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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day
I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day
Objectification, hate, rape threats: the politicians debating online abuse mean well, but to truly understand, they need to see what I see
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/feb/23/15-year-old-girl-misogyny-social-media-online-abuse
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Heres a recent example from Instagram: Do yall females ever tell ur homegirls Sis chill you letting too many dudes hit? Essentially, that means: Women do you ever tell your girlfriends that theyre whores and need to stop letting so many guys fuck them? The reel, posted by a 19-year-old man, appeared on my Instagram feed without me wanting to see it, or ever interacting with any other similar content. The comments that followed were pure misogyny. Women see body count as a leaderboard and they try to outdo each other, was one of them. Translation: all women are competitively promiscuous.
Consider the use of the word female in these posts. It is not a neutral term here, it is a term of abuse. Its used by teenage boys to degrade us and equate us to animals. Boys are never described as males, but girls are always females the equivalent of sows or calves, creatures that are less than human. Were also thots (whores), community pussy and bops. Bop stands for been over passed and is a derogatory term used by boys to refer to a girl theyve decided has been passed around or had too much sex. Sexual equality has ceased to exist online. Its absolutely fine for boys to have sex, but when girls do, they are called worthless and referred to as objects. When community pussy tries to insult me, I just want to beat that bitch up. Thats a message I saw on TikTok.
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Often it feels like were hated not only if were sexual but simply for existing. I would be lying if I said I wasnt affected by seeing boys my own age post things about women like: Men are objectively superior in pretty much every conceivable metric, and They are just devils that imitate feelings so we feel empathy. Words such as bitch are the least of it. One of the worst labels is foid originally from incel subculture but now becoming mainstream which refers to women as being less-than-human, female humanoids.
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And what is the effect? If I spend even 10 minutes on an app such as Instagram, I will close it, feeling disheartened and unhappy about being a girl. When nearly every comments section on a video of a girl my age is filled with disgusting and objectifying comments about her body from boys, it causes me to feel deeply uncomfortable in my own body, and compare myself to her; especially if she is beautiful and still being deemed unattractive. Endless emphasis on beauty as worth and all kinds of videos criticising specific features, some of which I possess, have made me start to loathe my own face, as difficult as that is to admit. But the worst thing is knowing how much hate there is from men and boys for all women and girls, including me.
ProfessorGAC
(76,335 posts)And, articles like this are my evidence that it's just not me doing a "get off my lawn".
marble falls
(71,453 posts)Escurumbele
(4,066 posts)UNSUBSCRIBE to AMAZON, FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, and all the other crap that does continues to support all the evil that is slowly but surely destroying the World, all societies, not only the USA, are vulnerable to these disgusting behaviour and the more it happens the more people will think its normal. Many blame the parents but some of the parents are very good in trying hard to teach their kids good manners, empathy and good behaviour but social media destroys all that, some parents don't even know what it is their kids are looking at, and yes, they should but kids have ways of doing it away from home.
UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE! Nothing will be done until people take action and leave them, THEY CANNOT EXISTS WITHOUT US, so UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE.
I have done my part, I don't belong to any of that crap, Amazon is next, I just need to get some things done, and then I will not be a member until they stop supporting the evil bastards in the WH.
UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, do it, it is easy and the most patriotic thing we can do today. We have to hit them where it hurts more, their pockets, their bottom lines.
ProfessorGAC
(76,335 posts)I don't have any social media accounts.
I get all the interaction I need here at DU & a musician's forum.
Scrivener7
(59,081 posts)a lot of the reason for the proliferation of toxic bro/girl-hating rhetoric.
Ritabert
(2,222 posts)usaf-vet
(7,782 posts)Greg_In_SF
(1,097 posts)going on social media.
It's no different than the old days. If there was a neighborhood where bad things happened, we simply didn't go to that neighborhood.
ProfessorGAC
(76,335 posts)I have no social media accounts.
Closest I come to that is DU & a similar forum for musicians.
I don't even go to chemistry forums anymore. Once I retired, I quit. And, there were no toxic influencers there. Still have no use for them.
hunter
(40,539 posts)... who blame women and girls for all their failures.
Many years ago my mom worked for a scientific journal in a field that was still dominated by men. Occasionally they'd publish a paper where the first author was a woman and some of the letters the journal received in return were vile, unpublishable, and far beyond anything that might be dismissed as academic rivalry.
The modern internet has given misogynistic losers a platform that they never had before.
Hope22
(4,610 posts)In this case the bad neighborhood is the world .yet the men and boys are free to roam. Carry on!
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kudzukimchi
(6 posts)you're saying she was asking for it. Got it.
Scrivener7
(59,081 posts)Greg_In_SF
(1,097 posts)someone would come in and say something like that
Mossfern
(4,671 posts)Welcome to DU.
csusan
(69 posts)That was my immediate take. She should be able to go on social media. It's the boys and men who cause the problem.
Thanks for posting this.
Joinfortmill
(20,723 posts)The people making bad choices are the predator little bratty boys. Jeez.
Greg_In_SF
(1,097 posts)She doesn't have the power to change the people on Instagram. She does, however, have complete power over her own social media usage.
That's like saying a certain mechanic's shop sucks. Well, I don't have the power to change the way they work on cars, but I can choose to not take my car there for service.
This isn't rocket science.
Joinfortmill
(20,723 posts)Greg_In_SF
(1,097 posts)yes, quite
Polybius
(21,718 posts)You have to understand that kids don't have that mentality. There's no way a 15 year old is quitting Instagram. I'm far from 15, but as a Gen Xer, I can relate.
Escurumbele
(4,066 posts)other idiot boys like them, to read their stupidity.
That girl needs to get out of Instagram, Facebook and all the other crap that is bothering her, why continue to look through that? Real friends will continue to be her friends whether she is part of those toxic websites, or not, and if they stop being her friends? then they were never friends, but the jackasses boys will not have her to bully, and the will weaken them in the end.
Joinfortmill
(20,723 posts)marble falls
(71,453 posts)... through their penis."
leftstreet
(39,778 posts)Before that, saloons banned them outright, or had separate "ladies entrances" and private rooms
Maybe we should bring that back for social media?
Joinfortmill
(20,723 posts)WTF?
Greg_In_SF
(1,097 posts)with a wide brush much?
Wednesdays
(22,146 posts)Huh?
Torchlight
(6,612 posts)Greg_In_SF
(1,097 posts)she could just stop going on Instagram since she has determined that it is causing problems in her life. She, and she alone, has the power to change her life.
GiqueCee
(3,733 posts)... are the very definition of WEAKNESS. They are, in fact, superior to NO living thing. Well, maybe slime mold, but only just barely.
Suppose social media platforms required them to use their REAL names, and not some made-up handle. They might be a little more circumspect in their comments, if they dared to make any at all.
These creatures with Y chromosomes they have not earned deserve to be exposed for the snake shit they really are.
MichMan
(16,962 posts)Is GiqueCee your real name?
marble falls
(71,453 posts)milestogo
(22,888 posts)Clouds Passing
(7,662 posts)llmart
(17,486 posts)The movie about him "The Social Network" showed how his platform was used for guys to "rate" a girl's looks. He was apparently dumped by a girlfriend and that started his revenge against women.
Clouds Passing
(7,662 posts)SergeStorms
(20,290 posts)He was the nerd's nerd, if that makes sense. Creating "FACEbook" was his way of trying to elevate himself within the manosphere, of which he hadn't yet entered. Then all the "bros" would pat him on the back and acknowledge his presence in the world. Until then he was pretty much invisible to everyone.
Torchlight
(6,612 posts)Telling girls to simply log off or dont go there ignores the reality that social media is woven into social life and that the hostility follows us into spaces we didnt choose. The real issue isnt our presence online I think, but rather a much broader failure to challenge the misogyny that is allowed to thrive there.
MineralMan
(150,990 posts)The solution is not to avoid social media. The solution is for everyone to reject sexist and misogynistic nonsense verbally as soon as it appears.
Men can do that, too. And should.
Just_Vote_Dem
(3,599 posts)leftstreet
(39,778 posts)Mossfern
(4,671 posts)Women need to be present on these sites to fight the good fight.
Don't allow misogynist "boys" to own the script - they must be challenged.
Hiding won't change a thing.
Torchlight
(6,612 posts)...as telling women to avoid sidewalks and public streets. Saying its her choice to walk near her home, if she doesnt want abuse, she should just stay inside or move to another neighborhood shifts responsibility away from the people causing harm. It treats harassment as default behavior. That argument isnt just unhelpful, its a lazy way of excusing a much deeper problem.
Hope22
(4,610 posts)Society is permitting open voice to the hatred. Beating girls and women down to just where they want us. You might say
not all men but the nice ones*
.. dont speak up. If they did they would have joined in the fight when row v wade went down. If they did our voting rights would not be on the chopping block! If they had this young person would not be seeing evil comments and threats. The sad thing is that when Iraq came home to the US it was a weed seed that took off with a vengeance. I guess Dick and * had a vision and here we are. Broken hearted for the young ones.
* I live with some nice ones
.and they just dont get the picture
.
WinstonSmith4740
(3,426 posts)I still sub when I want to, but when I was teaching full time, one of the subjects I taught was Health, which included Sex Ed. I made it VERY clear in my intro that I would not tolerate ANY reference to the young ladies in class as "females". As far as I was concerned, using that term reduced them. The girls would thank me, sometimes privately, often in open class. And there was always at least one who would say, "Yeah, and you can stop the "bitches and ho's while while you're at it." Unacceptable language in a classroom, but it always made me proud.
MichMan
(16,962 posts)Diamond_Dog
(40,207 posts)
Joinfortmill
(20,723 posts)Bev54
(13,372 posts)My settings have always been private to strangers are not able to read or comment on my feed. I do not understand why people would have a totally open social media account for anyone to comment on. Does Instagram have a privacy setting on it?
usonian
(24,378 posts)Run by sociopaths.
BigmanPigman
(54,917 posts)I have never done Twitter, Fakebook, Instagram, etc and I managed to survive without it.
When I left teaching several years ago I knew social media would become a problem very quickly. The writing was on the wall.
Joinfortmill
(20,723 posts)Wednesdays
(22,146 posts)FullySupportDems
(427 posts)"The Gate to Women's Country
1988 novel by Sheri S. Tepper
The Gate to Women's Country is a post-apocalyptic novel by American writer Sheri S. Tepper, published in 1988. It describes a world set three hundred years into the future after a catastrophic war which has fractured the United States into several nations..."
Because I am very bitter.
Mosby
(19,427 posts)Obsession with Jewish genes.
The problem is social media....
xuplate
(189 posts)trying to understand why some men have the need to treat half of humanity as the enemy.
Fil1957
(639 posts)on humanity. I say this as a heterosexual male. I am ashamed of many of my peers.
bluestarone
(21,825 posts)Like anything used in the wrong fashion it will DESTROY anything and everything!!
Coolgoober
(271 posts)Wasn't it a bunch of teen boys literally having a contest at a school, who could bed the most girls. It was probably 20 or 30 years ago. California I think.