as you need.

Im sorry kiddo.

At 72, I think about dying… maybe too much.
I don’t want any family members to die… and that includes my DU family, members of whom are closer than some of my ‘legal’ or blood family.
I’m so sorry. How can I help?

I am 75, and I am angry. There is still too much to do for me to die now.

Kick a couple of doors .. (and maybe a few of your less favorite people)
It ain't fair - and you have a right to be pissed!

Listen to your doctor when you meet. Ask questions - lots of them! Get a second opinion. Follow your treatment plan closely. Do the things that are recommended. This comes from someone who was diagnosed in 2015 with a fatal autoimmune disease and told I had 5 to 15 months to live. My doctor was a fighter who put together a specialist team immediately. Following the steps above and living my life one day at a time working on things that were left for me to do, I'm still here. Tough days, but good ones as well! I'm wholeheartedly wishing the same for you! Good luck and know that we are all with you in spirit. Hugs and Encouragement on their way to you. Using hospice is on my future plans as well, and finding a support group is important.

Anger is a very understandable, natural response, but anger will not help anybody, least of all you.

Forgive yourself, forgive your condition, do the best you can letting go of the self-destructive anger as soon as you can. Perhaps replace it with cold determination to do as much of that "too much to do" as you can. I'm sure even Norman Lear dying at 101 had more to do. We all do. We all get more done without anger. Anger is partially motivating and partially dulls our primary tool, intellect. On balance, cold determination gets more done.

Best wishes.

What do you wish to share with us here?

Sending healing thoughts.

❤️❤️❤️

I can only hope your days are filled with love and happiness and extend far into the future, no matter what you might think today. And yes, please. When the anger and shock diminish a bit, I can only hope that a determination to make every day count will take their place.

you need to make the best of what time you have. They can help in many ways.

Hospice helped ease our daughter from this world to the next. They were a great comfort.

in their home where they wanted to be until they died.

But it should be at the point where you choose no further intervention. They replace your medical care and interventions designed to restore health and focus on palliative care to keep you comfortable and able to live the rest of your time well.

Mom went quickly (two days after she came home from the hospital following a stroke and heart attack). Dad went almost ten months after entering hospice. We got to be with them and to shower them with love, instead of having them whisked away by hospital staff trying to save their lives past when it was possible for them to enjoy any quality of living and where we couldn't be with them while they worked on them.

🙏🏽

Yes, contact Hospice! Wonderful help. If you improve, you can always leave Hospice.

We’re here for you~

I pray for your comfort during these difficult times,

from all your DU friends! Bless you.

Sending you a really big hug. Don't give up.

One of my best friends is fighting “Charlie” with chemo. That’s the name he gave to his stage three pancreatic cancer so to psychologically separate the cancer from his own physical being. He did nothing wrong but perhaps overeat most of his life.

Are there any better treatments for you or answers to be found?

I'm not an experiencer but read more better outcome late stage stories than not.

Sending love and golden vibes.

You must be going through a lot of fear and anger. I hope you have enough time to make your own arrangements and say good-bye to those whom you care about.

of new treatments being found, and unexplained healings, that I never give up hope.

I'm not religious, but I believe, based on everything I've read and heard (including from a lot of people I knew personally), that our spirits live on, and there are reunions with loved ones who've already crossed over.

I realize that can't change the anger when there's still so much more that you want to do here (as you mentioned in reply 7), and I hope you'll have years more here. But all of us are going to make that transition. I'm praying for the best possible medical care and emotional support for you.

And please remember that those you love, who know what matters to you, are almost certainly already continuing along paths similar to the one you chose, with many of the same goals you chose. You've mattered to them. You've had an impact, and always will. They're your partners in that work you still want to do. I hope you'll be able to feel more and more appreciation of that, and be reminded of their appreciation of you.

We all have limited time here, but I'm wishing you as much more time as possible, and as much love and peace as possible.

I don't know how I would handle a diagnosis that is terminal. God bless you.

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Holding you in Light

Our thoughts are with you.

❤️

I am reaching out to hold your hand.

🙏🏻

I am 74 in 13 days and I think about my mortality all the time. Another thing I think about often is that in my lifetime, I have had unique experiences that have taught me unique life lessons. Those personal experiences have taught me lessons in what my father used to call the "College of Hard Knocks" and I think I should write those lessons down and pass them along to others so that what I have learned from those lessons does not die with me. I am not talking about writing my autobiography or anything elaborate like that, but just write it down in the form of lengthy letters to friends and family so that after I go, they will still know and understand who I am. And I say "am" instead of "was" because the written word is one way to keep yourself alive forever in a sense by passing along a form of your identity and consciousness to those who will be aware of who you are. And who will never forget who you are. This is kind of hard to articulate, but I have been thinking about doing this myself for a long time but just have been procrastinating. If your days are numbered, I think this will be a good way for you to use them. I should stop procrastinating and do that myself; Lord knows there are life lessons I would like to pass along to friends and family so that those life lessons don't die with me. To keep what I have learned about life and the real world alive even if I can't keep my physical body alive. I hope that advice helps you.

-- Ron

As well as courage and peace.

Your DU family is here.

We love you.

Rage against the dying of the Light... you never know which moments of your life will be the ones to transcend the known and ordinary.

lovingly,
Bright

My deepest condolences

as I am also a Quaker. Wishing you peace and love, Muriel.

Truly. Hugs

I don't know what else to say other than I am very sorry and that I hope you are with those who love you.

Sending you aloha, wishing comfort and peace of mind, and wellbeing.

And more hugs.

All I can send are vibes to give you strength and comfort, I hope they help in some way.

Lean on friends and family as you travel this road. Do not walk alone.

I hope you're not in pain and have people to support you

❤️

Know then, you have my deepest admiration and respect.
Whatever way your journey takes you, you have been impactful and added meaning and depth.

It's not over until it's over. Fight.

Blessings to you!

I am so sorry.

I hope your doc mentions palliative care. Whatever else you decide to do, that needs to be started now.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5176367/

Sending prayers and

I am so sorry. I have cancer..too. My doctor is switching me from Jakafi to a different medication.

One way you get the rest you need, the other way you get a new adventure. Win/win
Peace be with you.

We'll be here for you when you need a hug or to vent.

All wishing we could be right by your side.

Have known your handle and voice for 20 years, and would be there if I could to ask questions, push for more tests, and faster.

That's all I know how to say. That being said, there are amazing treatments now. Holding you in love and light.

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Sending you positive vibes, thoughts and prayers

And finish your bucket list.

Please keep us posted. Love and light.

and will hope for the best.

By now you've seen the doctor. Are you certain there's no hope murielm999??



sending loving energy to lighten your load.

Travel well.

A beautiful life transition to the other side of the veil. Blessings. Shalom.

“It ain’t over ‘til it’s over.”

Make plans, do stuff while you still can. Confound their pessimistic diagnosis to the point where they exclaim, “what? You’re still here?”

It’s a lovely name. You strike me as a lovely, good hearted, open-hearted person.
I’ve grown quite attached to you through your posts.

So I will say a prayer for you tonight.

May you be allowed to live each day to its fullest, may you share your wisdom and strength with many. Guess we are all cousins thought] in this world..

meet again on the other side. God bless.

Maybe get a second opinion? If you decide to end treatment you will likely qualify for hospice care and be able to stay in your home, even if you aren't there yet maybe check it out, that one is covered by medicare and isn't like going on medicaid for being in a nursing home.

Life is so precious and so short.

When my time comes, I don't know if I will be able to face losing this miraculous world with any grace. My heart goes out to you.

and that you have to wait to hear what your options might be.

😢❤️‍🩹 my mom got her breast cancer diagnosis when she was 50, she went into remission twice and finally it metastasized to her brain and she died at 56. I wouldn’t have missed those 6 years for anything in the world. No matter what, please keep fighting! My mom used her anger about the situation to keep fighting…..whatever it takes Muriel. Thinking of you…..
With love,
Lou (Frank)

And holding you close in my thoughts and in my heart.

that you need.

You are in my thoughts, live every minute with all you have ...

I hope that a treatment will be found to help you.

someone is always here

but good vibes & hope for you.

The world will be worse off without you.

Wishing you peace and comfort.

Weighs heavy for you.

Eko.

You will be in my prayers

...in passing.

Deepest sympathy.

...and a gentle peaceful, painless passing surrounded by love at both ends.

Hugs.

I believe in miracles. Hope to hear from you soon.

I'm here for you for whatever hand you're dealt. I know we've both been election judges (and sad to say in maggats precincts but we are warrior supporters of democracy). A bit sad we've never been able to meet up but there is a supreme being somewhere. So we might.

Hugs and love to you. I hope you live to confound your doctors.

May your spirit be at peace.

but please remember, you are still living with us.

May the support expressed in this post bring you some comfort. One day we will all be where you are at this moment. Thank you for sharing how you are thinking and feeling. I wish that I could offer you more.

Do whatever you want, go where ever you want, eat whatever you want and say whatever you want.

It's your time and make every moment count.

You are not alone, when you have friends.
Let love and light fill you up.

TNNurse's suggestion to contact hospice is a good one. Are you able to do that?

I wish we could all be there to hold your hand. It must be terribly frightening. That said, we will all follow you down that path sometime.

I wish for a comfortable transition for you.

I don't know your religious affiliation, if any, but one thing that brings me a great deal of comfort is learning about the near-death experiences of others, through books and through videos online. The TV series I Survived: Beyond and Back is especially reassuring.

Peace and comfort to you as you process this next step of your journey, muriel!

Sending love, appreciation, strength, hugs, and more hugs.

Please keep us posted.

(((murielm)))