picture. Not sure what this accomplishes.

you're giving yourself away

sure, bro

n/t

I don't think anyone considers a deceased father or mother to be an absentee mother or father.

Perhaps because they are widowed, or for whatever reason they and the child/children do not have any relationship with the other parent.

If Dad or Mom are in the picture with the parent who has custody of the children they are co-parents, not single parents.

Single means the only, the sole, parent.

to me a "single mother" simply means the partner isn't physically available.....by divorce, widowhood or desertion

a tough job no matter what

My father - a Dad, Grandpa and Great-Grandpa - used to ask a "drop-dead question"....

Where are the IMPREGNATORS!"

There's a loaded question for those absentee fathers, I mean, "impregnators"!

"staying together for the sake of the kids" is often way, way worse for them than divorce

There’s no such thing.
There ARE “bastard parents,” however

WTF, all babies are LEGITIMATE

I know multiple current cases where a parent died. It’s tragic.

People in this thread know that, but they are pulling in other terms in the interest of defense. And it just doesn't fly.

The image in the OP is language parsing rage bait that most reasonable people would disagree with and is meant to divide people. It has no useful value beyond that.

Here’s to giving the blame where the blame is due.

Single mothers OR fathers should just be called single parents.

Neither parent should be automatically deemed a problem when the parents split up.

There are plenty of fathers who are very involved in parenting even if they are not living with them any longer, and there are plenty of fathers who pay child support. And there are plenty of mothers who wear the 'single mother' badge as a source of pride and as a sign of strength and perseverance.

People who say 'single mother' with disdain should be completely disregarded. MAGA 'values' should not drive our paths or our language.

the assumption that the sole (or even overwhelmingly likely) reason for it lies in a male/father - that self evidently bailed ....

Is equally shallow - vapid - and, yes, defamatory.

This meme is not nearly the 'own' that some apparently thought ...

than they are not involved.

Single in this meaning is not a relationship status, it's an indication of being the sole or only parent.

been involuntarily deported - or perhaps incarcerated .. ? (or any one of ten other different circumstances - including the 'biological' that was never informed and/or invited to participate)

You're still making a boatload of assumptions - and casting aspersion without good evidence.
It remains just too simplistic - and just not a great argument. (in my humble opinion)

then they are co-parents, not single parents.

Serving in the military, being deported, or being incarcerated does not prevent one from being involved in the lives of their children. Perhaps it could do so financially, but not emotionally.

Absentee means completely absent. Not present at all. Not involved at all. Not a part of.

none of which appear in the original.
(which is why it received the knock in the first place - or at least that coming from this direction.)

For what it's worth - and in effort to calm the waters.
In the narrow construction in which you choose to frame this - general agreement and support. And further, I don't think anyone on this panel has too much problem with giving dead-beat dads (or mothers) the rousing kick in the shorts that they deserve. But - that too ... Kinda' goes without saying. Yeah?

The logical reading is that the phenomenon of "single mothers" (something we should stop saying, not conditionally, but entirely) only arises because of "absentee fathers".

What you seem to me to be arguing is that the message should had been more clear. Which is the same as what everyone who's arguing against this meme is also arguing.

Thirty three years ago, I couldn’t no longer stand the abuse directed at me and my three daughters. Took the mother to court and, after 3 1/2 years, was awarded custody. My two oldest are 47 now with wonderful families. The youngest will be 36 soon and is a happily married parent.

I was always proud to be a single dad with three daughters. Many people I encountered along the way were amazed that I took on the responsibility. My Dad was of the opinion that.saved the kids……and I’m still single.
So when the moniker ‘single parent’ is used, I have a great deal of respect for the responsibility that person has accepted. Pay it forward.

Peace ☮️

like more man-hating in my opinion.

Realize how you are part of teh problem by saying that.

But many other single parents are single parents not by choice.

Single mothers draw a lot of negative connotation. Single fathers, not as much. I believe that is the point.

Whereas single fathers are marveled at and respected.

The reasons don't matter. That's just the way our society is.

society which demonizes women. Let's change "single mothers" to "children of absentee fathers".

And we wonder why we lose elections.

... live in an anti-woman, slut-and responsibility-shaming society that demonizes women. And with that, I wonder how we win elections.

put the onus and scorn on the female raising the child alone. However, it's also a way of showing the burden she has. It's only a negative term if you view it that way.

I didn't say anything that was erroneous. Merriam-Webster definition of female:
"of, relating to, or being the sex that typically has the capacity to bear young or produce eggs"

Why the correction? Not all single mothers are adult women. I do not refer to adult women as females, if that was your concern.