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Warpy

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21. Youth is wasted on the young

Sat Jul 19, 2025, 02:50 PM

Jul 19

and your son has no clue in the world how wrenching it is to let go of the main part of your life and leap into the unknown when you're over 70. It doesn't matter that the house is too big and hard to clean or that significant health problems mean we need help available. It's letting go of our lives a step at a time and we know it.

I did that 3 years ago. I needed to let go of a life that didn't fit me any more. That didn't make it any easier and it certainly didn't make that "new beginning" bullshit younger people spew at us fit in the least. We're starting to wind things up and we know it.

After 3 years, I'm getting used to the downsizing. I always knew it was necessary, I just didn't like it much.

Your son doesn't understand any of this, how could he? You do get to tell him to knock it off, there's only so much clueless cheer a person can be expected to take.

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Today is my 77th. birthday. It's pouring rain. They're holding an open house today as I [View all] sinkingfeeling Jul 19 OP

It's hard to let go of our homes SheltieLover Jul 19 #1

Well... 2naSalit Jul 19 #2

((sinking)) blm Jul 19 #3

In spite of it all, Happy birthday sinking! bronxiteforever Jul 19 #4

It's okay to grieve. mwmisses4289 Jul 19 #5

Transitions are hard Tesha Jul 19 #6

Just consider it your justaprogressive Jul 19 #7

Happy Birthday and remember..ya can't have rainbows without the rain. You're gonna be just fine 🌺 Deuxcents Jul 19 #8

Happy Birthday, sinkingfeeling. Best of luck on your new journey. debm55 Jul 19 #9

Happy Birthday 🎂 underpants Jul 19 #10

Happy Birthday, sinkingfeeling! gademocrat7 Jul 19 #11

Wishing you happy birthday! pandr32 Jul 19 #12

Understand your sadness Picaro Jul 19 #13

Amen to that Picaro popsdenver Jul 19 #18

((sinking)) irisblue Jul 19 #14

Wow, talk about working through several of life's moments together. Biophilic Jul 19 #15

huggggggs. So much going on for you, it is not surprising that you are depressed. niyad Jul 19 #16

Last year I had to move from a house from 1969 where I raised my whole family. appleannie1 Jul 19 #17

Hey sinkingfeeling popsdenver Jul 19 #19

Happy Birthday! New adventures coming your way. Doesn't make it any easier to leave what you know. Solly Mack Jul 19 #20

Youth is wasted on the young Warpy Jul 19 #21

You stated a whole book in 5 short sentences. I feel your sadness and share the same with you. peacebuzzard Jul 19 #22