Men's Group

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As I said in a different post, it's possible to waste all sorts of time deconstructing how much of our behavior is supposed to be clockwork, and how much orange, that sort of thing. Or whether there is a kernel of selfishness in all altruism, etc.

I'm more of the strain of thought of, people like what they like, if they're all consenting adults and not hurting each other, who am I to judge? My personal, totally subjective take on the matter is that sex (for instance) is better with someone with whom there is an emotional connection, good communication, all that. And as someone who had their share of one night stands back in the day, I can say that it often takes time to suss out what another person likes & dislikes. I've been married, and faithful to, the same person for over a decade-- I don't say this because I think "everyone ought to do this and it's better for everyone", but for me it certainly is.

And it doesn't preclude me -or my wife- from finding other people physically attractive, either. We're grown ups, we can deal with that, and merely finding someone else "hot" is not the same thing (sorry, Jesus) as running out and having sex with them.