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MIButterfly

(3,542 posts)
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 08:55 AM 20 hrs ago

Last night I had a curious dream

I dream almost every night but rarely remember what they were about. A little background first: I had an evil stepfather, he was a drunk and a bully and an all-round asshole. I hated him, but I Ioved his family. I called his parents Grandma and Grandpa; I called his brothers Uncle A, Uncle B and Uncle C; I called his sister Aunt D; and I called their children my cousins. I thought they loved me too, but they really didn't (when my mother finally left the step-father in 1984, I never heard from them again. Out with the old and in with the new, I guess. It broke my heart.)

Anyway, in 1982, Uncle B, who was newly married less than a year, tragically died in a car accident. He was only 37. He was my favorite and the nicest person I'd ever met. We were all devastated.

I dreamt about him three times after he died. In the first two dreams, we were sitting in easy chairs across from each other, talking, until I realized and said "wait a minute, you're dead" and he disappeared. The third time, I was going through a rough patch and was stressing out about everything and he said "don't worry, everything's going to be all right" and it was. I never dreamt about him again until last night.

I don’t remember most of it. I was in someone's house with a bunch of people I didn't know and he was there and I said to him "where have you been?" but he wouldn't say. I wonder why I would dream about him after all these years (44!). Maybe it means something and maybe it doesn't. I wish I knew.

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Last night I had a curious dream (Original Post) MIButterfly 20 hrs ago OP
I was advised to write down my dreams because murielm99 20 hrs ago #1
Something might have happened recently that triggered a memory of him biophile 20 hrs ago #2
Hope I'm not intruding here but want to say that, having come from a family with a drunk, bully, a**hole faction EverHopeful 19 hrs ago #3

murielm99

(33,176 posts)
1. I was advised to write down my dreams because
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 09:04 AM
20 hrs ago

they have often had a lingering effect on me emotionally, but they have faded after a day or so. Supposedly, dreams are the way our minds clean house and restore order, roughly speaking. I do believe that I have had dreams that warned me and encourage me.

Your post is interesting. I wish I knew how to support you.

biophile

(1,710 posts)
2. Something might have happened recently that triggered a memory of him
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 09:28 AM
20 hrs ago

It could be as simple as a smell or image that you connect with him somehow.
The other thing I would say is that his last message to you before was that everything would be fine. I hope he returned to reassure you again!
Not a dream expert, but those are my thoughts!

EverHopeful

(732 posts)
3. Hope I'm not intruding here but want to say that, having come from a family with a drunk, bully, a**hole faction
Thu Jul 2, 2026, 10:16 AM
19 hrs ago

separation from even the ones you love might be made to feel mandatory.

As my cousin described reconnecting with some of the cousins who had been estranged after a split, lovely people, horrible parents.

I know the kids who had no choice but to stay with the drunk a**holes didn't feel safe reaching out until grown and out on their own.

Hope your dream turns out to be a harbinger of something good that you've had in the back of your mind but couldn't recognize until you were dreaming.

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