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marble falls

(71,453 posts)
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 08:22 AM 3 hrs ago

I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day

I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day

Objectification, hate, rape threats: the politicians debating online abuse mean well, but to truly understand, they need to see what I see

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/feb/23/15-year-old-girl-misogyny-social-media-online-abuse


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Here’s a recent example from Instagram: “Do y’all females ever tell ur homegirls ‘Sis chill you letting too many dudes hit?’” Essentially, that means: “Women – do you ever tell your girlfriends that they’re whores and need to stop letting so many guys fuck them?” The reel, posted by a 19-year-old man, appeared on my Instagram feed without me wanting to see it, or ever interacting with any other similar content. The comments that followed were pure misogyny. “Women see body count as a leaderboard and they try to outdo each other,” was one of them. Translation: all women are competitively promiscuous.

Consider the use of the word “female” in these posts. It is not a neutral term here, it is a term of abuse. It’s used by teenage boys to degrade us and equate us to animals. Boys are never described as “males”, but girls are always “females” – the equivalent of sows or calves, creatures that are less than human. We’re also “thots” (whores), “community pussy” and “bops”. “Bop” stands for “been over passed” and is a derogatory term used by boys to refer to a girl they’ve decided has been “passed around” or had too much sex. Sexual equality has ceased to exist online. It’s absolutely fine for boys to have sex, but when girls do, they are called worthless and referred to as objects. “When community pussy tries to insult me, I just want to beat that bitch up.” That’s a message I saw on TikTok.


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Often it feels like we’re hated not only if we’re sexual but simply for existing. I would be lying if I said I wasn’t affected by seeing boys my own age post things about women like: “Men are objectively superior in pretty much every conceivable metric,” and “They are just devils that imitate feelings so we feel empathy.” Words such as “bitch” are the least of it. One of the worst labels is “foid” – originally from incel subculture but now becoming mainstream – which refers to women as being less-than-human, female humanoids.

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And what is the effect? If I spend even 10 minutes on an app such as Instagram, I will close it, feeling disheartened and unhappy about being a girl. When nearly every comments section on a video of a girl my age is filled with disgusting and objectifying comments about her body from boys, it causes me to feel deeply uncomfortable in my own body, and compare myself to her; especially if she is beautiful and still being deemed unattractive. Endless emphasis on beauty as worth and all kinds of videos criticising specific features, some of which I possess, have made me start to loathe my own face, as difficult as that is to admit. But the worst thing is knowing how much hate there is from men and boys for all women and girls, including me.

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I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day (Original Post) marble falls 3 hrs ago OP
Social Media Has Made Society Worse Than It Was ProfessorGAC 3 hrs ago #1
Indeed. And we raise our men terribly. marble falls 3 hrs ago #2
There is a cure for all these, but no one wants to do it...UNSUBSCRIBE to ALL of it! That is the CURE! Escurumbele 1 hr ago #24
Ok By Me ProfessorGAC 28 min ago #57
Why anyone still uses any Zuckerberg product is beyond me. No one needs that and they're Scrivener7 3 hrs ago #3
Quit FB years ago. Never went on Instagram. Ritabert 2 hrs ago #7
Same here, and I'm a 78-year-old man with a wife and sisters. Email, and DU is the extent of my online activity. usaf-vet 41 min ago #52
Stop Greg_In_SF 3 hrs ago #4
Good Point ProfessorGAC 2 hrs ago #5
Any forum with inadequate moderation is quickly hijacked by men and boys... hunter 18 min ago #60
Not sure this equates. Hope22 2 hrs ago #12
Post removed Post removed 2 hrs ago #14
So, basically, kudzukimchi 1 hr ago #19
Really, dude? Welcome to DU. Scrivener7 1 hr ago #21
I just knew Greg_In_SF 1 hr ago #23
Agree Mossfern 56 min ago #41
Well said! csusan 54 min ago #42
She's 15. All kids are on social media. Joinfortmill 1 hr ago #31
Again, it's Greg_In_SF 1 hr ago #35
Not quite. Joinfortmill 1 hr ago #39
Umm... Greg_In_SF 59 min ago #40
That's Boomer logic Polybius 8 min ago #63
Boys will stop that behaviour when they find out it is not cool, when there is no one on social media, besides Escurumbele 1 hr ago #26
Victim blaming much? You're kidding, right? Joinfortmill 1 hr ago #33
Amazing to me how the victim is always held responsible because "we all know men can't help speaking ... marble falls 27 min ago #58
Women once needed escorts to enter taverns leftstreet 1 hr ago #27
Right because some men can't seem to control thenselves Joinfortmill 1 hr ago #34
Paint Greg_In_SF 53 min ago #45
"Some men" is a wide brush? Wednesdays 39 min ago #53
As wide a brush as "stay off the internet. Problem solved!"? Torchlight 14 min ago #61
Or Greg_In_SF 54 min ago #43
These repulsive little worms... GiqueCee 2 hrs ago #6
"Suppose social media platforms required them to use their REAL names, and not some made-up handle." MichMan 35 min ago #55
If women used their names they'd be seriously shit-stormed and doxxed. marble falls 23 min ago #59
The military has always used 'girl'as a means of humilating men. milestogo 2 hrs ago #8
The juvenile males who own and run social media are intentionally responsible for this. Clouds Passing 2 hrs ago #9
Let's not forget how Zuckerberg got his start. llmart 2 hrs ago #13
He's a creepster Clouds Passing 2 hrs ago #16
I don't think Zuck ever had a GF..... SergeStorms 1 hr ago #38
Dehumanizing hatred at such a young age seems difficult to avoid in the 21 century Torchlight 2 hrs ago #10
Yes, exactly. MineralMan 1 hr ago #22
Yes. It's victim blaming n/t Just_Vote_Dem 47 min ago #49
+1 leftstreet 1 hr ago #25
My sentiments exactly Mossfern 52 min ago #48
Telling people to avoid social media is as absurd Torchlight 44 min ago #50
My heart goes out to the girls and young women. Hope22 2 hrs ago #11
I'm semi retired now. WinstonSmith4740 2 hrs ago #15
Did you also have the same restriction to the usage of "males" MichMan 33 min ago #56
...... Diamond_Dog 2 hrs ago #17
Amen Joinfortmill 1 hr ago #36
I don't have Instagram and have never used it but I have had Facebook Bev54 1 hr ago #18
With very few exceptions, "Social" media are pure poison. usonian 1 hr ago #20
DU is my only social media... BigmanPigman 1 hr ago #28
This is horrifying. What kind of men are we raising? Joinfortmill 1 hr ago #29
Trump acolytes. Wednesdays 42 min ago #51
It makes me think of a book I read FullySupportDems 1 hr ago #30
I was called a "cuck" yesterday on X by a woman defending Tuckers Mosby 1 hr ago #32
Wracking my puny "female brain" xuplate 1 hr ago #37
I completely understand why many women may want to have little to do with men. Sometimes it seems like men are a blight Fil1957 53 min ago #44
Social media is a great source of people, families to keep in touch. It's beautiful. BUT bluestarone 53 min ago #46
Women Keep A Body Count???? Coolgoober 53 min ago #47
Facebook is cancer JoseBalow 38 min ago #54
Thank you for sharing. Martin68 14 min ago #62

ProfessorGAC

(76,335 posts)
1. Social Media Has Made Society Worse Than It Was
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 08:31 AM
3 hrs ago

And, articles like this are my evidence that it's just not me doing a "get off my lawn".

Escurumbele

(4,066 posts)
24. There is a cure for all these, but no one wants to do it...UNSUBSCRIBE to ALL of it! That is the CURE!
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:30 AM
1 hr ago

UNSUBSCRIBE to AMAZON, FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM, and all the other crap that does continues to support all the evil that is slowly but surely destroying the World, all societies, not only the USA, are vulnerable to these disgusting behaviour and the more it happens the more people will think its normal. Many blame the parents but some of the parents are very good in trying hard to teach their kids good manners, empathy and good behaviour but social media destroys all that, some parents don't even know what it is their kids are looking at, and yes, they should but kids have ways of doing it away from home.

UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE! Nothing will be done until people take action and leave them, THEY CANNOT EXISTS WITHOUT US, so UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE.

I have done my part, I don't belong to any of that crap, Amazon is next, I just need to get some things done, and then I will not be a member until they stop supporting the evil bastards in the WH.

UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, UNSUBSCRIBE, do it, it is easy and the most patriotic thing we can do today. We have to hit them where it hurts more, their pockets, their bottom lines.

ProfessorGAC

(76,335 posts)
57. Ok By Me
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:39 AM
28 min ago

I don't have any social media accounts.
I get all the interaction I need here at DU & a musician's forum.

Scrivener7

(59,081 posts)
3. Why anyone still uses any Zuckerberg product is beyond me. No one needs that and they're
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:02 AM
3 hrs ago

a lot of the reason for the proliferation of toxic bro/girl-hating rhetoric.

usaf-vet

(7,782 posts)
52. Same here, and I'm a 78-year-old man with a wife and sisters. Email, and DU is the extent of my online activity.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:26 AM
41 min ago

Greg_In_SF

(1,097 posts)
4. Stop
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:02 AM
3 hrs ago

going on social media.

It's no different than the old days. If there was a neighborhood where bad things happened, we simply didn't go to that neighborhood.

ProfessorGAC

(76,335 posts)
5. Good Point
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:08 AM
2 hrs ago

I have no social media accounts.
Closest I come to that is DU & a similar forum for musicians.
I don't even go to chemistry forums anymore. Once I retired, I quit. And, there were no toxic influencers there. Still have no use for them.

hunter

(40,539 posts)
60. Any forum with inadequate moderation is quickly hijacked by men and boys...
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:50 AM
18 min ago

... who blame women and girls for all their failures.

Many years ago my mom worked for a scientific journal in a field that was still dominated by men. Occasionally they'd publish a paper where the first author was a woman and some of the letters the journal received in return were vile, unpublishable, and far beyond anything that might be dismissed as academic rivalry.

The modern internet has given misogynistic losers a platform that they never had before.

Hope22

(4,610 posts)
12. Not sure this equates.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:57 AM
2 hrs ago

In this case the bad neighborhood is the world….yet the men and boys are free to roam. Carry on!

Response to Hope22 (Reply #12)

csusan

(69 posts)
42. Well said!
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:13 AM
54 min ago

That was my immediate take. She should be able to go on social media. It's the boys and men who cause the problem.

Thanks for posting this.

Joinfortmill

(20,723 posts)
31. She's 15. All kids are on social media.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:57 AM
1 hr ago

The people making bad choices are the predator little bratty boys. Jeez.

Greg_In_SF

(1,097 posts)
35. Again, it's
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:02 AM
1 hr ago
her choice if she wants to continue using Instagram or not. She can either tap on that icon or not.

She doesn't have the power to change the people on Instagram. She does, however, have complete power over her own social media usage.

That's like saying a certain mechanic's shop sucks. Well, I don't have the power to change the way they work on cars, but I can choose to not take my car there for service.

This isn't rocket science.

Polybius

(21,718 posts)
63. That's Boomer logic
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:59 AM
8 min ago

You have to understand that kids don't have that mentality. There's no way a 15 year old is quitting Instagram. I'm far from 15, but as a Gen Xer, I can relate.

Escurumbele

(4,066 posts)
26. Boys will stop that behaviour when they find out it is not cool, when there is no one on social media, besides
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:35 AM
1 hr ago

other idiot boys like them, to read their stupidity.

That girl needs to get out of Instagram, Facebook and all the other crap that is bothering her, why continue to look through that? Real friends will continue to be her friends whether she is part of those toxic websites, or not, and if they stop being her friends? then they were never friends, but the jackasses boys will not have her to bully, and the will weaken them in the end.

marble falls

(71,453 posts)
58. Amazing to me how the victim is always held responsible because "we all know men can't help speaking ...
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:40 AM
27 min ago

... through their penis."

leftstreet

(39,778 posts)
27. Women once needed escorts to enter taverns
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:40 AM
1 hr ago

Before that, saloons banned them outright, or had separate "ladies entrances" and private rooms

Maybe we should bring that back for social media?


Greg_In_SF

(1,097 posts)
43. Or
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:14 AM
54 min ago

she could just stop going on Instagram since she has determined that it is causing problems in her life. She, and she alone, has the power to change her life.

GiqueCee

(3,733 posts)
6. These repulsive little worms...
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:14 AM
2 hrs ago

... are the very definition of WEAKNESS. They are, in fact, superior to NO living thing. Well, maybe slime mold, but only just barely.

Suppose social media platforms required them to use their REAL names, and not some made-up handle. They might be a little more circumspect in their comments, if they dared to make any at all.

These creatures with Y chromosomes they have not earned deserve to be exposed for the snake shit they really are.

MichMan

(16,962 posts)
55. "Suppose social media platforms required them to use their REAL names, and not some made-up handle."
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:32 AM
35 min ago

Is GiqueCee your real name?

llmart

(17,486 posts)
13. Let's not forget how Zuckerberg got his start.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:01 AM
2 hrs ago

The movie about him "The Social Network" showed how his platform was used for guys to "rate" a girl's looks. He was apparently dumped by a girlfriend and that started his revenge against women.

SergeStorms

(20,290 posts)
38. I don't think Zuck ever had a GF.....
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:06 AM
1 hr ago

He was the nerd's nerd, if that makes sense. Creating "FACEbook" was his way of trying to elevate himself within the manosphere, of which he hadn't yet entered. Then all the "bros" would pat him on the back and acknowledge his presence in the world. Until then he was pretty much invisible to everyone.

Torchlight

(6,612 posts)
10. Dehumanizing hatred at such a young age seems difficult to avoid in the 21 century
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:54 AM
2 hrs ago

Telling girls to simply “log off” or “don’t go there” ignores the reality that social media is woven into social life and that the hostility follows us into spaces we didn’t choose. The real issue isn’t our presence online I think, but rather a much broader failure to challenge the misogyny that is allowed to thrive there.

MineralMan

(150,990 posts)
22. Yes, exactly.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:16 AM
1 hr ago

The solution is not to avoid social media. The solution is for everyone to reject sexist and misogynistic nonsense verbally as soon as it appears.

Men can do that, too. And should.

Mossfern

(4,671 posts)
48. My sentiments exactly
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:15 AM
52 min ago

Women need to be present on these sites to fight the good fight.
Don't allow misogynist "boys" to own the script - they must be challenged.
Hiding won't change a thing.

Torchlight

(6,612 posts)
50. Telling people to avoid social media is as absurd
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:23 AM
44 min ago

...as telling women to avoid sidewalks and public streets. Saying “it’s her choice to walk near her home, if she doesn’t want abuse, she should just stay inside or move to another neighborhood” shifts responsibility away from the people causing harm. It treats harassment as default behavior. That argument isn’t just unhelpful, it’s a lazy way of excusing a much deeper problem.

Hope22

(4,610 posts)
11. My heart goes out to the girls and young women.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 09:54 AM
2 hrs ago

Society is permitting open voice to the hatred. Beating girls and women down to just where they want us. You might say…not all men but the ‘nice ones*’….. don’t speak up. If they did they would have joined in the fight when row v wade went down. If they did our voting rights would not be on the chopping block! If they had this young person would not be seeing evil comments and threats. The sad thing is that when Iraq came home to the US it was a weed seed that took off with a vengeance. I guess Dick and * had a vision and here we are. Broken hearted for the young ones.

* I live with some nice ones….and they just don’t get the picture…….

WinstonSmith4740

(3,426 posts)
15. I'm semi retired now.
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:03 AM
2 hrs ago

I still sub when I want to, but when I was teaching full time, one of the subjects I taught was Health, which included Sex Ed. I made it VERY clear in my intro that I would not tolerate ANY reference to the young ladies in class as "females". As far as I was concerned, using that term reduced them. The girls would thank me, sometimes privately, often in open class. And there was always at least one who would say, "Yeah, and you can stop the "bitches and ho's while while you're at it." Unacceptable language in a classroom, but it always made me proud.

Bev54

(13,372 posts)
18. I don't have Instagram and have never used it but I have had Facebook
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:09 AM
1 hr ago

My settings have always been private to strangers are not able to read or comment on my feed. I do not understand why people would have a totally open social media account for anyone to comment on. Does Instagram have a privacy setting on it?

BigmanPigman

(54,917 posts)
28. DU is my only social media...
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:43 AM
1 hr ago

I have never done Twitter, Fakebook, Instagram, etc and I managed to survive without it.

When I left teaching several years ago I knew social media would become a problem very quickly. The writing was on the wall.

FullySupportDems

(427 posts)
30. It makes me think of a book I read
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:56 AM
1 hr ago

"The Gate to Women's Country
1988 novel by Sheri S. Tepper
The Gate to Women's Country is a post-apocalyptic novel by American writer Sheri S. Tepper, published in 1988. It describes a world set three hundred years into the future after a catastrophic war which has fractured the United States into several nations..."

Because I am very bitter.

Mosby

(19,427 posts)
32. I was called a "cuck" yesterday on X by a woman defending Tuckers
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 10:57 AM
1 hr ago

Obsession with Jewish genes.

The problem is social media....

xuplate

(189 posts)
37. Wracking my puny "female brain"
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:06 AM
1 hr ago

trying to understand why some men have the need to treat half of humanity as the enemy.

Fil1957

(639 posts)
44. I completely understand why many women may want to have little to do with men. Sometimes it seems like men are a blight
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:14 AM
53 min ago

on humanity. I say this as a heterosexual male. I am ashamed of many of my peers.

bluestarone

(21,825 posts)
46. Social media is a great source of people, families to keep in touch. It's beautiful. BUT
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:14 AM
53 min ago

Like anything used in the wrong fashion it will DESTROY anything and everything!!

Coolgoober

(271 posts)
47. Women Keep A Body Count????
Mon Feb 23, 2026, 11:14 AM
53 min ago

Wasn't it a bunch of teen boys literally having a contest at a school, who could bed the most girls. It was probably 20 or 30 years ago. California I think.

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