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TM99

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11. I see that permissiveness to the extreme

Sun Mar 2, 2014, 09:12 AM

Mar 2014

not only professionally but personally. My 7 year old nephew sounds exactly like yours. I visited my family for an extended trip just last fall, and I spent a great deal of time with him. He could not sit still without an iPad or PSP. He was absolutely weird about food. He had no boundaries. He was horribly inappropriate.

Self-esteem, in my opinion, must take into account our bodies not just our minds. Feeling and looking good are not 'bad' in and of themselves. Taken to either extreme again, well, yes, it does lead to eating disorders and the like.

I definitely agree that normal is just fine. We can't all be 'special' and by pushing that unhealthy ideal, we increase the psychological stress we place on children today.

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How to Talk to Little Girls [View all] Blue_Adept Feb 2014 OP

Such an important point, not sure why it's in the men's group. enough Feb 2014 #1

Well... Blue_Adept Feb 2014 #2

I think that dads will be the first to agree with this. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2014 #12

I definitely do not disagree with what she proposes. TM99 Feb 2014 #3

Some of the girls my daughter goes to school with are already having surgical augmentations Major Nikon Feb 2014 #4

I know I am going to sound horribly old-fashioned TM99 Feb 2014 #5

I don't understand it Major Nikon Feb 2014 #6

Some never do no matter what their age. TM99 Feb 2014 #7

Agree. n/t lumberjack_jeff Mar 2014 #13

Just say "NO!" Behind the Aegis Feb 2014 #8

I see that permissiveness to the extreme TM99 Mar 2014 #11

Talk to them so they grow up like this: libodem Feb 2014 #9

Good advice for talking to ALL kids: Don't talk to them like they're idiots. Warren DeMontague Feb 2014 #10