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22. Ha ha, yes. Maybe if you're a gym rat it'll work. But it's like the beach, women are often a bit

Thu Jan 31, 2013, 09:19 PM

Jan 2013

more guarded because with less or tighter clothing, you get much more frequent creeping. And really nice guys can forget and stare a bit too long or frequently than comfortable, I think because they're doing something boring and repetitive and you get in a thoughtless zone. Unfair or not, we notice this stuff. So yeah, not the best place.
But both the women who work out and the women that work there constantly talk about who's creeping, because someone almost always is. I dated someone who went to the same gym, and after we ended it, he was pretty stalky. He was so stealthy it was concerned employees who first pointed it out to me. I had thought it was weird how frequently I was running into him other places, but if they hadn't told me they noticed, I would have chalked it up to coincidence. It got to be so unpleasant I just stopped going.

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So, why are all of the women I meet out of my league? And usually unavailable. [View all] Denninmi Jan 2013 OP

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Dude, I suggest you self delete, now ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #2

Yeah, you are SO going to get an alert on this one. Denninmi Jan 2013 #4

it worked for the '83 White Sox. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #10

This could be worded better. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #5

The first thing you need to do is drop that attitude ProudToBeBlueInRhody Jan 2013 #3

Volunteer, and forget the gym as a place for meeting women. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #6

You're probably too honest. AnotherMcIntosh Jan 2013 #7

wish you the best. seabeyond Jan 2013 #8

Well, a serious relationship would be nice. Denninmi Jan 2013 #9

I think socialization in general once you get into your 40s gets more challenging. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #11

use the internet plus you may be trying to play in the wrong leaugue. loli phabay Jan 2013 #12

Most women will not approach you and ask you for a date. Dash87 Jan 2013 #13

Join groups. Meet ups. Springslips Jan 2013 #14

Don't think about "Leagues" at all. klook Jan 2013 #15

What are your interests? loose wheel Jan 2013 #16

Christ, man, I'd think the cooking *alone* would make you some friends. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #17

Hey guys, thanks again. Denninmi Jan 2013 #18

I'm sure you realize it's probably better to start with someone who's more available- Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #19

please don't be that guy who stares *keeps noticing* particular girls in the gym bettyellen Jan 2013 #20

The gym sucks as a place to meet people. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #21

Ha ha, yes. Maybe if you're a gym rat it'll work. But it's like the beach, women are often a bit bettyellen Jan 2013 #22

I've noticed that the *noticing* is not confined to any particular gender, myself. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #24

GUYS, you are absolutely the best. Denninmi Feb 2013 #25

Just wanted to add that I posted the warning about the gym bettyellen Feb 2013 #23