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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsHow to talk to a MAGA:
1/ Most of us think the problem is that we do not have enough facts. But research shows something different.The words we choose, tone we use, & even how we open conversation can shut a person down before we ever get to the point.Here is what to stop doing
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.607Z
#DV1 #ProudBlue #Voices4Victory #USDemocracy
2/ The number one conversation killer is the fact dump. Someone says something wrong and you immediately flood them with data. Their brain hears it as an attack. The defenses go up. Rational thinking goes offline. And you have lost them before you made a single real point.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.608Z
3/ Second biggest mistake: moral superiority. Any language that implies you are smarter or more ethical than they are triggers what researchers call ego-defensiveness. You feel righteous. They feel condescended to. Nobody moves. And the relationship pays the price.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.609Z
4/ Third: challenging someone in public. If you correct your uncle at the dinner table in front of the whole family, he is not going to agree with you. He is going to dig in to save face. Public confrontation almost always backfires. Private conversations is where minds open.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.610Z
5/ Fourth: making a soft Republican feel like they have to join the other side. The moment they think you are recruiting them, every wall goes up. Their identity is at stake. Your job is not to make them a Democrat. It is to help them trust their own values again. Huge difference.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.611Z
6/ Here is what works instead. Lead with curiosity. Ask what they think before you tell them what you think. "I have been wondering about something" lands completely differently than "You need to know this." A question invites. A declaration pushes. Every single time.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.612Z
7/ Ask permission. "I have been reading a lot about this lately. Would you be open to hearing a different take?" That one sentence changes the dynamic entirely. It respects their autonomy. It signals you are not trying to bulldoze them. And most people will say yes.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.613Z
8/ Use your own experience. "I am worried about my mom's prescriptions" lands differently than "the tariffs are raising pharmaceutical costs by 7%." Personal stakes make it real. Abstract politics keeps it distant. Keep it human, keep it close, keep it about people you know.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.614Z
9/ When they share something you know is misinformation, do not call them a liar. Ask: "What makes that source trustworthy to you?" That question does more than any fact-check ever will. It invites them to think rather than defend. Then whovoted4this.org has the receipts when needed.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.615Z
10/ The one skill that unlocks conversations is asking the right questions. It turns out the most persuasive thing you can do in a political conversation is stop talking and start asking. The research on this is striking.
— Digital Warrior - Combat Disinfo (@digitalwarrior.bsky.social) 2026-05-26T14:45:06.616Z
NoRethugFriends
(3,795 posts)niyad
(134,165 posts)at least semi-rational people who might pay even the slightest bit of attention to anything we have to say. Sorry. I solved the communication issues simply by not interacting with these petty little destructo machines. Fortunately, I rarely encounter them.
RainCaster
(13,902 posts)Why bother?
littlemissmartypants
(34,550 posts)They might be psychopaths.
mental disorder. It is twice as
common as schizophrenia,
anorexia, and bipolar disorder.
It is equally common as bulimia,
panic disorder, and autism.
The only mental disorders
significantly more common than
psychopathy are substance abuse
or dependence, depression, and
post-traumatic stress disorder.
Psychopathy affects all
ethnic, cultural, racial,
and socioeconomic groups.
...psychopathy
is a spectrum disorder,
Prevalence in the United States
Approximately 70% of the
population is estimated to
have no psychopathic traits
whatsoever.
Key Point
👇👇👇👇👇👇
The remaining
30% have low, medium, or
high levels of psychopathy.
Source:
https://psychopathyis.org/stats/
1. Aggressive, callous, and cunning
2. Complete absence of conscience and empathy
3. Very adept at manipulating others
4. Willingness to engage in immoral, criminal conduct
5. Willingness to take what they want and do as they please, regardless of who is hurt or wronged
6. Deceptive ability to appear outwardly benevolent
7. Deceptive ability to behave in superficially charming ways to hide purely selfish motives
8. Willingness to use intimidation and violence to control others in order to satisfy their own needs
9. Willingness to intentionally violate the basic inherent human rights of others
10. Complete absence of any sense of guilt or remorse for the harm their actions have caused to others
11. Rationalization of their own immoral behavior
12. Will attempt to lay blame upon someone else for their own conduct
13. Denial, will deny their own wrongdoing outright
14. Utter contemptuousness toward the feelings and desires of their fellow beings
15. Pathological lying, will say anything without any concern for truth to advance their own hidden agendas
16. Ablity to feign [fake] normal human emotions and empathy
17. Distorted sense of the consequences of their actions
18. Total failure to accept any responsibility for their own socially irresponsible ways
19. Strong bellef that they will never be brought to justice for their criminal behavior
Learn how to spot one. If for no other reason than to save humanity and you might save democracy along the way.
❤️
Arthur_Frain
(2,411 posts)Neither of them are scintillating conversationalists. Why would I want to waste my time trying is beyond me.
littlemissmartypants
(34,550 posts)genetically based or environmentally based.
Psychopathy is thought to have stronger genetic links and is associated with a lack of empathy, whereas sociopathy is more often connected to environmental factors such as trauma or abuse.
These are the primary distinctions. The effects on society are not very different.
orleans
(37,241 posts)i don't have much patience with "them" and haven't for quite awhile.
i don't deal/interact with "them"
i'll let the nice, tolerant, patient dems give it a try
i would totally suck at it
werdna
(1,257 posts)- argument, these are all time honored suggestions to achieve productive communication. I believe these suggestions would work in written communications - such as social media, chat-rooms - as well. Thank you , applegrove, for this post.
applegrove
(133,217 posts)AZLD4Candidate
(6,992 posts)that one can't keep up. Gish Gallop is their biggest one, following by argument from ignorance, hasty generalization, red herring, strawman, sophistry, moral relativism, appeal to authority, the divine fallacy, begging the question, slippery slope, loaded question, confirmation bias, equivocation, Texas sharpening, and the No True Scotsman fallacy.
Seinan Sensei
(1,654 posts)Its the Texas Sharpshooter Fallacy
One of my faves
Its almost like something from a Twain story
ColoringFool
(1,159 posts)ColoringFool
(1,159 posts)A RATIONAL PERSON.
BUT MAGAts POST PICTURES OF TRUMP AS CHRIST, FGS! AS A HE-MAN! AS WALKING WITH ALIENS! AS A TOUGH GUY!
THEY ARE RACISTS, MISOGYNISTS, GREEDHEADS, FOOLS, GULLS, AND KNAVES---
AND THEY WOULD LITERALLY KILL US ALL IF THEY KNEW THEY'D BE PARDONED BY TRUMP!
THIS ESSAY NO DOUBT MADE THE WRITER FEEL GOOD AND DECENT AND RATIONAL AND LOGICAL AND EMOTIONALLY STABLE AND MAYBE EVEN BRILLIANT IF HE WERE HONEST, BUT IN POINT OF FACT THE AUTHOR IS.....
NAIVE.
AZLD4Candidate
(6,992 posts)Point taken.
ColoringFool
(1,159 posts)SocialDemocrat61
(8,070 posts)You're never going to get back anything intelligent and it just pisses off the dog.
aggiesal
(10,925 posts)I could care less if they're sway-able.
I want them to feel like an idiot.
Morbius
(1,144 posts)Useful if you have family members or others you can't avoid who have surrendered their wits.
I'd be interested in a similar take on "How to talk to a liberal." Just to see what would be said about me.
ColoringFool
(1,159 posts)ColoringFool
(1,159 posts)Admonished, advised, attacked, accused....
FT&T🐎TRIO!
He wants questions? Here's my question:
"WHY DO YOU THINK A CONVICTED FELON, JUDGED RAPIST, AND ACCUSED PEDOPHILE IS FIT TO BE THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES?
No BS changing the topic. No Biden this or Obama that. JUST ANSWER THE GD QUESTION."
Now, of course all MAGAts will answer: "I don't believe any of that Democrat crap. It's all Fake News. Trump is the greatest President we've ever had."
So, Genius Author, tell me your next rational approach.
Because I'm looking at your board and I'm calling Checkmate.
kentuck
(115,683 posts)Is that they will not change their minds. They will only become more emboldened and believe that they have a chance to convert you to the cult.
Wounded Bear
(64,692 posts)Kind of like the farmer who sold his mule and included a 4 foot 2x4 in the deal. When asked why, he said the 2x4 is to get his attention.
progressoid
(53,403 posts)This presumes that they are rational or logical. That's naive at best.
Also, they have been groomed by years of right-wing media. They need cult de-programing.
La Coliniere
(2,007 posts)Im blunt and to the point. If they shut down or become defensive so be it. I have no more patience or fucks to give in regards to having a rational discussion with MAGA.
orthoclad
(4,873 posts)generally along the lines of "who exactly has their hands in your pocket".
Most magats have been propagandized from the cradle on by the vast media octopi which flood the zone with fear and rage. The Reich Wing understands very well that very little human behavior is rational. There's much more return on investment by stroking the subconscious, the emotional part of the brain that responds to fight-or-flight stimuli.
The people are suffering from exploitation by the rich. Several generations now are less secure than the previous one. There are good reasons to feel fear and rage. So the media empires give people lots of shiny object targets and validates their fear and rage - but not for the real perps of oppression.
Very little political behavior is rational. By anyone. We get nowhere by expecting rationality, which is rare and precious.
Qutzupalotl
(15,861 posts)they WANT to believe the worst about their opponents, to feel better about themselves. So they will swallow any lie or half-truth, and implicitly trust any source that provides it, in order TO FEEL GOOD.
So as much as these hypocrites decry liberal policies as feel good, try taking away their sources of dopamine and serotonin for a couple of days. They would lose their damn minds.
Until they break out of their addiction to hate-fueled highs, they are unreachable. The OP has good suggestions about how to proceed with moderate Rs; it's just that they are a dying breed, and we're left with mostly pedo enablers and tyrant enthusiasts.
DBoon
(25,169 posts)they will discount a respectful reply for this reason
Irish_Dem
(82,514 posts)Never.