Maryland

my son is now 32, but when he was 5, all i knew was that he was super smart, super shy, and had a sense of fairness that was gonna clash hard against the bureaucracy.
we ended up homeschooling, something he blames for his ongoing social ills. but at the time aspie was not even a thing.
even 10 years later, when his sister's teacher was working on her master teacher in gifted certification, we talk about the fact that there were a lot of other kids like him. but there was still not a recognition that these kids were on the spectrum.
he has never been tested, but from everything i know, i would bet money he is on the spectrum.

i hope they are doing a better job of that now, but i doubt it.
they need a whole different system than kids who are smart but normal.
bottom line, tho, is that we need to recognize that smart kids need different learning environments, just like kids on the other end of the bell curve. and should be entitled to it.
but yeah, that there is a snake pit of an argument.