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brer cat

(26,983 posts)
Thu May 29, 2025, 09:49 PM May 29

I have been diagnosed with breast cancer (Invasive Lobular Carcenoma)

The good news is that it was caught early and there are no indications that it has spread. I met with an oncologist today, and she said we would wait until after surgery to decide on radiation and chemotherapy. She did start me on hormone therapy.

I feel ok both physically and emotionally. My main concern is for my family: my daughter and granddaughters who now have another close family member with cancer, and also my older sister/housemate who depends on me for a lot of assistance and who is undergoing testing for possible multiple myeloma. My oldest sister died in March from pancreatic cancer; there is simply a limit to how much we can deal with so close together.

In recent months, I have been dealing with dramatic changes to my vision due to macular degeneration. Tbh, I have been far more upset about my vision loss that I am with the cancer diagnosis. That may change when a surgeon starts working on me, but for now, I am very optimistic.

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I have been diagnosed with breast cancer (Invasive Lobular Carcenoma) (Original Post) brer cat May 29 OP
That is a lot to deal with. I'm sorry, brer cat. Hoping for the very best. Solly Mack May 29 #1
Thank you, Solly. brer cat May 29 #2
Please keep us posted. A sense of humor helps a lot. Solly Mack May 29 #10
You are so right about humor. When my mother brer cat May 29 #12
Sending you strength and healing! yardwork May 29 #3
A lot going on and awfully fast in your life. Take care of yourself first and your positive attitude will be the best Deuxcents May 29 #4
So saddened to hear of your dx, BC SheltieLover May 29 #5
So sorry you are going through this Lifeafter70 May 29 #6
I'm so sorry bre cat. choie May 29 #7
Stay optimistic. It helps. sinkingfeeling May 29 #8
I'm so sorry. viva la May 29 #9
We are all pulling for you. multigraincracker May 29 #11
brer, I'm so sorry to hear this news. greatauntoftriplets May 29 #13
Thank you, gaot! brer cat May 29 #15
You're welcome. greatauntoftriplets May 29 #17
You and your family have been getting getting hit from all sides, brer. sheshe2 May 29 #14
Thank you, she. Support from my virtual friends brer cat May 29 #16
You will always have that! sheshe2 May 29 #20
So sorry you're having to deal with so much... maspaha May 29 #18
Sorry you are dealing with so much! cate94 May 29 #19
That's a lot! Lulu KC May 29 #21
Wow, that's a lot to handle. I hope that you know that we are all Marie Marie May 29 #22
Ohh, brercat.. sending my Love and Cha May 29 #23
Thank you, Cha. I know that you understand. brer cat May 30 #29
I Love & Appreciate you So Much, brercat!💙🌈 Cha May 30 #34
my epal had breast cancer a few years ago. just lumpectomy + chemo i think. it reared back w/ a vengeance. a cough pansypoo53219 May 29 #24
I'm sending you healing thoughts wrapped in warm light and hugs!🥰 MLAA May 29 #25
Boy the challenges are coming at you one after anothet.. Permanut May 29 #26
There have been strides in inproved breast cancer treatment. Catching it early is a great start. marble falls May 29 #27
"" AllaN01Bear May 29 #28
One of the things I learned when I got eary breast cancer 9 years ago dixiegrrrrl May 30 #30
I heard some good news on macular degeneration NJCher May 30 #31
Thanks, NJCher. I have one eye with dry AMD and the other brer cat May 30 #35
My very, very best wishes to you DarthDem May 30 #32
That is a lot to deal with. May all the good angels of The Universe step in to assist you. LoisB May 30 #33
Thank you, Lois. brer cat May 30 #36
I am so sorry but I am glad that this was caught early LetMyPeopleVote May 30 #37
Thanks, my friend. I appreciate it. brer cat May 30 #38
My mentor's first wife survived 14 years with stage IV breast cancer LetMyPeopleVote May 30 #39
Wishing you a quick recovery brer_cat JohnSJ May 30 #40
My dearest Brer Cat WhiteTara May 30 #41
Hugs and hope sent to you. BoomaofBandM May 30 #42
positive hugs for you, that is quite a bit going on for you, peacebuzzard May 30 #43
Oh no! BumRushDaShow May 30 #44
Thanks, BRDS. Now you know why I didn't sign up brer cat May 30 #45

Solly Mack

(95,061 posts)
1. That is a lot to deal with. I'm sorry, brer cat. Hoping for the very best.
Thu May 29, 2025, 09:52 PM
May 29

You're in my thoughts.

Solly Mack

(95,061 posts)
10. Please keep us posted. A sense of humor helps a lot.
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:19 PM
May 29

I was cancer-free after surgery, but protocol still called for both chemo and radiation. Humor helped me a lot - mine and my doctors and nurses.

Feel what you feel. Don't let anyone tell you that you need to feel anything otherwise.

Do be good to yourself. It's not selfish to be centered on your own well-being now.



brer cat

(26,983 posts)
12. You are so right about humor. When my mother
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:37 PM
May 29

was in her last days with ovarian cancer, my sisters and I were with her when she commented on something only she could see, and we started laughing. We quit quickly and the room was quiet. She said quite softly, "It is so much easier when you girls laugh." I will never forget that.

Deuxcents

(22,498 posts)
4. A lot going on and awfully fast in your life. Take care of yourself first and your positive attitude will be the best
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:01 PM
May 29

Medicine and it sounds like you have that going for you. Wishing you the best recovery..and quickly 🌺

SheltieLover

(69,307 posts)
5. So saddened to hear of your dx, BC
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:02 PM
May 29

But I love your positive attitude!

That is an awful lot of stress and grief for you and your family.

Healing vibes on the way to you & yours.

Stay strong and positive!

choie

(5,549 posts)
7. I'm so sorry bre cat.
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:06 PM
May 29

It's a lot for you and your family to handle, ESPECIALLY, in the face of your sister's death - for which I send my deepes t condolrasences.

viva la

(4,129 posts)
9. I'm so sorry.
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:13 PM
May 29

It sounds like you have good thoughtful medical helpers. This is so much pain and pressure on you and your family.

greatauntoftriplets

(177,722 posts)
13. brer, I'm so sorry to hear this news.
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:37 PM
May 29

You're already under horrendous stress, and this just adds to it. You have my good vibes for a speedy recovern.

greatauntoftriplets

(177,722 posts)
17. You're welcome.
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:44 PM
May 29

I'm sorry that you have so much to deal with between your sister and your own issues.

sheshe2

(92,284 posts)
14. You and your family have been getting getting hit from all sides, brer.
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:38 PM
May 29

It sounds like you are in good hands with your oncologist and I like her attitude...and yours. That is a good thing.

I do understand your concern about your daughter and grandchildren, it is hard for them, I know. When we came to say goodbye to my brother in law my nieces kids were pretty young. I sat at the kitchen table with them and we colored lots of pictures for their granddad. Your great niece's are older but having lost one of their great-aunts is still a hard loss for them

Also there is your sister that depends on you and as hard as it is this time is about you.

Love and hugs to you my dear. Please let us know if we can help in any way.

Love you.

cate94

(2,972 posts)
19. Sorry you are dealing with so much!
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:49 PM
May 29

It’s a lot. I’m sorry about your oldest sister, I lost my oldest sister to pancreatic cancer also.
And I had breast cancer and got through that. Not so close together though, that is rough.
I’ll keep you in my thoughts.

Lulu KC

(8,113 posts)
21. That's a lot!
Thu May 29, 2025, 10:52 PM
May 29

I am so glad they caught it early and wish you the very best outcome--speedy and simple. It sounds like you are in good hands.

Marie Marie

(10,208 posts)
22. Wow, that's a lot to handle. I hope that you know that we are all
Thu May 29, 2025, 11:06 PM
May 29

here and pulling for you. Please keep us posted through this journey - we care.

Cha

(311,563 posts)
23. Ohh, brercat.. sending my Love and
Thu May 29, 2025, 11:09 PM
May 29

Heartfelt Wishes for you to come through the surgery cancer free.

I'm so sorry you and your Family have had to go through so much Heartbreak.

Macular Degeneration is a Mighty Challenge We have to Struggle with. I'm so Sorry you have it, too. I can tell mine is slowly getting worse..

I wish you All the Strength you need to Carry On.. Mahalo for Sharing it with us... We're here For You!

💙🌈 💕

Cha

(311,563 posts)
34. I Love & Appreciate you So Much, brercat!💙🌈
Fri May 30, 2025, 01:02 AM
May 30

My heart so out to you and Your Family.. 💕

We've been Kindred Spirits with all our Friends here for so long.. and We Care so much about what' Crises We're Gong Through!

Hang in there, Kid! 💙🌈

pansypoo53219

(22,283 posts)
24. my epal had breast cancer a few years ago. just lumpectomy + chemo i think. it reared back w/ a vengeance. a cough
Thu May 29, 2025, 11:36 PM
May 29

lung cancer from breast + stage 4 in her brain, bones. radiation, chemo + mastectomy. oh. she has been monitored since the 1st cancer.

good luck.

Permanut

(7,129 posts)
26. Boy the challenges are coming at you one after anothet..
Thu May 29, 2025, 11:43 PM
May 29

I'll be rootin' on the sidelines for you to show 'em who's boss.

marble falls

(65,876 posts)
27. There have been strides in inproved breast cancer treatment. Catching it early is a great start.
Thu May 29, 2025, 11:46 PM
May 29

dixiegrrrrl

(60,048 posts)
30. One of the things I learned when I got eary breast cancer 9 years ago
Fri May 30, 2025, 12:17 AM
May 30

Was there are lots of effective treatment options for various stages and types of it.

Hoping for the very best outcome for you.

NJCher

(40,283 posts)
31. I heard some good news on macular degeneration
Fri May 30, 2025, 12:38 AM
May 30

the other day. Maybe you know about it?

Here's the link: https://www.aao.org/eye-health/tips-prevention/promising-new-treatments-amd

I have some other info I'm going to send you, too.

brer cat

(26,983 posts)
35. Thanks, NJCher. I have one eye with dry AMD and the other
Fri May 30, 2025, 01:30 AM
May 30

is wet. I get shots in both eyes and have had improvement in both. The latest change occurred suddenly in my dry eye and it left me almost blind. I have regained most of my distance vision, but I can only read with both large fonts + a magnifying glass, and even then I have to strain to pull out the words. AMD is difficult to deal with.

LoisB

(10,717 posts)
33. That is a lot to deal with. May all the good angels of The Universe step in to assist you.
Fri May 30, 2025, 12:50 AM
May 30

Sending you all the best vibes possible that you have the strength to make it through this trying time.

LetMyPeopleVote

(164,292 posts)
37. I am so sorry but I am glad that this was caught early
Fri May 30, 2025, 01:36 AM
May 30

Take care and get well. You will be in my prayers

LetMyPeopleVote

(164,292 posts)
39. My mentor's first wife survived 14 years with stage IV breast cancer
Fri May 30, 2025, 01:45 AM
May 30

That was 20+ years ago. They have made a great deal of progress since then

Take care and keep us informed

WhiteTara

(30,797 posts)
41. My dearest Brer Cat
Fri May 30, 2025, 04:16 AM
May 30

I’m so sorry! You are so incredible and wonderful and I hope that you heal quickly.

I wish that there was something I could say that is more meaningful and encouraging but I just know that I love you and want you to be well. 🤗

BoomaofBandM

(1,923 posts)
42. Hugs and hope sent to you.
Fri May 30, 2025, 12:20 PM
May 30

I also lost a sister to pancreatic cancer, and have a sister who survived breast cancer. They were both diagnosed during the worse of the covid pandemic. My heart goes out to you and your family. Stay strong and positive.

peacebuzzard

(5,586 posts)
43. positive hugs for you, that is quite a bit going on for you,
Fri May 30, 2025, 07:52 PM
May 30

I send you vibes for strength and steadfastness in your health while you go through the therapy.
I will look for the updates as you immerse yourself in your treatment plans. Best wishes, brer cat

BumRushDaShow

(153,994 posts)
44. Oh no!
Fri May 30, 2025, 08:25 PM
May 30

I missed this yesterday.

Sending (((HUGS)))) and healing thoughts to you and your family. I know me and my sisters were just chatting today about "not aging gracefully".

I am glad you have a positive prognosis for your treatment options and crossing fingers for you with the surgery.

brer cat

(26,983 posts)
45. Thanks, BRDS. Now you know why I didn't sign up
Fri May 30, 2025, 11:00 PM
May 30

for MIRT after my term off. I miss all of you, but I will be back! I can rest easy knowing you will all hold down the fort.

I took my older sister today for a bone marrow aspiration. Hoping for good news from that test.

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