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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsI lost my Darling Wife this morning.
I don't know if I will ever have anything else to say on our beloved DU? I am having difficulty processing everything at the moment.
kentuck

MontanaMama
(24,540 posts)Please accept my condolences on this terrible loss. Holding you in my heart. 💜
hlthe2b
(111,319 posts)It is hard to know what to say, and I don't doubt that shock has consumed you. I hope that you have family with you-- or coming-- or dear friends to be with you. If not, WE, the DU community, are here. Whatever we can do, just ask.
You are in my constant thoughts today, please know.
Duncanpup
(15,127 posts)wryter2000
(47,940 posts)
Lefta Dissenter
(6,689 posts)Im just so terribly sorry.
Irish_Dem
(74,825 posts)Hugs to you.
markie
(23,635 posts)you care to, we will listen... I am so very sorry for your loss
Permanut
(7,548 posts)I would like to hear more about her when you're ready.
alwaysinasnit
(5,494 posts)
JoeOtterbein
(7,856 posts)....sorry.
(tears)
Mike 03
(18,685 posts)That's awful. Please don't worry about processing right this second. You feel what you feel. it will take time, maybe a lot of time to "process" it. God, that's just so sad. I'd say more but I don't know anything about your personal situation. Just please go easy on yourself. You've got to treat yourself with a ton of compassion during times like this. Remember there's no "right or wrong" way to go through what you're going through.
Post whatever you need to post.
Thinking of you and hoping you are okay. Do you have any support, from friends or family members, during this time?
debm55
(50,718 posts)

OLDMDDEM
(2,738 posts)pandr32
(13,414 posts)I wish I could give you a hug. I am so sorry for your precious loss.
Easterncedar
(4,913 posts)I am very sorry for your loss. I have never found any words that help, but for me knowing that people care does. We do. You arent alone.
Biophilic
(6,074 posts)Kali999
(287 posts)So sorry for your loss. My partner died in March. Its hard.
livetohike
(23,675 posts)May the good memories of your life together bring you comfort.
Lonestarblue
(12,923 posts)AZJonnie
(1,515 posts)May she pass gently, I'm sure she was a wonderful woman. Such an awful loss, so, sorry again.
Wife of Kentuck
We're all here for you, friend!
rurallib
(64,137 posts)do whatever you need to do

11 Bravo
(24,198 posts)For what it's worth, know that you are in my thoughts.
irisblue
(35,967 posts)May her memory be a blessing
Oopsie Daisy
(6,670 posts)There are many rough days and weeks again. I'm very sorry to hear the sad news.
Nigrum Cattus
(1,004 posts)Nanuke
(833 posts)Fla Dem
(27,077 posts)marked50
(1,516 posts)ailsagirl
(24,282 posts)


Ocelot II
(127,193 posts)Do whatever you need to do, I hope you have family and friends to help you. Well be here for you.
Beachnutt
(8,873 posts)My condolences to you, it has to be hard.
UpInArms
(53,403 posts)I am so sorry 😢
aggiesal
(10,317 posts)FemDemERA
(583 posts)You must cope with both your grief and also worldly matters. I hope you have support from people around you to help you physically, as well as emotionally through the coming days. Hold tight to the Precious memories of your time together and let the love surround you.
Polly Hennessey
(8,134 posts)This is beyond sad. I dont know what to say. I am heartbroken for you.
happy feet
(1,237 posts)Sending a hug - take care of yourself.
ultralite001
(2,050 posts)Take care of you...
niyad
(127,239 posts)is here for you. Lean as hard as you need. huggggggggs
If you are still here in town in the Old North End, remember you have a DU friend here.
58Sunliner
(6,071 posts)
CrispyQ
(40,231 posts)You are such an integral part of our community. Know that you're in our thoughts.
democrank
(11,778 posts)Life is so bittersweet. Were with you.
Hugs~
Silent Type
(11,116 posts)R. P. McMurphy
(860 posts)I hope that warm and loving memories sweep you away whenever you think of her. I hope you stand tall and carry on in her honor.
I have read your posts for many years and believe that you are a good man. We need you here as the voice of reason that you have come to be known. Take some time and come back to us.
All the best from an old boy from Tazewell, Claiborne County, Tennessee.
Greybnk48
(10,606 posts)Greybnk48
(10,606 posts)Jerryatric
(2,477 posts)I'm sending lots of love and light your way.
arkielib
(416 posts)Post when and if you are ready. We are here for you.
gademocrat7
(11,656 posts)On the loss of your beloved wife. Sending hugs and love to you and your family.
JustinBulletin
(100 posts)I lost my husband just over three years ago and can understand what you are going through. You have my deepest sympathy and my prayers for you finding peace as you work through this tremendous grief.
sop
(16,030 posts)ZZenith
(4,414 posts)I wish you strength and courage as you negotiate the world without her.
Were here if you need us.
3catwoman3
(27,692 posts)...someone here. Wishing you strength and serenity.
ancianita
(41,827 posts)It can be everything overwhelming all at once. Let friends and family help you through this, and we'll be here, too. Family and friends can be golden in days ahead. No matter how long you grieve, grief is love, too. And it can still be the happy memories of the little things, and your love, that will live beyond this.
lark
(25,447 posts)I hope you have some close family/friends that you can talk to. I'm sure you're in shock right now.
GiqueCee
(2,823 posts)... return to the Sea of Souls, they live on in our cherished memories of their kindness.
senseandsensibility
(23,866 posts)and know that we are here for you. Words fail me, my friend. May your darling wife RIP.
bluescribbler
(2,387 posts)My wife of 24 years passed away on November 28, 2009, after a 12-year battle with metastatic melanoma. She was just 51 years old. I know that things will get better for you, but it will take time.
woodsprite
(12,492 posts)1WorldHope
(1,596 posts)Eliot Rosewater
(34,073 posts)sdfernando
(5,901 posts)Nothing I can say will really help in the moment, but in time you will again join us. I really look forward to the day when you feel strong enough to do so.
karin_sj
(1,240 posts)There are no words that can ease your pain, but I hope that the love and concern demonstrated here shows you how many people care about you and your family in this sad time.
bucolic_frolic
(52,405 posts)Condolences to you and yours.
You enlighten our minds every day, know that you are in ours as well.
Solly Mack
(95,688 posts)My most heartfelt condolences.
ms liberty
(10,590 posts)
Diamond_Dog
(38,476 posts)I cant imagine how you must be feeling right now. Like the world has turned upside down.
Please be kind to yourself. We here at DU send our deepest heartfelt sympathies.
Tree Lady
(12,708 posts)
intheflow
(29,708 posts)May her memory be a blessing, and may the memory of her love carry through this difficult time.
quaint
(4,155 posts)💔
Buddyzbuddy
(1,461 posts)Grim Chieftain
(592 posts)You are in my thoughts and in my heart. I hope you feel the love, support and healing vibes from your DU family.
orangecrush
(26,713 posts)
popsdenver
(481 posts)All of our hearts and love are with you, it must be devastating........
mwmisses4289
(2,216 posts)sorry for loss.
Jughead
(106 posts)blm
(114,312 posts)Our hearts are reaching out to you.
greatauntoftriplets
(178,236 posts)
Phoenix61
(18,550 posts)mobeau69
(12,127 posts)
GPV
(73,311 posts)any time.

Jrsygrl96
(259 posts)Deepest condolences. 😢

LymphocyteLover
(8,745 posts)awesomerwb1
(4,844 posts)no_hypocrisy
(53,074 posts)Please accept my condolences.
otchmoson
(217 posts)Inhale . . . exhale . . . processing, pain, grieving will all come, but for yourself (and all who care about you). . . just continue breathe.
bamagal62
(4,165 posts)❤️❤️❤️
edhopper
(36,643 posts)I will keep you in my thoughts.
SocialDemocrat61
(5,665 posts)FalloutShelter
(13,796 posts)If I've learned one thin about DU tho, it is that we will be here for you.
Sending a hug.
Deep State Witch
(12,198 posts)For your loss. Hail the Traveler! May she go forth shining!
dsc
(53,126 posts)please take care of yourself.
Mad_Dem_X
(10,019 posts)
Grumpy Old Guy
(4,074 posts)JMCKUSICK
(3,917 posts)We'll be here for you in any capacity you need.
littlemissmartypants
(29,759 posts)
One day at a time, one moment at a time. May each hour of the day give you a blessing as you go through this great change. Remember, it is OK to grieve, it is not something one just gets over.
We here at DU will always be here for you.
ProfessorGAC
(74,446 posts)Hoping you can adjust!
Take care.
TygrBright
(21,200 posts)Hekate
(99,443 posts)






KT2000
(21,716 posts)
gab13by13
(29,784 posts)I will be thinking of you. We will be here for you if needed.
FSogol
(47,451 posts)kimbutgar
(26,033 posts)My condolences are with you during this trying day. She will always be with you in your heart and spiritually when you least expect it !💐❤️
PatSeg
(50,944 posts)MissouriDem47
(277 posts)You have my wife and I condolences.
Maraya1969
(23,346 posts)SleeplessinSoCal
(10,278 posts)I hope you can hold tight to your happy memories.
DFW
(58,929 posts)Only memories of her to guide you from here on in. Its a lonely path. We can only wave in sympathy from the sidelines, and hope that you some day find your way to waving back.
colorado_ufo
(6,139 posts)
Renew Deal
(84,483 posts)It's not easy and I can't promise it will get better, but you should take the time you need to deal with it. I doubt you will ever fully get over it but there are a lot of good things about life and those good things will become apparent over time.
lostincalifornia
(4,458 posts)lapucelle
(20,687 posts)Your DU family is holding you close in its heart.
Vinca
(52,687 posts)Exp
(574 posts)there right next to you. That love can still be there.
Be kind to yourself.
Wicked Blue
(8,239 posts)Blessings of peace and healing as you deal with this enormous grief.
mcar
(45,332 posts)Blessings on you and your family.
Emile
(37,535 posts)
Nittersing
(7,615 posts)
BadgerMom
(3,318 posts)beveeheart
(1,504 posts)
KS Toronado
(21,273 posts)May the memories of your wife be a blessing to you.
Tikki
(14,935 posts)It hurts like mad.
Tikki
Sailingdiver
(292 posts)BumRushDaShow
(160,177 posts)We all grieve with you.
KG
(28,790 posts)DownriverDem
(6,902 posts)There are no words that will make the shock and pain go away. Just know that we here at DU care greatly.
BlueKota
(4,599 posts)highplainsdem
(58,208 posts)hadn't posted that she was ill. Every loss of a loved one is hard to process, but it's especially hard when the loss is unexpected.
I hope you have family and friends nearby. And we're here for you.
LoisB
(11,628 posts)
question everything
(50,966 posts)
regnaD kciN
(27,268 posts)
KitFox
(408 posts)your DU family cares and will always be here for you as you inch your way through this. Sending gentle hugs to you and your loved ones. 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
MuseRider
(34,949 posts)to you. We will all be here for you for whatever you need. Wrap yourself up in all the love flowing your way and let us support you whenever you might need it. You know, we all are here now and for however long you feel the need.
mountain grammy
(28,204 posts)Botany
(75,307 posts)Take care
Sea A Chell
(92 posts)😔
Clouds Passing
(5,794 posts)LetMyPeopleVote
(169,809 posts)sueh
(1,912 posts)and she in my prayers. Sending you hugs
angrychair
(11,145 posts)I am so very sorry for your lose and I will keep you in my thoughts
essaynnc
(940 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. We'll be here for you.
NNadir
(36,589 posts)virgdem
(2,277 posts)Please take care of yourself.💔
yonder
(10,137 posts)Your voice is important here - take the time you deserve and come back as you can.
dalton99a
(90,234 posts)CanonRay
(15,613 posts)dlilafae
(316 posts)angel823
(431 posts)No words can help - just take care of yourself and I hope you have a good support system of folks around you.
Come back whenever you are able, we will miss you.
Angel823
mike_c
(36,736 posts)kairos12
(13,406 posts)Deepest condolences kentuck.
Lost my wife 2 years ago
I know the chasm my brother.
MiHale
(12,149 posts)Hugs
waterwatcher123
(406 posts)AltairIV
(955 posts)G_j
(40,543 posts)So very sorry!
JCMach1
(28,982 posts)😔
Haggis 4 Breakfast
(1,496 posts)I post this. I have read your posts for so long, I can't remember when it all started. You have made me laugh, made me stop and reflect, made me re-think my opinions a few times. And I thank you for all of that.
Losing the love of your life is the worst loss of all. I know. You take your time in healing, irrespective of how long that is. May you find peace. I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
SheltieLover
(73,646 posts)I am so saddened to hear of your wife's passing.
Pls know we are here for you to lean on.
Healing vibes on the way to you.
Deuxcents
(24,011 posts)And I wish to add my sincere condolences to you and your loved ones 🌺
SunSeeker
(56,673 posts)Please keep living your life. I'm sure that is what she would have wanted. I'm so sorry about the loss of your beloved wife. 💔
cate94
(3,006 posts)
Linda ladeewolf
(996 posts)CTyankee
(67,066 posts)I am deeply saddened to learn of your loss. We all hold you close at this time, as one of your online communities. We cannot know of the depth of your sorrow (I know I can't) but we can tell you how much we care. We are here for you.
benfranklin1776
(6,955 posts)🫂🫂 Whatever we can do to support you please let us know but were here for you.
cachukis
(3,439 posts)Silver Gaia
(5,147 posts)I am so sorry for your loss. It takes much time to heal from a loss like this. Just know that, as others have said, we are here for you when you are ready.
HeartsCanHope
(1,317 posts)I will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
thomhartmann
(3,989 posts)Kentuck. I cant imagine how you must feel, and dreaded the day that either Louise or I must leave the other first. Sending you prayers and good vibes
Thom
kch22
(9 posts)LuvLoogie
(8,257 posts)My deepest condolences to you.
Evolve Dammit
(21,217 posts)
sheshe2
(93,772 posts)Sending hugs to you and yours.
JustAnotherGen
(37,051 posts)
Kid Berwyn
(21,958 posts)Please accept my deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences.
Passages
(3,604 posts)so they can just be with you now.
Hugs to you, kentuck.
Ninga
(8,924 posts)
Arthur_Frain
(2,240 posts)I hope you find your way, Im sorry for the loss.
Joinfortmill
(18,924 posts)GoneOffShore
(17,899 posts)tavernier
(13,939 posts)Please dont leave us. You are such an important piece of us, and we need to know that you are still here . You dont have to say much; just a word or two. We will understand.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss and your pain.
Marie Marie
(10,539 posts)We are all here for you when you are ready.
S/V Loner
(9,432 posts)The_REAL_Ecumenist
(926 posts)accept my deepest & most sincere condolences. Your family here on DU are sending you rings of love & we'll be here if you need to talk.I hope you can feel the virtual hugs and love we're sending to you. I hope that you're okay with my praying for you, your family & all those who love her & also that your bride has an amazing journey to Paradise. Love, light & hugs to you, Kentuck..
choie
(6,083 posts)I am so very sorry. I lost my husband suddenly and know the pain and devastation you're feeling. Please DM me if you want to talk. My heart is with you and your family.
Kim (AKA Choie)
dobleremolque
(1,056 posts)I don't know what to say, kentuck, except: we're here for you.
maspaha
(652 posts)You are in my prayers
in2herbs
(3,907 posts)underpants
(192,985 posts)LostOne4Ever
(9,712 posts)I cant imagine what you are going through!
alittlelark
(19,053 posts)
🥺💔
Moosepoop
(2,072 posts)My heartfelt condolences go out to you.
Tanuki
(16,067 posts)Please know that countless people here are holding you and your loved ones in our hearts as you journey through this very great loss. There is someone here on DU at any hour of the day or night. You are a much loved member of this community.🕊🌸
harumph
(2,996 posts)LudwigPastorius
(13,399 posts)bronxiteforever
(10,770 posts)
bluestarone
(20,287 posts)
richdj25
(209 posts)I know exactly what you're experiencing right now, for I lost my dear wife over 20 years ago. Just do your best in taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically.
Take care
bdamomma
(69,027 posts)my deepest sympathy to you and your family. We are here for you.
peacebuzzard
(5,648 posts)immeasurable loss.((())))
returnee
(656 posts)Bayard
(26,974 posts)Lean on us. We are here for you, my friend.
ornotna
(11,349 posts)

skylucy
(3,980 posts)usaf-vet
(7,685 posts)CousinIT
(11,858 posts)I know you are devastated.
I am sending you peace and strength vibes as you cope with this terrible loss.
We are here if you want to share.
Big hugs to you my friend.
people
(805 posts)Hope family and friends are holding you now.
h2ebits
(934 posts)NEOH
(257 posts)Sending love and condolences your way.
Blue Owl
(57,346 posts)
Golden Raisin
(4,737 posts)PatrickforB
(15,270 posts)I know how hard this is. Take your time. We all care about you.
milestogo
(21,792 posts)

MIButterfly
(1,285 posts)I send you my deepest sympathy and condolences.
Love,
MIButterfly
Granny M
(1,397 posts)My thoughts and prayers are with you.
pacalo
(24,809 posts)
Tumbulu
(6,585 posts)stillspkg
(128 posts)Demovictory9
(37,113 posts)
riverbendviewgal
(4,368 posts)And our younger son 18 months before my husband. I didn't think I could go on, but I did. You will too.
Beausoleil
(3,002 posts)SalviaBlue
(3,096 posts)Shellback Squid
(9,620 posts)ZDU
(772 posts)You are in our thoughts. Please take good care of yourself. We'll be here to listen when you're ready for us.
Skittles
(167,424 posts)
allegorical oracle
(5,709 posts)with her love. Take your time recovering. Even though she's not right there with you, she still will be with you -- and you will know it.
barbtries
(30,767 posts)I am so sorry Kentuck.
Lars39
(26,418 posts)

malthaussen
(18,290 posts)Bumbles
(412 posts)Be kind to your self, allow room for grief.
Beringia
(5,196 posts)chowder66
(11,262 posts)JoseBalow
(8,402 posts)I hope you are able to find some comfort
farmbo
(3,143 posts)🔔
NewHendoLib
(61,327 posts)

lamp_shade
(15,282 posts)flashman13
(1,494 posts)countingbluecars
(4,771 posts)Mz Pip
(28,228 posts)Please take care and know we are all holding you in our thoughts and prayers.
dlk
(12,936 posts)Sending thoughts for comfort and peace at this difficult time.
Totally Tunsie
(11,178 posts)That's such terribly sad news.
Uncle Joe
(63,162 posts)

relayerbob
(7,271 posts)Thats a tough road. Be gentle on yourself and take the time you need to grieve and process.
Dan
(4,903 posts)Thoughts and prayers to you and your loved ones on this day of grief.
leftstreet
(37,253 posts)Harker
(16,870 posts)stollen
(964 posts)for the loss of your dear loved one.
still-prayin4rain
(504 posts)soldierant
(8,944 posts)when you are ready. Please, as best you can, take care of yourdelf through this and for heaven's sake don't be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help, comfort, or prayers/vibes/however you communicate with the universe.
usonian
(20,500 posts)and whatever hobbies you have.
After some time, maybe a long time, you can just recall the precious moments spent with your wife.
I lost both parents in 1999. They didn't cross that "date line"
After some time, I gathered up all the photos, slides and documents they left, and still need to get together with my brother and document all the wonderful and sometimes weird moments we spent with them. And that's on the to-do list.
Put the remembrance of wonderful times on your to-do list and know that this day, many people are sending you a virtual hug.
róisín_dubh
(12,123 posts)And sending you peace from across the ponds Im so very, very sorry for your loss.
Billsdaughter
(56 posts)and true concern of members here bring you some comfort.
You are encircled.
I'm so sorry.
peggysue2
(12,178 posts)I just saw mention regarding the sad news on the GD feed. I am so sorry. Of course, you're in shock. A loss like this is heart-wounding.
My deepest condolences. Take care of yourself.
BeneteauBum
(211 posts)Time does heal
.I know from personal experience. Hopefully you have close friends you can reach out to
certainly a lot of support from us on DU. One day at a time.
Peace ☮️
BootinUp
(50,399 posts)Trueblue Texan
(3,750 posts)I know your heart is shattered, but while you try to put yourself back together to move forward, know that we are thinking about you and sending our best thoughts for healing. Take care of yourself.
IbogaProject
(4,974 posts)I must caution you to be extra careful taking care of your self, you are at increased personal risk for 6-12 months. Your whole routine has been upended and the risk won't subside until 6-12 months from now. It will seem very bleak once the initial goings on settle down, just remember it is best she isn't the one left behind and be glad you have to do that rather that the other way around. I know it sounds sappy but just be still and take it slow for awhile.
FakeNoose
(38,638 posts)Especially to you, dear Kentuck....
hamsterjill
(16,542 posts)Of course you are having difficulty processing everything! Please just be kind to yourself and know that we are all here. The world just seems to suck right now.
I have said a prayer for you and your family as is my practice. I send hugs, comfort and wishes that you may find strength and peace during this difficult time.
KPN
(16,920 posts)I cant imagine how much hurt you must be feeling. Please take care of yourself and though I dont really know that I believe in God, peace and God Bless.
cliffside
(1,321 posts)and you are ready we'll be here.
dflprincess
(29,021 posts)Keeping you in my thoughts.
KY_EnviroGuy
(14,740 posts)Having experienced this exact event myself in 2019, I feel your pain and loss. My wife and I were married in 1965, right out of high school and she stayed by my side through some very trying times. I am eternally grateful for her life and I'm blessed to have the love of our two adult children.
I sincerely believe you will heal with time and carry on your family tradition of progressive living in her honor.
Please let the DU family know if there's anything we can do.
One day at a time, good friend............ ........
The Wizard
(13,390 posts)goes with living a long life. We survivors must endure the pain. In time you will adjust and be thankful for the life you had with her. In the meantime, take whatever time you need to grieve. "For everything there is a season..."
traveler50
(15 posts)Let me express my deepest sympathy.
Hassler
(4,532 posts)progressoid
(51,926 posts)
Beacool
(30,453 posts)I can't even imagine the pain that you're going through right now. I hope that you have a support system, family and friends that you can rely on. My condolences to you and your family. May your beloved wife rest in peace.
debsy
(649 posts)
electric_blue68
(23,874 posts)So, So sorry for such a devastating loss!
spanone
(140,180 posts)Life can be so heartbreaking.
redwitch
(15,183 posts)Sending love and hugs to you.
Chicagogrl1
(574 posts)Sending you big hugs.
Eko
(9,687 posts)And more big hugs.
flamingdem
(40,659 posts)
Mira
(22,592 posts)I embrace your pain, hoping that some of it will be replaced with gratitude for the time you had together. At first, you must endure. For that I am so very sad with you.
Mike Nelson
(10,745 posts)... you loved her very much. Love is forever. You are not alone.
samplegirl
(13,375 posts)I understand. Wish I could help you. I'm so sorry.
🙏
liberalla
(10,679 posts)I hope you find your way to healing and receive comfort and peace on the way...
surfered
(9,228 posts)Youll always have your memories
Stinky The Clown
(68,790 posts)
berniesandersmittens
(12,537 posts)Dem2theMax
(10,986 posts)Along with everyone else who has posted here, I send you my sympathy.
As many have said, you are in shock right now.
Be kind to your soul. And let yourself feel everything you are feeling. There is no right way or wrong way to go through this. There is only the way that you find for yourself.
We are here for you. 24/7. Always.
BigmanPigman
(53,766 posts)I have tears in my eyes (really) as I write this. What the hell happened? No need to respond....I am grieving for your huge and sudden situation and the shock is very real. My dad died suddenly in his sleep (he was healthy as a horse) 6 years ago. The grief never goes away for me, never!
Peacetrain
(24,248 posts)
badhair77
(4,986 posts)When you feel up to it, and if you feel up to it, Id love to hear about her. Next week it will be 5 years since my husband passed and I find a lot of pleasure talking about him, even now. Doing the same might bring some peace to you and we are always willing to listen.
byronius
(7,822 posts)Im sorry.
FoxNewsSucks
(11,320 posts)and I really don't know what to say or how to help at times like this.
Buzz cook
(2,779 posts)That's how I was able to deal with grief. Sorry for your lose.
Morbius
(667 posts)Remember it is okay to lean on people, and to let others lean on you.
I wish I had something wise to offer. I don't.
Please be well.
Ohiya
(2,618 posts)SaveOurDemocracy
(4,541 posts)I will be thinking of you and sending my best wishes for love, comfort and healing.
LatteLady
(84 posts)We are with you in spirit and holding you up in our hearts. May her memory be a blessing.
Saoirse9
(3,914 posts)Prayers for peace and sending lots of love your way.
Marthe48
(21,814 posts)Be kind to yourself. DU is here if you want and need us. This community helped me immensely when my husband passed away. I hope you find comfort.
PAMod
(944 posts)sestina
(450 posts)to you for the many tough moments ahead.
It's hard to lose the love of your life, the person you chose and who chose you, to be there for each other 24/7.
May your beautiful memories and the people who show up to comfort you make your journey through unbearable grief a little easier everyday.
Years ago, I found this quote by Anne Lamott, and whenever I revisit it, I replace the first word 'Faith' with 'Grief'.
Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some light returns.
Anne Lamott
From "Traveling Mercies" 1999
The Blue Flower
(6,165 posts)I'm very, very sorry that she's gone. I hope you find joy and comfort in your memories. Life is way too hard sometimes. Take care of yourself as she would have done.
sinkingfeeling
(56,337 posts)AnotherMother4Peace
(4,881 posts)Tesha
(21,061 posts)I can't image, kentuck, but we're here for you
area51
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MustLoveBeagles
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Dem4life1970
(969 posts)CountAllVotes
(21,949 posts)It is such a huge loss losing a partner in life.
My husband has been gone just over three years now and I'm still out of it in the head.
It seems once you accept the fact that they are not returning (at least in this life) you are able to start taking small steps, very small.
I wish you the very best and please take good care of yourself.
My condolences kentuck.
& recommend.
CentralMass
(16,509 posts)Jack Valentino
(3,248 posts)Try to be thankful for the time that you had together....
many of us were not as blessed as you apparently were....
Alice B.
(620 posts)OAITW r.2.0
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summer_in_TX
(3,825 posts)💔
Sending you and your family and 🙏.
V850i
(112 posts)No one is ever really gone. Take everything a day at a time. Everything good your way!!!
denbot
(9,938 posts)💐
JHB
(37,831 posts)...it's the truth. Don't even bother with trying to process things yet, wait until the world stops tumbling. I hope you have people in your life who will step in and help you with all the mundane details of getting by until you are ready to deal with the world again.
chowmama
(886 posts)I can't imagine what you must be going through. I'm so sorry.
Figarosmom
(8,539 posts)Last edited Sat Jul 26, 2025, 03:24 AM - Edit history (1)
Nevermind us and we'll be here if you need us.
Take care of yourself and I am sorry for your loss.🌹
Moostache
(10,783 posts)You are in my thoughts and I pray you receive all the love and support you need.
HarryM
(427 posts)Doodley
(11,366 posts)Duppers
(28,426 posts)Lean on folks who understand.
Sending sincere condolences and hugs.
😔
lostnfound
(17,199 posts)it is the hardest part of having a great blessing in our lives, the price we pay.
It helped me to see the pain as profoundly meaningful.
Too much for our hearts to bear, yet we must.
It is honoring her.
We weep with you.
George McGovern
(9,391 posts)babylonsister
(172,337 posts)I'm very sad for you, my friend.
abbeyco
(1,581 posts)Sending peace and kind thoughts your way.
wendyb-NC
(4,479 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss. May she R.I.P. May you come to a place of peace with her passing. It will take time. Just know, that DU are holding you,your wife and your whole family in our hearts. Take care.
kozar
(3,232 posts)It still is on my mind, 4 years later. Allow yourself to grieve. I didn't, i acted strong for LilBit.
My thoughts are with you.
Koz
samnsara
(18,625 posts)...we will be here for you when you need us. ((hugs)))
TNNurse
(7,405 posts)the words expressed here by so many will bring you some small comfort.
Holding you in the light.
bif
(26,224 posts)I can't imagine what you're going through. Take care of yourself.
walkingman
(9,835 posts)Mr.Bee
(1,215 posts)I lost my Darling Wife at age 25
PittBlue
(4,612 posts)malaise
(289,101 posts)You are a beloved DUer
calimary
(87,834 posts)Just trying to find the end of this VERY long thread was quite an exercise. Its proof of how much you mean to us DUers. Youre not alone, and you dont mourn alone.
Take the time you need to get through this, and be gentle with yourself. Well be here whenever you feel the need to reach out and check in, and/or re-engage.
Aaeia
(162 posts)Be kind to yourself for the next while.
CaptainTruth
(7,885 posts)That's a huge loss... give yourself time...
May she rest in peace...
WiVoter
(1,455 posts)My heart goes out to you, it truly does. I wish I had the right words to bring you comfort.
Martin Eden
(14,887 posts)No words can convey.
No words need be spoken by you at this time.
But Words spoken by you, kentuck, would be sorely missed here in our DU community.
And, in time, I think you will again find words to share with us who share your sorrow (though not the depths of your grief).
Be strong, kentuck. Don't leave us.
crosinski
(656 posts)femmedem
(8,527 posts)Of course you are having trouble processing everything.
All of DU is holding you in our broken hearts.
dawn5651
(727 posts)WinstonSmith4740
(3,381 posts)I've walked that path. Take what time you need. Feel what you're feeling.( I tried to put on the "brave face" and it damn near broke me.) We will be here for you when you're ready. You will get through this.
Mr. Mustard 2023
(336 posts)onethatcares
(16,915 posts)to what's already been said. Peace .
greblach
(285 posts)So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain. Especially with everything else going on....
justaprogressive
(5,430 posts)We're here when you need us.
BobTheSubgenius
(12,091 posts)....words fail me. What could I possibly say to this that would be of any use at all
NoSheep
(8,304 posts)Collimator
(1,965 posts)I cannot even begin to imagine your pain. Be gentle with yourself because you know that is what she would want.
DelMar dem
(65 posts)during this incredibly difficult time.
herding cats
(19,841 posts)
BlueKentuckyGirl
(489 posts)I'm so sorry for your loss, Kentuck. Take care of yourself during these sad times.
cally
(21,788 posts)You matter to me and DU. I mourn the death of your wife and send love.
MissB
(16,337 posts)Im so very sorry for your loss.
BlueSpot
(1,186 posts)But I am with all these other people sending heartfelt condolences.
WillParkinson
(16,873 posts)Our sincerest sympathies on your loss. Sending hugs. If there's anything we can do, please let us know.
zanana1
(6,428 posts)I know you think these things are unimportant right now, but please eat nutritious food and take yourself out for a short walk in the sunshine if you're able to. You're grieving and everything is more difficult for you now, so you need your body to be strong. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Liberal In Texas
(15,608 posts)No words.
Condolences.
PCIntern
(27,620 posts)May her memory always be for a blessing
USAF Brat
(61 posts)This is one of the most difficult times of any persons life. I lost my husband Christmas Day 23 and I still miss him intensely. May your soul find - at least- ease in the next days.
I will miss your insights while you are gone, and I hope you will be able to return to us and share with us again. It might be a good distraction at any rate. {{love}}
blogslug
(39,005 posts)My heart is with you. ❤️
a kennedy
(34,418 posts)I lost my husband a year ago in May
I will never get over it, I miss him so much.