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nocoincidences

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9. Knowing those moments when the bald truth is really not appropriate,

Reply to debm55 (Original post)

Thu Nov 20, 2025, 06:25 PM

Thursday

is an art.

Ex. Do these pants make my butt look big?

Being right is not always the correct response.

It's winning the battle or winning the war. Choose carefully.

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Should you always tell the truth, even if it makes things awkward? [View all] debm55 Thursday OP

Yes, always. Aviation Pro Thursday #1

Thank you very much, Aviation Pro, I agree with your statement. debm55 Thursday #2

I think honesty is usually the best path unless it can causes hurt that serves no purpose. walkingman Thursday #3

if you can't say something good don't say anything at all. rampartd Thursday #10

I always side with telling the truth Grim Chieftain Thursday #4

Well, don't lie. Full truth is not always necessary if bad feelings will likely result among family, etc. No Vested Interest Thursday #5

Being truthful is important.... anciano Thursday #6

Nobody likes being lied to. Dorothy V Thursday #7

Someone told me many years ago, and I carry it to this day JMCKUSICK Thursday #8

That is so true. zanana1 Yesterday #13

Knowing those moments when the bald truth is really not appropriate, nocoincidences Thursday #9

I never lie about anything JoseBalow Yesterday #11

I don't know any more! True Dough Yesterday #12

The truth can be an insult. zanana1 Yesterday #14

Yes. a white lie or not saying saying anything. But when does the "truth" step into gaslighting? debm55 Yesterday #15

I support Kurt Vonnegut's concept of "foma" - harmless untruths. Aristus Yesterday #16

But if it not true, is it not a lie? debm55 Yesterday #17

Probably not, but I do anyway. malthaussen Yesterday #18

Thank you very much malthaussen. Sometimes the truth will out. but sometimes it doesn't debm55 Yesterday #20

my experience is that truth is always best mike_c Yesterday #19