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QueerDuck

(2,293 posts)
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 07:05 PM 20 hrs ago

I met my husband at a funeral of a mutual friend who had died of AIDS in 1994.

I knew he existed prior to meeting him. Our friend, Tim, had spoken of him... but we never met until the "receiving line" of handshakes and hugs among mutual friends at the memorial service. I thought I'd never see him again... hello-goodbye... but our paths crossed again later on the next year.

Isn't strange how life works out? You just never know.

We've been together for over 30 years and married for 13 of those years.

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I met my husband at a funeral of a mutual friend who had died of AIDS in 1994. (Original Post) QueerDuck 20 hrs ago OP
May seem strange at first but I'd like to believe things happen for a reason and you two were meant to be together 🌺 Deuxcents 19 hrs ago #1
Congratulations! ZDU 19 hrs ago #2
congratulations sheshe2 19 hrs ago #3
Congratulations! PittBlue 18 hrs ago #4
Best wishes to you and your husband ❤️ MustLoveBeagles 17 hrs ago #5
Congratulations. It was meant to be. Happy for you both. LoisB 17 hrs ago #6
Congratulations! Some things are just meant to be, I like to think! slightlv 17 hrs ago #7
Great memories. How lucky you are! Thanks for sharing! xoxo QueerDuck 8 hrs ago #9
Congratulations IbogaProject 13 hrs ago #8

Deuxcents

(28,354 posts)
1. May seem strange at first but I'd like to believe things happen for a reason and you two were meant to be together 🌺
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 07:28 PM
19 hrs ago

slightlv

(8,227 posts)
7. Congratulations! Some things are just meant to be, I like to think!
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 09:50 PM
17 hrs ago

I used to run a BBS, back in the "old days." One user and I developed a really great online friendship.. both of us were trekkers to the core, and had great conversations around the core of trek. Eventually, tho, the BBS's died out as the Internet took over and we lost touch with each other. Like you, he and I just happened to "meet up" with each other at the funeral of a mutual friend and coworker. We're now deep into forty years of knowing each other, and live just around the block from each other. We didn't marry each other, tho... I'm old enough to be his mother (LOL)... and I *almost* became his MIL. My daughter really missed the boat, if you ask me. But he checks in on me, and his wife and I are best friends. We share almost everything, including chronic illnesses! I believe there are groups of people you go through life together... a "cadre" of friends. In each reincarnation, (I think I'm a believer, I'm still trying to sort it all out), you unknowingly search out this cadre. This friend of mine and I are part of that cadre, as are another couple who've been with us all 40+ years, as well. I LOVE friendships like these. They aren't many, but they're deep, caring, and allow you to be who you are at all times, the good and the ugly. You, my friend, are one of the very, very lucky ones in this world!

QueerDuck

(2,293 posts)
9. Great memories. How lucky you are! Thanks for sharing! xoxo
Fri Jul 3, 2026, 06:20 AM
8 hrs ago

We're both trekkers, and Whovians, and fans of Space 1999 and Lost In Space too. We made a "pilgrimage" to the Dr. Who Exposition in Cardiff, making sure to also visit as many known filming locations for Torchwood as we could find in an afternoon. --- It's been an adventure! ❤️💕 We've wasted no time... we'll do our best to enjoy the days that remain as well.

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