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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI lost my Darling Wife this morning.
I don't know if I will ever have anything else to say on our beloved DU? I am having difficulty processing everything at the moment.
kentuck

MontanaMama
(24,512 posts)Please accept my condolences on this terrible loss. Holding you in my heart. 💜
hlthe2b
(110,830 posts)It is hard to know what to say, and I don't doubt that shock has consumed you. I hope that you have family with you-- or coming-- or dear friends to be with you. If not, WE, the DU community, are here. Whatever we can do, just ask.
You are in my constant thoughts today, please know.
Duncanpup
(14,931 posts)wryter2000
(47,924 posts)
Lefta Dissenter
(6,683 posts)Im just so terribly sorry.
Irish_Dem
(72,750 posts)Hugs to you.
markie
(23,528 posts)you care to, we will listen... I am so very sorry for your loss
Permanut
(7,395 posts)I would like to hear more about her when you're ready.
alwaysinasnit
(5,478 posts)
JoeOtterbein
(7,854 posts)....sorry.
(tears)
Mike 03
(18,658 posts)That's awful. Please don't worry about processing right this second. You feel what you feel. it will take time, maybe a lot of time to "process" it. God, that's just so sad. I'd say more but I don't know anything about your personal situation. Just please go easy on yourself. You've got to treat yourself with a ton of compassion during times like this. Remember there's no "right or wrong" way to go through what you're going through.
Post whatever you need to post.
Thinking of you and hoping you are okay. Do you have any support, from friends or family members, during this time?
debm55
(48,827 posts)

OLDMDDEM
(2,632 posts)pandr32
(13,259 posts)I wish I could give you a hug. I am so sorry for your precious loss.
Easterncedar
(4,760 posts)I am very sorry for your loss. I have never found any words that help, but for me knowing that people care does. We do. You arent alone.
Biophilic
(5,912 posts)Kali999
(242 posts)So sorry for your loss. My partner died in March. Its hard.
livetohike
(23,566 posts)May the good memories of your life together bring you comfort.
Lonestarblue
(12,846 posts)AZJonnie
(1,109 posts)May she pass gently, I'm sure she was a wonderful woman. Such an awful loss, so, sorry again.
Wife of Kentuck
We're all here for you, friend!
rurallib
(63,972 posts)do whatever you need to do

11 Bravo
(24,161 posts)For what it's worth, know that you are in my thoughts.
irisblue
(35,539 posts)May her memory be a blessing
Oopsie Daisy
(6,268 posts)There are many rough days and weeks again. I'm very sorry to hear the sad news.
Nigrum Cattus
(769 posts)Nanuke
(786 posts)Fla Dem
(26,923 posts)marked50
(1,508 posts)ailsagirl
(24,273 posts)


Ocelot II
(126,335 posts)Do whatever you need to do, I hope you have family and friends to help you. Well be here for you.
Beachnutt
(8,829 posts)My condolences to you, it has to be hard.
UpInArms
(53,205 posts)I am so sorry 😢
aggiesal
(10,204 posts)FemDemERA
(545 posts)You must cope with both your grief and also worldly matters. I hope you have support from people around you to help you physically, as well as emotionally through the coming days. Hold tight to the Precious memories of your time together and let the love surround you.
Polly Hennessey
(7,989 posts)This is beyond sad. I dont know what to say. I am heartbroken for you.
happy feet
(1,224 posts)Sending a hug - take care of yourself.
ultralite001
(1,903 posts)Take care of you...
niyad
(125,628 posts)is here for you. Lean as hard as you need. huggggggggs
If you are still here in town in the Old North End, remember you have a DU friend here.
58Sunliner
(5,905 posts)
CrispyQ
(40,037 posts)You are such an integral part of our community. Know that you're in our thoughts.
democrank
(11,673 posts)Life is so bittersweet. Were with you.
Hugs~
Silent Type
(10,561 posts)R. P. McMurphy
(859 posts)I hope that warm and loving memories sweep you away whenever you think of her. I hope you stand tall and carry on in her honor.
I have read your posts for many years and believe that you are a good man. We need you here as the voice of reason that you have come to be known. Take some time and come back to us.
All the best from an old boy from Tazewell, Claiborne County, Tennessee.
Greybnk48
(10,578 posts)Greybnk48
(10,578 posts)Jerryatric
(2,477 posts)I'm sending lots of love and light your way.
arkielib
(407 posts)Post when and if you are ready. We are here for you.
gademocrat7
(11,588 posts)On the loss of your beloved wife. Sending hugs and love to you and your family.
JustinBulletin
(99 posts)I lost my husband just over three years ago and can understand what you are going through. You have my deepest sympathy and my prayers for you finding peace as you work through this tremendous grief.
sop
(15,347 posts)ZZenith
(4,383 posts)I wish you strength and courage as you negotiate the world without her.
Were here if you need us.
3catwoman3
(27,271 posts)...someone here. Wishing you strength and serenity.
ancianita
(41,187 posts)It can be everything overwhelming all at once. Let friends and family help you through this, and we'll be here, too. Family and friends can be golden in days ahead. No matter how long you grieve, grief is love, too. And it can still be the happy memories of the little things, and your love, that will live beyond this.
lark
(25,304 posts)I hope you have some close family/friends that you can talk to. I'm sure you're in shock right now.
GiqueCee
(2,611 posts)... return to the Sea of Souls, they live on in our cherished memories of their kindness.
senseandsensibility
(23,061 posts)and know that we are here for you. Words fail me, my friend. May your darling wife RIP.
bluescribbler
(2,372 posts)My wife of 24 years passed away on November 28, 2009, after a 12-year battle with metastatic melanoma. She was just 51 years old. I know that things will get better for you, but it will take time.
woodsprite
(12,473 posts)1WorldHope
(1,485 posts)Eliot Rosewater
(33,287 posts)sdfernando
(5,833 posts)Nothing I can say will really help in the moment, but in time you will again join us. I really look forward to the day when you feel strong enough to do so.
karin_sj
(1,233 posts)There are no words that can ease your pain, but I hope that the love and concern demonstrated here shows you how many people care about you and your family in this sad time.
bucolic_frolic
(51,636 posts)Condolences to you and yours.
You enlighten our minds every day, know that you are in ours as well.
Solly Mack
(95,378 posts)My most heartfelt condolences.
ms liberty
(10,425 posts)
Diamond_Dog
(37,797 posts)I cant imagine how you must be feeling right now. Like the world has turned upside down.
Please be kind to yourself. We here at DU send our deepest heartfelt sympathies.
Tree Lady
(12,570 posts)
intheflow
(29,629 posts)May her memory be a blessing, and may the memory of her love carry through this difficult time.
quaint
(3,985 posts)💔
Buddyzbuddy
(1,243 posts)Grim Chieftain
(441 posts)You are in my thoughts and in my heart. I hope you feel the love, support and healing vibes from your DU family.
orangecrush
(25,894 posts)
popsdenver
(91 posts)All of our hearts and love are with you, it must be devastating........
mwmisses4289
(1,663 posts)sorry for loss.
Jughead
(102 posts)blm
(114,257 posts)Our hearts are reaching out to you.
greatauntoftriplets
(178,009 posts)
Phoenix61
(18,510 posts)mobeau69
(12,081 posts)
GPV
(73,307 posts)any time.

Jrsygrl96
(255 posts)Deepest condolences. 😢

LymphocyteLover
(8,431 posts)awesomerwb1
(4,808 posts)no_hypocrisy
(52,420 posts)Please accept my condolences.
otchmoson
(126 posts)Inhale . . . exhale . . . processing, pain, grieving will all come, but for yourself (and all who care about you). . . just continue breathe.
bamagal62
(4,044 posts)❤️❤️❤️
edhopper
(36,416 posts)I will keep you in my thoughts.
SocialDemocrat61
(5,286 posts)FalloutShelter
(13,628 posts)If I've learned one thin about DU tho, it is that we will be here for you.
Sending a hug.
Deep State Witch
(12,054 posts)For your loss. Hail the Traveler! May she go forth shining!
dsc
(53,038 posts)please take care of yourself.
Mad_Dem_X
(9,987 posts)
Grumpy Old Guy
(3,992 posts)JMCKUSICK
(3,305 posts)We'll be here for you in any capacity you need.
littlemissmartypants
(28,671 posts)
One day at a time, one moment at a time. May each hour of the day give you a blessing as you go through this great change. Remember, it is OK to grieve, it is not something one just gets over.
We here at DU will always be here for you.
ProfessorGAC
(73,779 posts)Hoping you can adjust!
Take care.
TygrBright
(21,173 posts)Hekate
(98,699 posts)






KT2000
(21,634 posts)
gab13by13
(29,087 posts)I will be thinking of you. We will be here for you if needed.
FSogol
(47,422 posts)kimbutgar
(25,681 posts)My condolences are with you during this trying day. She will always be with you in your heart and spiritually when you least expect it !💐❤️
PatSeg
(50,679 posts)MissouriDem47
(235 posts)You have my wife and I condolences.
Maraya1969
(23,316 posts)SleeplessinSoCal
(10,219 posts)I hope you can hold tight to your happy memories.
DFW
(58,604 posts)Only memories of her to guide you from here on in. Its a lonely path. We can only wave in sympathy from the sidelines, and hope that you some day find your way to waving back.
colorado_ufo
(6,100 posts)
Renew Deal
(84,323 posts)It's not easy and I can't promise it will get better, but you should take the time you need to deal with it. I doubt you will ever fully get over it but there are a lot of good things about life and those good things will become apparent over time.
lostincalifornia
(4,024 posts)lapucelle
(20,413 posts)Your DU family is holding you close in its heart.
Vinca
(52,462 posts)Exp
(458 posts)there right next to you. That love can still be there.
Be kind to yourself.
Wicked Blue
(8,152 posts)Blessings of peace and healing as you deal with this enormous grief.
mcar
(44,982 posts)Blessings on you and your family.
Emile
(36,206 posts)
Nittersing
(7,431 posts)
BadgerMom
(3,275 posts)beveeheart
(1,492 posts)
KS Toronado
(21,061 posts)May the memories of your wife be a blessing to you.
Tikki
(14,886 posts)It hurts like mad.
Tikki
Sailingdiver
(269 posts)BumRushDaShow
(157,397 posts)We all grieve with you.
KG
(28,784 posts)DownriverDem
(6,871 posts)There are no words that will make the shock and pain go away. Just know that we here at DU care greatly.
BlueKota
(4,451 posts)highplainsdem
(57,602 posts)hadn't posted that she was ill. Every loss of a loved one is hard to process, but it's especially hard when the loss is unexpected.
I hope you have family and friends nearby. And we're here for you.
LoisB
(11,206 posts)
question everything
(50,699 posts)
regnaD kciN
(27,202 posts)
KitFox
(341 posts)your DU family cares and will always be here for you as you inch your way through this. Sending gentle hugs to you and your loved ones. 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
MuseRider
(34,860 posts)to you. We will all be here for you for whatever you need. Wrap yourself up in all the love flowing your way and let us support you whenever you might need it. You know, we all are here now and for however long you feel the need.
mountain grammy
(28,049 posts)Botany
(74,885 posts)Take care
Sea A Chell
(88 posts)😔
Clouds Passing
(5,430 posts)LetMyPeopleVote
(167,017 posts)sueh
(1,904 posts)and she in my prayers. Sending you hugs
angrychair
(10,925 posts)I am so very sorry for your lose and I will keep you in my thoughts
essaynnc
(928 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. We'll be here for you.
NNadir
(36,223 posts)virgdem
(2,271 posts)Please take care of yourself.💔
yonder
(10,107 posts)Your voice is important here - take the time you deserve and come back as you can.
dalton99a
(89,635 posts)CanonRay
(15,452 posts)dlilafae
(266 posts)angel823
(431 posts)No words can help - just take care of yourself and I hope you have a good support system of folks around you.
Come back whenever you are able, we will miss you.
Angel823
mike_c
(36,655 posts)kairos12
(13,374 posts)Deepest condolences kentuck.
Lost my wife 2 years ago
I know the chasm my brother.
MiHale
(11,975 posts)Hugs
waterwatcher123
(386 posts)AltairIV
(911 posts)G_j
(40,527 posts)So very sorry!
JCMach1
(28,823 posts)😔
Haggis 4 Breakfast
(1,479 posts)I post this. I have read your posts for so long, I can't remember when it all started. You have made me laugh, made me stop and reflect, made me re-think my opinions a few times. And I thank you for all of that.
Losing the love of your life is the worst loss of all. I know. You take your time in healing, irrespective of how long that is. May you find peace. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
SheltieLover
(72,201 posts)I am so saddened to hear of your wife's passing.
Pls know we are here for you to lean on.
Healing vibes on the way to you.
Deuxcents
(23,288 posts)And I wish to add my sincere condolences to you and your loved ones 🌺
SunSeeker
(56,270 posts)Please keep living your life. I'm sure that is what she would have wanted. I'm so sorry about the loss of your beloved wife. 💔
cate94
(2,990 posts)
Linda ladeewolf
(977 posts)CTyankee
(66,670 posts)I am deeply saddened to learn of your loss. We all hold you close at this time, as one of your online communities. We cannot know of the depth of your sorrow (I know I can't) but we can tell you how much we care. We are here for you.
benfranklin1776
(6,941 posts)🫂🫂 Whatever we can do to support you please let us know but were here for you.
cachukis
(3,337 posts)Silver Gaia
(5,129 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. It takes much time to heal from a loss like this. Just know that, as others have said, we are here for you when you are ready.
HeartsCanHope
(1,169 posts)I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
thomhartmann
(3,987 posts)Kentuck. I cant imagine how you must feel, and dreaded the day that either Louise or I must leave the other first. Sending you prayers and good vibes
Thom
kch22
(9 posts)LuvLoogie
(8,176 posts)My deepest condolences to you.
Evolve Dammit
(21,119 posts)
sheshe2
(93,048 posts)Sending hugs to you and yours.
JustAnotherGen
(36,018 posts)
Kid Berwyn
(21,571 posts)Please accept my deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences.
Passages
(3,406 posts)so they can just be with you now.
Hugs to you, kentuck.
Ninga
(8,877 posts)
Arthur_Frain
(2,238 posts)I hope you find your way, Im sorry for the loss.
Joinfortmill
(18,682 posts)GoneOffShore
(17,873 posts)tavernier
(13,834 posts)Please dont leave us. You are such an important piece of us, and we need to know that you are still here . You dont have to say much; just a word or two. We will understand.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss and your pain.
Marie Marie
(10,385 posts)We are all here for you when you are ready.
S/V Loner
(9,417 posts)The_REAL_Ecumenist
(922 posts)accept my deepest & most sincere condolences. Your family here on DU are sending you rings of love & we'll be here if you need to talk.I hope you can feel the virtual hugs and love we're sending to you. I hope that you're okay with my praying for you, your family & all those who love her & also that your bride has an amazing journey to Paradise. Love, light & hugs to you, Kentuck..
choie
(5,894 posts)I am so very sorry. I lost my husband suddenly and know the pain and devastation you're feeling. Please DM me if you want to talk. My heart is with you and your family.
Kim (AKA Choie)
dobleremolque
(1,037 posts)I don't know what to say, kentuck, except: we're here for you.
maspaha
(577 posts)You are in my prayers
in2herbs
(3,863 posts)underpants
(191,750 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,692 posts)I cant imagine what you are going through!
alittlelark
(19,027 posts)
🥺💔
Moosepoop
(2,069 posts)My heartfelt condolences go out to you.
Tanuki
(15,954 posts)Please know that countless people here are holding you and your loved ones in our hearts as you journey through this very great loss. There is someone here on DU at any hour of the day or night. You are a much loved member of this community.🕊🌸
harumph
(2,885 posts)LudwigPastorius
(13,056 posts)bronxiteforever
(10,651 posts)
bluestarone
(20,007 posts)
richdj25
(208 posts)I know exactly what you're experiencing right now, for I lost my dear wife over 20 years ago. Just do your best in taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically.
Take care
bdamomma
(68,906 posts)my deepest sympathy to you and your family. We are here for you.
peacebuzzard
(5,618 posts)immeasurable loss.((())))
returnee
(606 posts)Bayard
(26,193 posts)Lean on us. We are here for you, my friend.
ornotna
(11,315 posts)

skylucy
(3,958 posts)usaf-vet
(7,627 posts)CousinIT
(11,673 posts)I know you are devastated.
I am sending you peace and strength vibes as you cope with this terrible loss.
We are here if you want to share.
Big hugs to you my friend.
people
(793 posts)Hope family and friends are holding you now.
h2ebits
(918 posts)NEOH
(249 posts)Sending love and condolences your way.
Blue Owl
(56,818 posts)
Golden Raisin
(4,728 posts)PatrickforB
(15,255 posts)I know how hard this is. Take your time. We all care about you.
milestogo
(21,418 posts)

MIButterfly
(916 posts)I send you my deepest sympathy and condolences.
Love,
MIButterfly
Granny M
(1,397 posts)My thoughts and prayers are with you.
pacalo
(24,786 posts)
Tumbulu
(6,570 posts)stillspkg
(126 posts)Demovictory9
(36,888 posts)
riverbendviewgal
(4,363 posts)And our younger son 18 months before my husband. I didn't think I could go on, but I did. You will too.
Beausoleil
(3,001 posts)SalviaBlue
(3,083 posts)Shellback Squid
(9,549 posts)ZDU
(623 posts)You are in our thoughts. Please take good care of yourself. We'll be here to listen when you're ready for us.
Skittles
(166,355 posts)
allegorical oracle
(5,446 posts)with her love. Take your time recovering. Even though she's not right there with you, she still will be with you -- and you will know it.
barbtries
(30,617 posts)I am so sorry Kentuck.
Lars39
(26,402 posts)

malthaussen
(18,193 posts)Bumbles
(407 posts)Be kind to your self, allow room for grief.
Beringia
(5,167 posts)chowder66
(11,020 posts)JoseBalow
(8,028 posts)I hope you are able to find some comfort
farmbo
(3,143 posts)🔔
NewHendoLib
(61,266 posts)

lamp_shade
(15,258 posts)flashman13
(1,426 posts)countingbluecars
(4,771 posts)Mz Pip
(28,174 posts)Please take care and know we are all holding you in our thoughts and prayers.
dlk
(12,807 posts)Sending thoughts for comfort and peace at this difficult time.
Totally Tunsie
(11,015 posts)That's such terribly sad news.
Uncle Joe
(62,523 posts)

relayerbob
(7,236 posts)Thats a tough road. Be gentle on yourself and take the time you need to grieve and process.
Dan
(4,853 posts)Thoughts and prayers to you and your loved ones on this day of grief.
leftstreet
(36,899 posts)Harker
(16,645 posts)stollen
(931 posts)for the loss of your dear loved one.
still-prayin4rain
(380 posts)soldierant
(8,775 posts)when you are ready. Please, as best you can, take care of yourdelf through this and for heaven's sake don't be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help, comfort, or prayers/vibes/however you communicate with the universe.
usonian
(19,407 posts)and whatever hobbies you have.
After some time, maybe a long time, you can just recall the precious moments spent with your wife.
I lost both parents in 1999. They didn't cross that "date line"
After some time, I gathered up all the photos, slides and documents they left, and still need to get together with my brother and document all the wonderful and sometimes weird moments we spent with them. And that's on the to-do list.
Put the remembrance of wonderful times on your to-do list and know that this day, many people are sending you a virtual hug.
róisín_dubh
(12,082 posts)And sending you peace from across the ponds Im so very, very sorry for your loss.
Billsdaughter
(25 posts)and true concern of members here bring you some comfort.
You are encircled.
I'm so sorry.
peggysue2
(12,065 posts)I just saw mention regarding the sad news on the GD feed. I am so sorry. Of course, you're in shock. A loss like this is heart-wounding.
My deepest condolences. Take care of yourself.
BeneteauBum
(163 posts)Time does heal
.I know from personal experience. Hopefully you have close friends you can reach out to
certainly a lot of support from us on DU. One day at a time.
Peace ☮️
BootinUp
(50,132 posts)Trueblue Texan
(3,533 posts)I know your heart is shattered, but while you try to put yourself back together to move forward, know that we are thinking about you and sending our best thoughts for healing. Take care of yourself.
IbogaProject
(4,732 posts)I must caution you to be extra careful taking care of your self, you are at increased personal risk for 6-12 months. Your whole routine has been upended and the risk won't subside until 6-12 months from now. It will seem very bleak once the initial goings on settle down, just remember it is best she isn't the one left behind and be glad you have to do that rather that the other way around. I know it sounds sappy but just be still and take it slow for awhile.
FakeNoose
(38,048 posts)Especially to you, dear Kentuck....
hamsterjill
(16,162 posts)Of course you are having difficulty processing everything! Please just be kind to yourself and know that we are all here. The world just seems to suck right now.
I have said a prayer for you and your family as is my practice. I send hugs, comfort and wishes that you may find strength and peace during this difficult time.
KPN
(16,809 posts)I cant imagine how much hurt you must be feeling. Please take care of yourself and though I dont really know that I believe in God, peace and God Bless.
cliffside
(1,141 posts)and you are ready we'll be here.
dflprincess
(28,945 posts)Keeping you in my thoughts.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,731 posts)Having experienced this exact event myself in 2019, I feel your pain and loss. My wife and I were married in 1965, right out of high school and she stayed by my side through some very trying times. I am eternally grateful for her life and I'm blessed to have the love of our two adult children.
I sincerely believe you will heal with time and carry on your family tradition of progressive living in her honor.
Please let the DU family know if there's anything we can do.
One day at a time, good friend............ ........
The Wizard
(13,292 posts)goes with living a long life. We survivors must endure the pain. In time you will adjust and be thankful for the life you had with her. In the meantime, take whatever time you need to grieve. "For everything there is a season..."
traveler50
(11 posts)Let me express my deepest sympathy.
Hassler
(4,464 posts)progressoid
(51,676 posts)
Beacool
(30,434 posts)I can't even imagine the pain that you're going through right now. I hope that you have a support system, family and friends that you can rely on. My condolences to you and your family. May your beloved wife rest in peace.
debsy
(625 posts)
electric_blue68
(22,700 posts)So, So sorry for such a devastating loss!
spanone
(139,742 posts)Life can be so heartbreaking.
redwitch
(15,173 posts)Sending love and hugs to you.
Chicagogrl1
(551 posts)Sending you big hugs.
Eko
(9,540 posts)And more big hugs.
flamingdem
(40,571 posts)
Mira
(22,567 posts)I embrace your pain, hoping that some of it will be replaced with gratitude for the time you had together. At first, you must endure. For that I am so very sad with you.
Mike Nelson
(10,675 posts)... you loved her very much. Love is forever. You are not alone.
samplegirl
(13,219 posts)I understand. Wish I could help you. I'm so sorry.
🙏
liberalla
(10,620 posts)I hope you find your way to healing and receive comfort and peace on the way...
surfered
(8,221 posts)Youll always have your memories
Stinky The Clown
(68,719 posts)
berniesandersmittens
(12,241 posts)Dem2theMax
(10,809 posts)Along with everyone else who has posted here, I send you my sympathy.
As many have said, you are in shock right now.
Be kind to your soul. And let yourself feel everything you are feeling. There is no right way or wrong way to go through this. There is only the way that you find for yourself.
We are here for you. 24/7. Always.
BigmanPigman
(53,408 posts)I have tears in my eyes (really) as I write this. What the hell happened? No need to respond....I am grieving for your huge and sudden situation and the shock is very real. My dad died suddenly in his sleep (he was healthy as a horse) 6 years ago. The grief never goes away for me, never!
Peacetrain
(24,145 posts)
badhair77
(4,927 posts)When you feel up to it, and if you feel up to it, Id love to hear about her. Next week it will be 5 years since my husband passed and I find a lot of pleasure talking about him, even now. Doing the same might bring some peace to you and we are always willing to listen.
byronius
(7,791 posts)Im sorry.
FoxNewsSucks
(11,238 posts)and I really don't know what to say or how to help at times like this.
Buzz cook
(2,758 posts)That's how I was able to deal with grief. Sorry for your lose.
Morbius
(590 posts)Remember it is okay to lean on people, and to let others lean on you.
I wish I had something wise to offer. I don't.
Please be well.
Ohiya
(2,595 posts)SaveOurDemocracy
(4,537 posts)I will be thinking of you and sending my best wishes for love, comfort and healing.
LatteLady
(75 posts)We are with you in spirit and holding you up in our hearts. May her memory be a blessing.
Saoirse9
(3,896 posts)Prayers for peace and sending lots of love your way.
Marthe48
(21,386 posts)Be kind to yourself. DU is here if you want and need us. This community helped me immensely when my husband passed away. I hope you find comfort.
PAMod
(940 posts)sestina
(419 posts)to you for the many tough moments ahead.
It's hard to lose the love of your life, the person you chose and who chose you, to be there for each other 24/7.
May your beautiful memories and the people who show up to comfort you make your journey through unbearable grief a little easier everyday.
Years ago, I found this quote by Anne Lamott, and whenever I revisit it, I replace the first word 'Faith' with 'Grief'.
Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns.
Anne Lamott
From "Traveling Mercies" 1999
The Blue Flower
(6,037 posts)I'm very, very sorry that she's gone. I hope you find joy and comfort in your memories. Life is way too hard sometimes. Take care of yourself as she would have done.
sinkingfeeling
(56,011 posts)AnotherMother4Peace
(4,795 posts)Tesha
(21,048 posts)I can't image, kentuck, but we're here for you
area51
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MustLoveBeagles
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Dem4life1970
(944 posts)CountAllVotes
(21,920 posts)It is such a huge loss losing a partner in life.
My husband has been gone just over three years now and I'm still out of it in the head.
It seems once you accept the fact that they are not returning (at least in this life) you are able to start taking small steps, very small.
I wish you the very best and please take good care of yourself.
My condolences kentuck.
& recommend.
CentralMass
(16,370 posts)Jack Valentino
(2,890 posts)Try to be thankful for the time that you had together....
many of us were not as blessed as you apparently were....
Alice B.
(574 posts)OAITW r.2.0
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summer_in_TX
(3,717 posts)💔
Sending you and your family and 🙏.
V850i
(110 posts)No one is ever really gone. Take everything a day at a time. Everything good your way!!!
denbot
(9,933 posts)💐
JHB
(37,797 posts)...it's the truth. Don't even bother with trying to process things yet, wait until the world stops tumbling. I hope you have people in your life who will step in and help you with all the mundane details of getting by until you are ready to deal with the world again.
chowmama
(861 posts)I can't imagine what you must be going through. I'm so sorry.
Figarosmom
(7,276 posts)Last edited Sat Jul 26, 2025, 03:24 AM - Edit history (1)
Nevermind us and we'll be here if you need us.
Take care of yourself and I am sorry for your loss.🌹
Moostache
(10,705 posts)You are in my thoughts and I pray you receive all the love and support you need.
HarryM
(407 posts)Doodley
(11,205 posts)Duppers
(28,371 posts)Lean on folks who understand.
Sending sincere condolences and hugs.
😔
lostnfound
(17,111 posts)it is the hardest part of having a great blessing in our lives, the price we pay.
It helped me to see the pain as profoundly meaningful.
Too much for our hearts to bear, yet we must.
It is honoring her.
We weep with you.
George McGovern
(8,379 posts)babylonsister
(172,262 posts)I'm very sad for you, my friend.
abbeyco
(1,579 posts)Sending peace and kind thoughts your way.
wendyb-NC
(4,419 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. May she R.I.P. May you come to a place of peace with her passing. It will take time. Just know, that DU are holding you,your wife and your whole family in our hearts. Take care.
kozar
(3,196 posts)It still is on my mind, 4 years later. Allow yourself to grieve. I didn't, i acted strong for LilBit.
My thoughts are with you.
Koz
samnsara
(18,591 posts)...we will be here for you when you need us. ((hugs)))
TNNurse
(7,367 posts)the words expressed here by so many will bring you some small comfort.
Holding you in the light.
bif
(26,002 posts)I can't imagine what you're going through. Take care of yourself.
walkingman
(9,627 posts)Mr.Bee
(1,064 posts)I lost my Darling Wife at age 25
PittBlue
(4,583 posts)malaise
(287,259 posts)You are a beloved DUer
calimary
(87,205 posts)Just trying to find the end of this VERY long thread was quite an exercise. Its proof of how much you mean to us DUers. Youre not alone, and you dont mourn alone.
Take the time you need to get through this, and be gentle with yourself. Well be here whenever you feel the need to reach out and check in, and/or re-engage.
Aaeia
(157 posts)Be kind to yourself for the next while.
CaptainTruth
(7,803 posts)That's a huge loss... give yourself time...
May she rest in peace...
WiVoter
(1,391 posts)My heart goes out to you, it truly does. I wish I had the right words to bring you comfort.
Martin Eden
(14,676 posts)No words can convey.
No words need be spoken by you at this time.
But Words spoken by you, kentuck, would be sorely missed here in our DU community.
And, in time, I think you will again find words to share with us who share your sorrow (though not the depths of your grief).
Be strong, kentuck. Don't leave us.
crosinski
(655 posts)femmedem
(8,524 posts)Of course you are having trouble processing everything.
All of DU is holding you in our broken hearts.
dawn5651
(713 posts)WinstonSmith4740
(3,365 posts)I've walked that path. Take what time you need. Feel what you're feeling.( I tried to put on the "brave face" and it damn near broke me.) We will be here for you when you're ready. You will get through this.
Mr. Mustard 2023
(332 posts)onethatcares
(16,888 posts)to what's already been said. Peace .
greblach
(284 posts)So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain. Especially with everything else going on....
justaprogressive
(4,845 posts)We're here when you need us.
BobTheSubgenius
(12,056 posts)....words fail me. What could I possibly say to this that would be of any use at all
NoSheep
(8,301 posts)Collimator
(1,954 posts)I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. Be gentle with yourself because you know that is what she would want.
DelMar dem
(64 posts)during this incredibly difficult time.
herding cats
(19,737 posts)
BlueKentuckyGirl
(476 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss, Kentuck. Take care of yourself during these sad times.
cally
(21,776 posts)You matter to me and DU. I mourn the death of your wife and send love.
MissB
(16,331 posts)Im so very sorry for your loss.
BlueSpot
(1,135 posts)But I am with all these other people sending heartfelt condolences.
WillParkinson
(16,873 posts)Our sincerest sympathies on your loss. Sending hugs. If there's anything we can do, please let us know.
zanana1
(6,406 posts)I know you think these things are unimportant right now, but please eat nutritious food and take yourself out for a short walk in the sunshine if you're able to. You're grieving and everything is more difficult for you now, so you need your body to be strong. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Liberal In Texas
(15,461 posts)No words.
Condolences.
PCIntern
(27,509 posts)May her memory always be for a blessing
USAF Brat
(60 posts)This is one of the most difficult times of any persons life. I lost my husband Christmas Day 23 and I still miss him intensely. May your soul find - at least- ease in the next days.
I will miss your insights while you are gone, and I hope you will be able to return to us and share with us again. It might be a good distraction at any rate. {{love}}
blogslug
(38,939 posts)My heart is with you. ❤️
a kennedy
(34,016 posts)I lost my husband a year ago in May
I will never get over it, I miss him so much.