Men's Group

Feminism is advocacy for women, period. The social changes supported by feminism are all in service to that goal. In some cases, benefit to men is an incidental side effect.

If the author wasn't Bobby's mom, this topic would be as immaterial to her experience as it is to feminism generally, and she wouldn't feel the need to make this plea to her fellow feminists on his behalf.

I'll believe that feminism is about "equality" or "abolishing gender roles" when I see NOW complaining about the "workplace injury gap" or the "hours spent on the job" gap or "the suicide gap" or the "draft registration gap".

The author of the piece you linked is treading perilously close to "getting it" and therefore being castigated for cuddling up to third wave feminists and their MRA allies.

Reaching equality doesn’t just mean finding ways for women to both parent and have careers but also asking men to both have careers and parent as well. Reaching equality doesn’t simply mean giving women the option to work rather than stay home with their children but rather offering men the same option as well, and with the same expectations and acceptance.
We talk a lot about the pay gap. Well, it strikes me that if a manager has the choice between promoting a man or a woman, and he knows that there is a decent chance that sometime in the next few years the woman may have children and at the very least have to take maternity leave, but that the man’s performance and presence will not be affected if he has children, then the rational choice is for him to promote the man. Because of this, I don’t think we can get rid of the pay gap until we expect fathers to invest the same amount of time and energy into parenting that we expect mothers to invest in parenting. If that same manager looks at the man and the woman knowing that if either has a child their performance and presence will be impacted the same way – parental leave after the birth, and perhaps a need for more flexible hours afterwards – he will no longer have any reason to prefer the man to the woman when it comes to a promotion.

I'd add that another big cause of the pay gap is not just that he's expected to go to work to support the family, but expected to go to work regardless of the personal danger, stress, risk or ethical compromise required.