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NNadir

(35,629 posts)
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:03 AM Friday

My wife's in surgery. I hate the silence in the waiting room.

Last edited Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:38 AM - Edit history (1)

Update: The doctor called. She's in recovery. The procedure went well and was sucessful.

Trying to read to keep my mind off it. The doctor is well rated and the procedure as heart procedures go is low risk. Still I'm really stressed. We're an hour into it according to the progress monitor.

I don't want to turn the damn TV on. It would make me crazy.
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My wife's in surgery. I hate the silence in the waiting room. (Original Post) NNadir Friday OP
... 2naSalit Friday #1
Oh, I know the feeling both being in surgery and waiting for surgery to be done on loved ones Walleye Friday #2
Do an online crossword or visit the DU lounge. And let us know when she's in recovery. sinkingfeeling Friday #3
I hope all goes well. LoisB Friday #4
Peace. cachukis Friday #5
FWIW, I walk around the hospital when doing this. Gore1FL Friday #6
I hope it goes very well. brer cat Friday #7
I'm sitting with you in spirit. Alliepoo Friday #8
((NNadir)) blm Friday #9
🫂 mwmisses4289 Friday #10
Hoping all goes well with your wife 💚 sending healing and comforting energy 💚😌 Clouds Passing Friday #11
Sending you warm thoughts for the wellbeing of you both ! Karadeniz Friday #12
Good vibes to you and your wife True Dough Friday #13
Hoping for a successful outcome! Wicked Blue Friday #14
Healing vibes to her SheltieLover Friday #15
You sit there waiting and watching the rest of the world carry on in their normalcy, while KitFox Friday #16
The waiting sucks. Wishing for you some peaceful thoughts. Solly Mack Friday #17
Very normal for you to feel that way Jarqui Friday #18
Hugs to you and your wife Duncanpup Friday #19
All done. She's in recovery and the procedure was sucessful. NNadir Friday #20
We're with you Sienna86 Friday #21
We're with you, NNadir, and sending love and good energy for you and your wife. wordstroken Friday #22
Good news. 👍 electric_blue68 Friday #23
Glad to see the update. I kind of shot past the OP, but caught it on the second pass. eppur_se_muova Friday #24
It's what she was in for, ablation to stop the afib episodes. Those episodes have been scaring the shit out of us... NNadir Friday #27
Ugh ... your wife's case sounds more severe than Mom's. She didn't have the ablation procedure (yet) but her ... eppur_se_muova Friday #29
Glad Things Are Ok So Far ProfessorGAC Friday #25
That's wonderful news! JMCKUSICK Friday #26
Sending good vibes claudette Friday #28
Great! Here's hoping for a speedy recovery surfered Friday #30
Wishing her a speedy recovery. sinkingfeeling Friday #31

Walleye

(39,752 posts)
2. Oh, I know the feeling both being in surgery and waiting for surgery to be done on loved ones
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:09 AM
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It’s frightening beyond words. I hope sincerely everything turns out all right for you and she recovers fully and quickly.

sinkingfeeling

(55,073 posts)
3. Do an online crossword or visit the DU lounge. And let us know when she's in recovery.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:09 AM
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Hang in there.

Gore1FL

(22,411 posts)
6. FWIW, I walk around the hospital when doing this.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:13 AM
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It keeps my mind occupied and deals with the blood pressure I get worrying.

My thoughts are with you and your wife.

Alliepoo

(2,686 posts)
8. I'm sitting with you in spirit.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 09:36 AM
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The time in the waiting room is awful. I’m sending all good vibes to your wife and a big ((HUG)) to you as you are waiting to hear from the doctor. I know it will all be good but that doesn’t make the wait any easier. Let us know when you hear!!!

KitFox

(289 posts)
16. You sit there waiting and watching the rest of the world carry on in their normalcy, while
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:26 AM
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your world is at a standstill. Hoping the blissful relief when the doc approaches with good news comes soon! Sending hugs to you and your dear wife. Please keep us updated. 🩷

Jarqui

(10,625 posts)
18. Very normal for you to feel that way
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:35 AM
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Even medical procedures that are deemed 99.9x% likely to be successful can drive me crazy
Your wife married the right person.

NNadir

(35,629 posts)
20. All done. She's in recovery and the procedure was sucessful.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 11:39 AM
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Thanks for all the good wishes.

wordstroken

(1,084 posts)
22. We're with you, NNadir, and sending love and good energy for you and your wife.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 12:03 PM
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I truly know how you feel as you wait. The silence can be overwhelming.

Great news of your update. So glad she’s in recovery and doing well.

eppur_se_muova

(38,922 posts)
24. Glad to see the update. I kind of shot past the OP, but caught it on the second pass.
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 06:29 PM
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A little late for best wishes for the procedure, but I can still wish you both a good recovery.


Several years ago, my mom had her heart stopped and restarted to try to bring her afib under control. It's probably the lowest-risk cardiac procedure you can get, but just the thought was anxiety-inducing -- anything concerning the heart is, whatever the doctors say, so I can sympathize. (She came out of it fine, but still with afib.)

NNadir

(35,629 posts)
27. It's what she was in for, ablation to stop the afib episodes. Those episodes have been scaring the shit out of us...
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 07:28 PM
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...for quite some time. They've been managed with propranolol, but apparently with age, the drug loses effectiveness.

Apparently it's a familial genetic thing with her mother and uncles, an extra node.

We figured we'd deal with it before the country collapses which it seems to be doing.

eppur_se_muova

(38,922 posts)
29. Ugh ... your wife's case sounds more severe than Mom's. She didn't have the ablation procedure (yet) but her ...
Fri Apr 18, 2025, 07:39 PM
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cardiologist seems to think it's not a good idea at her age (88). She just had the "jumper start", which sometimes resets the rhythm. She relies on metoprolol, which is not as strong, but more selective, than propranolol. (Plus Xarelto to avoid clots, plus levothyroxin to offset the side effects of Xarelto ...)

Lots of luck to both of you. Mom's lived with her condition for years now, but no one has ever said her condition was genetic, so maybe not as reassuring as we'd like.

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