! Neoma Jun 2012 #13
For stuff like that LadyHawkAZ Jun 2012 #14
I used to buy one good suit each year in part because it was so much damn work to find one. Gormy Cuss Jun 2012 #16
I've thought about getting a men's suit and tie RainDog Jun 2012 #17
Spam deleted by pinto (MIR Team) leung Sep 2012 #22
Good Power Suits are effing expensive no matter the gender. stevenleser Jun 2012 #18
Yeah, I noticed that, even with all those suits kdmorris Jun 2012 #19
I think there is some sort of rule that no matter how much money you make, the suits that are stevenleser Jun 2012 #20
That happened at my first job... Neoma Jun 2012 #21
same clinton_2020 Jul 2017 #24
I have my conservative interview suit drmeow Sep 2017 #25
Banana Republic carries a lot of petite career wear bettyellen Sep 2017 #29
I bitched about this for 15 years until I quit and decided on jeans. raven mad Sep 2017 #26
I live in NM where the summers are hellishly hot (although not as bad as Phoenix) Warpy Sep 2017 #30
LOL! Warpy, I AM a geriatric hippie - raven mad Sep 2017 #31
Here's my tip MLAA Sep 2017 #27
Is there any reason you couldn't fit a men's suit and have it tailored? forgotmylogin Sep 2017 #32
lots of retired people KT2000 Sep 2017 #33
To be honest, LWolf Dec 2017 #34
That's a good point. CrispyQ Aug 2018 #36
Find a good seamstress. It will be worth it in the long run. CrispyQ Aug 2018 #35
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