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Randomthought

(1,084 posts)
Sun May 17, 2026, 09:18 PM 16 hrs ago

Adult child of an alcoholic here

IMHO Patel is exhibiting classic alcoholic personalty.
Paranoia, delusions of grandeur, no controls on his behavior.
Feel free to add you own observations

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Adult child of an alcoholic here (Original Post) Randomthought 16 hrs ago OP
what about Kegseth Skittles 16 hrs ago #1
Sober for almost 5 years myself RainCaster 15 hrs ago #2
( I appreciate this thread) Tetrachloride 15 hrs ago #3
when I visited a cousin in San Francisco I went with her to an AA meeting Skittles 14 hrs ago #6
This adult child of an alcoholic agrees completely. ShazzieB 14 hrs ago #4
Defensive when questioned (esp about his drinking), arrogant, nasty Marie Marie 14 hrs ago #5
That he's obssessed enough to make is own applegrove 14 hrs ago #7
Good on you mate Randomthought 13 hrs ago #10
I agree Wifes husband 14 hrs ago #8
My husband was an alcoholic that died Figarosmom 13 hrs ago #9
Good insight Randomthought 13 hrs ago #11
This is just what Susie Wiles said about PedOTUS BaronChocula 13 hrs ago #12
I just think neither of them ever grew up nt GenThePerservering 12 hrs ago #13
Another adult child of alcoholic Faux pas 11 hrs ago #14
TSF's Cabinet of Alcoholics can be traced to his youth and early adulthood. no_hypocrisy 9 hrs ago #15
Agree completely! Faux pas 4 hrs ago #16

RainCaster

(13,888 posts)
2. Sober for almost 5 years myself
Sun May 17, 2026, 09:51 PM
15 hrs ago

My AA group see both these men as ones just like us, except they haven't had that "nudge from the judge" yet.

Tetrachloride

(9,702 posts)
3. ( I appreciate this thread)
Sun May 17, 2026, 10:36 PM
15 hrs ago

i have wanted to see an AA group as observer so as to dispel Hollywood stereotypes.


i myself generally don’t drink alcohol.

Skittles

(172,833 posts)
6. when I visited a cousin in San Francisco I went with her to an AA meeting
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:27 PM
14 hrs ago

I actually was able to tell the group what it was like to live with my alcoholic aunt and uncle when I was a teenager (disclosure - they weren't mean drunks, just, well, irresponsible.....they had a couple of toddlers I ended up taking care of a lot)....it shook some of the people in the room, hit close to home.

ShazzieB

(22,870 posts)
4. This adult child of an alcoholic agrees completely.
Sun May 17, 2026, 10:48 PM
14 hrs ago

Patel and Hegseth both show all the classic sjgns.

Marie Marie

(11,509 posts)
5. Defensive when questioned (esp about his drinking), arrogant, nasty
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:13 PM
14 hrs ago

and entitled. Alcoholics are an entitled bunch. Never responsible - always the victim.

applegrove

(133,057 posts)
7. That he's obssessed enough to make is own
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:38 PM
14 hrs ago

bourbon with an FBI label implies he jonesing. When I was only allowed one drink a night I'd spend most of my day thinking of what I was going to have, when and how. I would seriously talk to an addiction counselor if I was him. I joined AA after a DUI (I didn't hit or hurt anybody) and have not had a drop since. One of the best things I have ever done.

Figarosmom

(13,321 posts)
9. My husband was an alcoholic that died
Sun May 17, 2026, 11:53 PM
13 hrs ago

Drunk in a car accident. Luckily he didn't hurt or kill anyone else. And patel and the guy of war are both going to die drunk. That is pretty obvious to me from their behavior. Alcoholics aren't just addicted to alcohol, it's their makeup, they are addicted to everything. Both of them are now addicted to power. I sure hope they are being driven everywhere and not driving themselves.

BaronChocula

(4,739 posts)
12. This is just what Susie Wiles said about PedOTUS
Mon May 18, 2026, 12:07 AM
13 hrs ago

She is his chief of staff. She fessed up in an extended Atlantic interview that her smelly boss has an alcoholic's personality. She said she's an expert on "big" personalities. Her father, athlete and announcer Pat Summerall had a significant alcohol problem before he sought help

There was a time when having a drinking problem was enough to derail your nomination for, say, secretary of state. Ahem, John Tower.

We are in strange times.

Faux pas

(16,529 posts)
14. Another adult child of alcoholic
Mon May 18, 2026, 01:57 AM
11 hrs ago

parents raised in a violent household with guns. I had my last drink before midnight New Years Eve 1992. At least my stoopidity wasn't played out on the world stage FFS. The head effer's whole cabinet and appointees all have some substance abuse problem, the worst being whatever speed they might be snorting. Assholes unleashed and running wild. DISGUSTIPATING

no_hypocrisy

(55,362 posts)
15. TSF's Cabinet of Alcoholics can be traced to his youth and early adulthood.
Mon May 18, 2026, 04:28 AM
9 hrs ago

Both Trump and his father put so much untenable pressure on his eldest brother, the presumptive heir, that Fred Jr. turned to alcohol. And even as a child, DJT saw his opportunity to displace his brother as one day running the family and the family business. No compassion for his brother.

And DJT also witnessed how his brother was essentially helpless at being independent. Little Brother was in charge now.

My theory is Trump doesn't want any Cabinet member to get more attention and credit than he's getting. Simultaneously he's disgusted by their weakness for alcohol and pleased that he can control them. They'd never turn against him.

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