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Funny thing though; as well as being a feminist to the core, I like to be tied up and beaten. I have never in my life been abused, raped, or suffered any kind of sexual (or indeed non-sexual) trauma. I am not in any way mentally ill. I also enjoy tying up men and beating them. They aren't mentally damaged either. So where do these perverted desires come from? Am I a bad person because of the things I enjoy? Well according to your article and one sided, sensationalist opinions, it would seem so.

As many posters have already indicated, what we do in private for pleasure has no bearing on how people govern their relationships, and govern themselves in their jobs. We have theoretically stopped discriminating on race, on sexual orientation (apparently you can be gay, just don't be kinky?) and religion. And yet, when it comes to other aspects of sexuality, this passes as acceptable and reasoned discourse? This is sophistry and rhetoric; arguments and facts twisted to make an ideological point with no reference to facts, research or statistics.

I already addressed the distinction between fantasy and reality. Are there some sick people in BDSM? Of course there are - in exactly the same probabilistic distribution there are in any other random sampling of society. Brown *might* be one of them, but a feminist painting BDSM practitioners with the "you're a sicko misogynist" brush is no better than any man painting women with the "you should be in the kitchen" brush. Do you really want to lose all your progress as a feminist by indulging in the very kind of discrimination you want to see abolished?