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applegrove

(133,217 posts)
Tue May 26, 2026, 11:51 PM 17 hrs ago

How to talk to a MAGA:

1/ Most of us think the problem is that we do not have enough facts. But research shows something different.The words we choose, tone we use, & even how we open conversation can shut a person down before we ever get to the point.Here is what to stop doing
#DV1 #ProudBlue #Voices4Victory #USDemocracy

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.607Z


2/ The number one conversation killer is the fact dump. Someone says something wrong and you immediately flood them with data. Their brain hears it as an attack. The defenses go up. Rational thinking goes offline. And you have lost them before you made a single real point.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.608Z


3/ Second biggest mistake: moral superiority. Any language that implies you are smarter or more ethical than they are triggers what researchers call ego-defensiveness. You feel righteous. They feel condescended to. Nobody moves. And the relationship pays the price.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.609Z


4/ Third: challenging someone in public. If you correct your uncle at the dinner table in front of the whole family, he is not going to agree with you. He is going to dig in to save face. Public confrontation almost always backfires. Private conversations is where minds open.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.610Z


5/ Fourth: making a soft Republican feel like they have to join the other side. The moment they think you are recruiting them, every wall goes up. Their identity is at stake. Your job is not to make them a Democrat. It is to help them trust their own values again. Huge difference.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.611Z


6/ Here is what works instead. Lead with curiosity. Ask what they think before you tell them what you think. "I have been wondering about something" lands completely differently than "You need to know this." A question invites. A declaration pushes. Every single time.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.612Z


7/ Ask permission. "I have been reading a lot about this lately. Would you be open to hearing a different take?" That one sentence changes the dynamic entirely. It respects their autonomy. It signals you are not trying to bulldoze them. And most people will say yes.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.613Z


8/ Use your own experience. "I am worried about my mom's prescriptions" lands differently than "the tariffs are raising pharmaceutical costs by 7%." Personal stakes make it real. Abstract politics keeps it distant. Keep it human, keep it close, keep it about people you know.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.614Z


9/ When they share something you know is misinformation, do not call them a liar. Ask: "What makes that source trustworthy to you?" That question does more than any fact-check ever will. It invites them to think rather than defend. Then whovoted4this.org has the receipts when needed.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.615Z


10/ The one skill that unlocks conversations is asking the right questions. It turns out the most persuasive thing you can do in a political conversation is stop talking and start asking. The research on this is striking.

Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.616Z
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How to talk to a MAGA: (Original Post) applegrove 17 hrs ago OP
Bopping them over the head with a 2x4 is the only thing that will knock any sense into them NoRethugFriends 17 hrs ago #1
That whole scolding, guilt-tripping piece assumes that we are dealing with niyad 16 hrs ago #2
I can't fix stupid RainCaster 15 hrs ago #3
Using questions is essential to having a meaningful and successful conversation with anyone. But let's not forget... littlemissmartypants 15 hrs ago #4
And while nowhere near as bad as a psychopath, add to that 30% the number who are sociopaths. Arthur_Frain 2 hrs ago #25
A few distinctions exist between the two, but the main difference is whether one is littlemissmartypants 1 hr ago #28
all that sounds very rational ... for patient people to try orleans 15 hrs ago #5
If the object is to have a discussion and not an - werdna 15 hrs ago #6
You are most welcome. applegrove 15 hrs ago #7
You can't have a discussion with MAGAts. They all follow too many logical fallacies in their verbal vomit AZLD4Candidate 15 hrs ago #8
If I may Seinan Sensei 14 hrs ago #10
PA-REACH, MY BROTHER! ColoringFool 11 hrs ago #15
The Mistaken Assumption Is That The Conversant Is..... ColoringFool 10 hrs ago #16
THANK YOU FOR YOUR ATTENTION TO THIS MATTER!!!!!! AZLD4Candidate 10 hrs ago #18
Heh. ColoringFool 7 hrs ago #19
Talking to a MAGA is like teaching a dog to type SocialDemocrat61 15 hrs ago #9
I just say, ''You're an idiot.'' and walk away ... aggiesal 14 hrs ago #11
This strikes me as sagacious. Morbius 11 hrs ago #12
It Strikes Me As Stupid To The Max. ColoringFool 11 hrs ago #14
FT💩! THE ONLY ANSWER IS: DON'T! EVER! I'm TIRED Of Being.... ColoringFool 11 hrs ago #13
The problem with this, as I see it... kentuck 10 hrs ago #17
IOW...don't treat them like they treat us, right? Wounded Bear 7 hrs ago #20
I know a few MAGAs. This won't work on them progressoid 5 hrs ago #21
I don't pussyfoot around them anymore. La Coliniere 4 hrs ago #22
I ask questions orthoclad 4 hrs ago #23
The real answer to post 9 is Qutzupalotl 3 hrs ago #24
MAGATs see polite, thoughtful engagement as weakness DBoon 2 hrs ago #26
Sorry, I am not going to pretend psychopaths are good, decent people. Irish_Dem 2 hrs ago #27
My stomach clenches at this, but it's right. Scrivener7 41 min ago #29

niyad

(134,165 posts)
2. That whole scolding, guilt-tripping piece assumes that we are dealing with
Wed May 27, 2026, 12:54 AM
16 hrs ago

at least semi-rational people who might pay even the slightest bit of attention to anything we have to say. Sorry. I solved the communication issues simply by not interacting with these petty little destructo machines. Fortunately, I rarely encounter them.

littlemissmartypants

(34,550 posts)
4. Using questions is essential to having a meaningful and successful conversation with anyone. But let's not forget...
Wed May 27, 2026, 01:59 AM
15 hrs ago

They might be psychopaths.

Psychopathy is a very common
mental disorder. It is twice as
common as schizophrenia,
anorexia, and bipolar disorder.
It is equally common as bulimia,
panic disorder, and autism.
The only mental disorders
significantly more common than
psychopathy are substance abuse
or dependence, depression, and
post-traumatic stress disorder.

Psychopathy affects all
ethnic, cultural, racial,
and socioeconomic groups.

...psychopathy
is a spectrum disorder,

Prevalence in the United States
Approximately 70% of the
population is estimated to
have no psychopathic traits
whatsoever.

Key Point
👇👇👇👇👇👇
The remaining
30% have low, medium, or
high levels of psychopathy.


Source:
https://psychopathyis.org/stats/



Characteristics of Psychopaths

1. Aggressive, callous, and cunning
2. Complete absence of conscience and empathy
3. Very adept at manipulating others
4. Willingness to engage in immoral, criminal conduct
5. Willingness to take what they want and do as they please, regardless of who is hurt or wronged
6. Deceptive ability to appear outwardly benevolent
7. Deceptive ability to behave in superficially charming ways to hide purely selfish motives
8. Willingness to use intimidation and violence to control others in order to satisfy their own needs
9. Willingness to intentionally violate the basic inherent human rights of others
10. Complete absence of any sense of guilt or remorse for the harm their actions have caused to others
11. Rationalization of their own immoral behavior
12. Will attempt to lay blame upon someone else for their own conduct
13. Denial, will deny their own wrongdoing outright
14. Utter contemptuousness toward the feelings and desires of their fellow beings
15. Pathological lying, will say anything without any concern for truth to advance their own hidden agendas
16. Ablity to feign [fake] normal human emotions and empathy
17. Distorted sense of the consequences of their actions
18. Total failure to accept any responsibility for their own socially irresponsible ways
19. Strong bellef that they will never be brought to justice for their criminal behavior


Learn how to spot one. If for no other reason than to save humanity and you might save democracy along the way.

❤️

Arthur_Frain

(2,411 posts)
25. And while nowhere near as bad as a psychopath, add to that 30% the number who are sociopaths.
Wed May 27, 2026, 03:32 PM
2 hrs ago

Neither of them are scintillating conversationalists. Why would I want to waste my time trying is beyond me.

littlemissmartypants

(34,550 posts)
28. A few distinctions exist between the two, but the main difference is whether one is
Wed May 27, 2026, 04:00 PM
1 hr ago

genetically based or environmentally based.

Psychopathy is thought to have stronger genetic links and is associated with a lack of empathy, whereas sociopathy is more often connected to environmental factors such as trauma or abuse.

These are the primary distinctions. The effects on society are not very different.

orleans

(37,241 posts)
5. all that sounds very rational ... for patient people to try
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:00 AM
15 hrs ago

i don't have much patience with "them" and haven't for quite awhile.
i don't deal/interact with "them"
i'll let the nice, tolerant, patient dems give it a try
i would totally suck at it

werdna

(1,257 posts)
6. If the object is to have a discussion and not an -
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:04 AM
15 hrs ago

- argument, these are all time honored suggestions to achieve productive communication. I believe these suggestions would work in written communications - such as social media, chat-rooms - as well. Thank you , applegrove, for this post.

AZLD4Candidate

(6,992 posts)
8. You can't have a discussion with MAGAts. They all follow too many logical fallacies in their verbal vomit
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:14 AM
15 hrs ago

that one can't keep up. Gish Gallop is their biggest one, following by argument from ignorance, hasty generalization, red herring, strawman, sophistry, moral relativism, appeal to authority, the divine fallacy, begging the question, slippery slope, loaded question, confirmation bias, equivocation, Texas sharpening, and the No True Scotsman fallacy.

Seinan Sensei

(1,654 posts)
10. If I may
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:48 AM
14 hrs ago

It’s the Texas Sharpshooter Fallacy

One of my faves
It’s almost like something from a Twain story

ColoringFool

(1,159 posts)
16. The Mistaken Assumption Is That The Conversant Is.....
Wed May 27, 2026, 06:50 AM
10 hrs ago

A RATIONAL PERSON.

BUT MAGAts POST PICTURES OF TRUMP AS CHRIST, FGS! AS A HE-MAN! AS WALKING WITH ALIENS! AS A TOUGH GUY!

THEY ARE RACISTS, MISOGYNISTS, GREEDHEADS, FOOLS, GULLS, AND KNAVES---

AND THEY WOULD LITERALLY KILL US ALL IF THEY KNEW THEY'D BE PARDONED BY TRUMP!

THIS ESSAY NO DOUBT MADE THE WRITER FEEL GOOD AND DECENT AND RATIONAL AND LOGICAL AND EMOTIONALLY STABLE AND MAYBE EVEN BRILLIANT IF HE WERE HONEST, BUT IN POINT OF FACT THE AUTHOR IS.....

NAIVE.

SocialDemocrat61

(8,070 posts)
9. Talking to a MAGA is like teaching a dog to type
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:16 AM
15 hrs ago

You're never going to get back anything intelligent and it just pisses off the dog.

aggiesal

(10,925 posts)
11. I just say, ''You're an idiot.'' and walk away ...
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:52 AM
14 hrs ago

I could care less if they're sway-able.
I want them to feel like an idiot.

Morbius

(1,144 posts)
12. This strikes me as sagacious.
Wed May 27, 2026, 05:50 AM
11 hrs ago

Useful if you have family members or others you can't avoid who have surrendered their wits.

I'd be interested in a similar take on "How to talk to a liberal." Just to see what would be said about me.

ColoringFool

(1,159 posts)
13. FT💩! THE ONLY ANSWER IS: DON'T! EVER! I'm TIRED Of Being....
Wed May 27, 2026, 06:40 AM
11 hrs ago

Admonished, advised, attacked, accused....

FT&T🐎TRIO!

He wants questions? Here's my question:

"WHY DO YOU THINK A CONVICTED FELON, JUDGED RAPIST, AND ACCUSED PEDOPHILE IS FIT TO BE THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES?

No BS changing the topic. No Biden this or Obama that. JUST ANSWER THE GD QUESTION."

Now, of course all MAGAts will answer: "I don't believe any of that Democrat crap. It's all Fake News. Trump is the greatest President we've ever had."

So, Genius Author, tell me your next rational approach.

Because I'm looking at your board and I'm calling Checkmate.

kentuck

(115,683 posts)
17. The problem with this, as I see it...
Wed May 27, 2026, 06:59 AM
10 hrs ago

Is that they will not change their minds. They will only become more emboldened and believe that they have a chance to convert you to the cult.

Wounded Bear

(64,692 posts)
20. IOW...don't treat them like they treat us, right?
Wed May 27, 2026, 10:19 AM
7 hrs ago


Kind of like the farmer who sold his mule and included a 4 foot 2x4 in the deal. When asked why, he said the 2x4 is to get his attention.

progressoid

(53,403 posts)
21. I know a few MAGAs. This won't work on them
Wed May 27, 2026, 12:11 PM
5 hrs ago

This presumes that they are rational or logical. That's naive at best.

Also, they have been groomed by years of right-wing media. They need cult de-programing.

La Coliniere

(2,007 posts)
22. I don't pussyfoot around them anymore.
Wed May 27, 2026, 01:03 PM
4 hrs ago

I’m blunt and to the point. If they shut down or become defensive so be it. I have no more patience or fucks to give in regards to having a rational discussion with MAGA.

orthoclad

(4,873 posts)
23. I ask questions
Wed May 27, 2026, 01:06 PM
4 hrs ago

generally along the lines of "who exactly has their hands in your pocket".

Most magats have been propagandized from the cradle on by the vast media octopi which flood the zone with fear and rage. The Reich Wing understands very well that very little human behavior is rational. There's much more return on investment by stroking the subconscious, the emotional part of the brain that responds to fight-or-flight stimuli.

The people are suffering from exploitation by the rich. Several generations now are less secure than the previous one. There are good reasons to feel fear and rage. So the media empires give people lots of shiny object targets and validates their fear and rage - but not for the real perps of oppression.

Very little political behavior is rational. By anyone. We get nowhere by expecting rationality, which is rare and precious.

Qutzupalotl

(15,861 posts)
24. The real answer to post 9 is
Wed May 27, 2026, 02:38 PM
3 hrs ago

they WANT to believe the worst about their opponents, to feel better about themselves. So they will swallow any lie or half-truth, and implicitly trust any source that provides it, in order TO FEEL GOOD.

So as much as these hypocrites decry liberal policies as “feel good,” try taking away their sources of dopamine and serotonin for a couple of days. They would lose their damn minds.

Until they break out of their addiction to hate-fueled highs, they are unreachable. The OP has good suggestions about how to proceed with moderate Rs; it's just that they are a dying breed, and we're left with mostly pedo enablers and tyrant enthusiasts.

DBoon

(25,169 posts)
26. MAGATs see polite, thoughtful engagement as weakness
Wed May 27, 2026, 03:36 PM
2 hrs ago

they will discount a respectful reply for this reason

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