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jfz9580m

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63. I didn't used to
Thu Nov 13, 2025, 10:26 AM
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Then 14 years ago, I had a really shitty rubbish ;-/ job and found stress relief in swearing a lot and then it just stayed that way. (My mentor and his wife were decent-at least they were legitimately elite. The students were mostly mediocre douchebags who needed to be told to get over themselves.
You have to be blunt about these things.

In the future elites will need a lot of forgiveness and mediocre, elite-adjacent types will get way less than elites. As solidarity is the actually intelligent survival strategy of the non-elite or even the better elites. I had an elite mentor but was also civilized.
They thought I was “crazy” simply for being evolved enough to be disgusted. Thankfully they had me see a genuinely decent and civilized psychiatrist and therapist outside their sleazy school.
I have some sympathy for elites who are decent. Look at Dr Fauci. Being elite is not easy when you are decent since most so called elites are neither elite nor civilized and you can’t help knowing them you are elite. A problem we rabble will never face. I was very sympathetic to Dr Fauci. He was the best type of elite and they have to hard. )

I can no longer discuss some things, the tech industry (Google/Facebook/Musk/Palantir etc) for instance, without profanity. I am never rude or snarky to DUers and in fact even edited a mildly snippy post from a few days back. Public figures though are fair game in my book since I will never be in the same room with them .

I try to rein it in for different reasons than those you mentioned though luv2fly. Social media and the industries I consider a tumor on society cash in on anything spectacular or clickbaity - something I do disapprove of. Conflict, drama, theatre etc drive engagement of the lowest common denominator kind and I want those industries (reality tv, influencing etc) to die. So being the change even though in a different context works for me. DU is an old school message board. My hope is that only boards like these-much closer to the old web-survive AI. Social media, influencing etc should die except for celebrities/politicians/journalists and people who cannot be anonymous as that’s the nature of those professions.
I never want the irl and online worlds to blur. That’s what got us here.

Another dynamic of the web or of hostile and unprofessional workplaces I hate is mobbing/gossip. I never liked it even wrt causes I support. I take on anyone solo myself to avoid the dynamics of bullying. One person, their sanity and their rights they get from the state (which are not subject to popularity contests) and navigating stupid newer contexts as best as one can . I hate the dynamics of bullying. Besides it is craven. I am anonymous because only really annoying people are out there for no reason. But not to harass like keyboard bullies.

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