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Bettie

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15. Me too! My DH and my boys love me the way I am

Tue Jul 29, 2025, 04:27 PM

Jul 29

I am thinking about coloring my hair, because I don't like the halfway gray thing. When it goes all the way, it will be fine, but until it gets there, I'll either do bright colors or go to an actual salon and have them give me back my very dark brown color.

I also dare to not be thin. I'm fat. I look like my grandfather's sisters, after they had kids. I've had four full term pregnancies, I'm never going to be a size zero, since I've never been that anyway. I'm a big boned, tall, broad shouldered woman. I've never been dainty or tiny. I exercise, not to lose weight, but to maintain my mobility as I age.

Makeup is a thing that if I feel like I need to wear it for a function (my middle son is going to be getting married soon, so I'll probably slap some on for that occasion) I have to purchase it new, since my old stuff is either dried up or separated or whatever.

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Jamie Lee Curtis says there has been a "genocide of a generation of women by the cosmeceutical industrial complex" [View all] Just_Vote_Dem Jul 29 OP

Men teach their own sons (by example) to ignore women over a certain age, excepting their own mothers (usually)... hlthe2b Jul 29 #1

This message was self-deleted by its author BannonsLiver Jul 29 #32

That is so true. I hate being invisible. LisaM Jul 29 #36

I love being invisible. Demobrat Jul 29 #42

Every time I say it, someone says how great it is. That bothers me LisaM Jul 29 #47

You're right Lisa. It sucks when we share a vulnerability, something which Maru Kitteh Jul 29 #59

same Skittles Jul 29 #53

It took me a while until I realised that being invisible GenThePerservering Jul 29 #55

I like being invisible but sometimes I still get noticed and I get upset. kimbutgar Jul 29 #58

Fortunately the Internet is a cornucopia of women supporting each other TheProle Jul 29 #40

Yes, right. NT GenThePerservering Jul 29 #56

I have never had any kind of cosmetic surgery Jilly_in_VA Jul 29 #2

Ha! You sound exactly like me! senseandsensibility Jul 29 #3

My Wife Doesn't Either ProfessorGAC Jul 29 #9

Me too! My DH and my boys love me the way I am Bettie Jul 29 #15

that's something I learned a long time ago Skittles Jul 29 #29

I'm still coming to terms with aging Bettie Jul 29 #31

One thing about getting older is less interest in what other people think Ritabert Jul 29 #4

I have a dear friend I've known almost 50 years. She and her sister were the two most attractive women Deuxcents Jul 29 #5

Wow that's a shame. Ritabert Jul 29 #6

It really is. The push to look the way the newest trend is has been a big marketing blow to many people Deuxcents Jul 29 #10

And permanent eyeliner and lip liner are a real mistake Ritabert Jul 29 #37

The comments I read regarding women not coloring their hair anymore is so frustrating and sad oregonjen Jul 29 #7

That's terrible that support groups are needed senseandsensibility Jul 29 #8

Let's apply positives, let's call women distinguished. . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Jul 29 #13

I've always had very dark hair Bettie Jul 29 #16

I think mid stage looks so cool! oregonjen Jul 29 #18

I occasionally use a temporary color Bettie Jul 29 #21

I gave it up due to maintenance on the roots Ritabert Jul 29 #38

Me too Unwind Your Mind Jul 29 #46

Wow. You lucked out. Ritabert Jul 30 #63

I stopped coloring my hair during Covid Mossfern Jul 29 #45

Same here. My hairdresser was terrific & I went to her for about 35 years. Great auburn color... Hekate Jul 30 #61

About the eye thing ..... Mossfern Jul 30 #62

I stopped dying my hair in 2008, I thought if men can let their hair become gray MagickMuffin Jul 29 #22

Sometimes, I'm tempted to put "low lights" in my silver hair WhiteTara Jul 29 #34

I have the opposite problem BigmanPigman Jul 29 #43

Is it me? SocialDemocrat61 Jul 29 #11

Killing the spirit, at least partially, on such a large scale is, at least partially, a genocide of sorts. Bernardo de La Paz Jul 29 #14

The pressure to be very thin is also Bettie Jul 29 #25

Very true SocialDemocrat61 Jul 29 #51

don't care for the word genocide here Skittles Jul 29 #12

To pushback a bit, it's the societal pressure that women face to look as young as possible oregonjen Jul 29 #17

well I guess that pressure never worked on me and many others Skittles Jul 29 #20

It's everywhere in the media oregonjen Jul 29 #23

no one says you have to pay attention to it Skittles Jul 29 #26

Of course, you're right, I'm trying to teach my kids that. oregonjen Jul 29 #28

EXCELLENT Skittles Jul 29 #30

Probably because it's the wrong word. maxsolomon Jul 29 #49

Joan Rivers died during surgery Mossfern Jul 29 #52

Laryngoscopy I see maxsolomon Jul 29 #60

Women (and men) for as long as there have been women and men have obsessed over physical appearance ToxMarz Jul 29 #19

She says she means it's "disfigurement" -- in that case she should bloody well say so Hekate Jul 29 #24

There are procedures that are less invasive that may be better. To me, many woman celebs who get them look maybe twodogsbarking Jul 29 #27

There is a saying: you can either look old or look weird. Still I believe jrthin Jul 29 #33

What will be biologically possible in the future Johonny Jul 29 #35

Stealing "cosmeceutical industrial complex". I have long pointed out niyad Jul 29 #39

Recommended. H2O Man Jul 29 #41

I wore makeup occasionally in a very brief period as a new lawyer - Ms. Toad Jul 29 #44

I've thought Jamie Lee Curtis was beautiful... appmanga Jul 29 #48

I disagree with the use of the word Luciferous Jul 29 #50

I had to quit coloring my hair about 5yrs ago. I developed a very bad allergic Raine Jul 29 #54

I've had one plastic surgery procedure and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. 3catwoman3 Jul 29 #57