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lumberjack_jeff

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21. Is mutual agreement necessary?

Reply to Major Nikon (Reply #20)

Thu Sep 26, 2013, 07:27 PM

Sep 2013

If he wants to stay home to parent the kid(s) should she be able to veto that? Should he be able to compel her to leave the baby at home and go to work?

Every happy relationship seeks some sort of equilibrium, but I'm intrigued about the implications of what you just said.

e.g. He can stay home if they both agree, while she should have the choice of going to work.

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Interesting article on benevolent sexism [View all] Major Nikon Sep 2013 OP

In my view, promoting femininity and feminine qualities, ie, nurturing, is the ultimate in feminism grahamhgreen Sep 2013 #1

The key word is "expecting" Major Nikon Sep 2013 #4

I disagree. Equality should mean something. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2013 #5

Equal, yes. But I don't think that women should be forced to act like men or dress like men or grahamhgreen Sep 2013 #10

A good female welder must dress similarly to a good male welder. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2013 #12

Similar.... grahamhgreen Sep 2013 #14

I've had sparks down the neck of my shirt. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2013 #15

You are clearly not getting pscot Sep 2013 #2

"Benevolent Sexism" is a made up phrase rrneck Sep 2013 #3

I think it's an observable phenomenon Major Nikon Sep 2013 #6

It's certainly observable. rrneck Sep 2013 #7

Another thought... rrneck Sep 2013 #9

I fully agree. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2013 #8

I think a lot of that all sort of evens out, though.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Sep 2013 #11

Ironworkers make good money for exactly that reason. lumberjack_jeff Sep 2013 #13

I have a fundamental problem with most of these articles and discussions... TreasonousBastard Sep 2013 #16

Not biologically equal, but there's plenty that can be done otherwise Major Nikon Sep 2013 #18

That's my point... TreasonousBastard Sep 2013 #19

I don't see the problem with that arrangement if both parties agree Major Nikon Sep 2013 #20

Is mutual agreement necessary? lumberjack_jeff Sep 2013 #21

If either one decides unilaterally, there's likely to be conflict Major Nikon Sep 2013 #22

I have a fundamental problem with most of these articles and discussions... TreasonousBastard Sep 2013 #16