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Iris

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15. No - the tradition was the groom asked the father for permission

Reply to ProudToBeBlueInRhody (Reply #14)

Fri Oct 31, 2014, 10:14 PM

Oct 2014

Now, though, I think you're right. The emphasis is on surprise but it just seems weird to me, as a woman, to want a surprise like that. My husband and I knew we would get married and talked about it all the time. A surprise proposal would have been contrived. I just don't get it.

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I wasn't given the chance... Veilex Oct 2014 #1

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Nah. Inkfreak Oct 2014 #2

I thought most men sat down with both parents now ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #3

Where's the woman in that scenario? Iris Oct 2014 #11

I don't understand ProudToBeBlueInRhody Oct 2014 #12

yes. Where's the bride? Iris Oct 2014 #13

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No - the tradition was the groom asked the father for permission Iris Oct 2014 #15

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I didn't, for a few reasons fishwax Oct 2014 #4

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They're both in their early 40's and never married Sen. Walter Sobchak Oct 2014 #8

It seems strange at that age. Jenoch Oct 2014 #9

Uhh... No Sen. Walter Sobchak Oct 2014 #10

This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Nov 2014 #16