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senseandsensibility

(22,917 posts)
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:12 PM Tuesday

Gen Z stare?

Anyone experienced this? CNN just did a whole segment on the "Gen Z Stare" and how it is prevalent on social media. Apparently, though, it is becoming a problem in the workplace where Gen Z employees give customers a dead-eyed stare with some side eye in response to questions.

Have to say this is a new one to me.

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Gen Z stare? (Original Post) senseandsensibility Tuesday OP
I've seen it. I've heard a GenZer say she uses it intentionally when she doesn't feel like engaging with people. Scrivener7 Tuesday #1
Our whole country is collapsing around US and this is what CNN is talking about? ImNotGod Tuesday #2
Well, I'm pretty sure they don't run the story 24/7 so I'm not sure I'd be that upset about it... hlthe2b Tuesday #8
That's exactly why I posted it, hlthe2b! senseandsensibility Tuesday #9
lol jesus christ WhiskeyGrinder Tuesday #3
The next stage is drooling. They spent so much time being entertained by a screen they shut off without it. FSogol Tuesday #4
My Gen Z stepson does this when he's tired of being lectured. yardwork Tuesday #5
You mean this isn't a totally new thing that has never happened before? Mariana Tuesday #12
Yeah, eye rolling came to my mind. Similar effect. electric_blue68 Tuesday #39
Thank you, sincerely FHRRK Wednesday #45
Gen Z dead stare with some side eye thrown in...my pupper does this too... wcmagumba Tuesday #6
Priceless to the 10th power Attilatheblond Tuesday #10
Cute! LoL Grown2Hate Tuesday #13
Was wondering what stare yall were talking about serbbral Tuesday #17
They need to do that with one eyebrow raised mercuryblues Tuesday #42
I've seen it. It comes off as extremely contemptuous. I've called a couple on it (subtly)--just asking hlthe2b Tuesday #7
This message was self-deleted by its author PeaceWave Tuesday #11
When I run into a situation like this as they stare at me, I just cross my eyes... or curl a lip or pick my nose... mitch96 Tuesday #14
Gross as hell! serbbral Tuesday #18
Yup, stops the stare in a heartbeat!!! Then I laugh!!! nt mitch96 Tuesday #23
I've encountered it . . . markpkessinger Tuesday #15
There is, I think, also a verbal (or non-verbal) equivalent . . . markpkessinger Tuesday #16
if the calls are recorded - and they usually are Skittles Tuesday #19
Yes, I always hear that my calls are being recorded for training senseandsensibility Tuesday #20
Are Gen Z Rebl2 Tuesday #21
Right? TxGuitar Tuesday #27
I remember doing this canetoad Tuesday #41
Wow, they really invented something completely and totally new! Think. Again. Tuesday #22
Oh I had that stare DOWN when I was a teenager senseandsensibility Tuesday #24
Plenty have done it in the workplace... Think. Again. Tuesday #25
😂 Rebl2 Tuesday #28
Squirt Bottle ZDU Tuesday #26
No then Rebl2 Tuesday #29
The cats never say anything ZDU Tuesday #31
Nah Rebl2 Tuesday #32
Exactly! ZDU Tuesday #33
They wait till you leave Conjuay Wednesday #48
OK, now what are you employing against the growing CEO-base worker pay gap? Scott Alan Swaggerty Sunday #49
It doesn't sound as annoying as "My Bad" or "Dude" nt doc03 Tuesday #30
I kind of like "my bad" senseandsensibility Tuesday #34
Now they have "Hey Dude" shoes, I doc03 Tuesday #36
Hey Dude is a 17 year old Italian-founded fashion firm that was bought up by Crocs three years ago. Celerity Tuesday #40
I like MY BAD too Skittles Tuesday #37
You're definitely not Gen X Polybius Tuesday #43
Why are they tagging Gen Z with this? Aristus Tuesday #35
It's more than a stare. It's a lack of engagement. If they answer the phone, they pick up the phone and Scrivener7 Wednesday #46
The lack of greeting on the phone REALLY irritates me! Coventina Sunday #51
Try doing that to a drill sergeant in basic training. bluesbassman Tuesday #38
I'm an expert at it róisín_dubh Tuesday #44
You do realize that grouping people by when they were Conjuay Wednesday #47
Right? Scott Alan Swaggerty Sunday #50

Scrivener7

(56,488 posts)
1. I've seen it. I've heard a GenZer say she uses it intentionally when she doesn't feel like engaging with people.
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:17 PM
Tuesday

I love this particular GenZer, but that kind of pisses me off. She was raised better than that.

ImNotGod

(873 posts)
2. Our whole country is collapsing around US and this is what CNN is talking about?
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:21 PM
Tuesday

well, at least tRump won't sue them over it.

hlthe2b

(110,697 posts)
8. Well, I'm pretty sure they don't run the story 24/7 so I'm not sure I'd be that upset about it...
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:32 PM
Tuesday

A little occasional diversion among all the horror and anger-inducing stories is not a bad thing IMO.

senseandsensibility

(22,917 posts)
9. That's exactly why I posted it, hlthe2b!
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:36 PM
Tuesday

99% of my posts are serious and depressing as befitting the times, but even I welcome a diversion now and then!

FSogol

(47,419 posts)
4. The next stage is drooling. They spent so much time being entertained by a screen they shut off without it.
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:27 PM
Tuesday

yardwork

(67,250 posts)
5. My Gen Z stepson does this when he's tired of being lectured.
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:28 PM
Tuesday

My Millenial kids did it at the same age.

I feel sure that when I was a teen Boomer I stared straight ahead and occasionally rolled my eyes when I was bored or being lectured. I feel as if I saw this on sitcoms.

I feel sure that my mom did the same in the 50s.

I feel certain that every teenage human has done this since humans began.

FHRRK

(1,144 posts)
45. Thank you, sincerely
Wed Jul 16, 2025, 12:16 AM
Wednesday

Some things are just ridiculous.

With that, don't get me started with counting back change or being able to comprehend why you handed them $11.03 for a $10.43 bill.

But, and it is a big BUTT!, my ass can't spell for shit anymore due to spell check so hard for me to smack down kids who didn't deal with manual cash registers.

serbbral

(328 posts)
17. Was wondering what stare yall were talking about
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:20 PM
Tuesday

After watching the pup stare, which was cute, by the way, hell, forget GenZers, toddlers do that!

mercuryblues

(15,740 posts)
42. They need to do that with one eyebrow raised
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 09:40 PM
Tuesday

Or I won't take them seriously.
I taught him that look.

hlthe2b

(110,697 posts)
7. I've seen it. It comes off as extremely contemptuous. I've called a couple on it (subtly)--just asking
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:30 PM
Tuesday

if everything is okay. They seem clueless about it--or at least the few I've (mildly) "confronted" on it...

I suppose there may a lot of explanations, but...

Response to senseandsensibility (Original post)

mitch96

(15,334 posts)
14. When I run into a situation like this as they stare at me, I just cross my eyes... or curl a lip or pick my nose...
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 03:55 PM
Tuesday

Breaks the stare every time... and then I laugh....like HA, got'cha...
FeckenEjits..
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markpkessinger

(8,809 posts)
15. I've encountered it . . .
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:00 PM
Tuesday

I refuse to dignify it by registering any response at all, and simply ignore it!

markpkessinger

(8,809 posts)
16. There is, I think, also a verbal (or non-verbal) equivalent . . .
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:14 PM
Tuesday

Last edited Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:52 PM - Edit history (1)

I've noticed it at work. I'll call the Help Desk (which has a lot of Gen-Z employees) for something. In the past, the kind of back and forth banter would go something like this:

Me: "Hi, this is Mark in XYZ department.
Help Desk rep: "Hi, Mark, this is John. What can I help you with?"
Me: [I then explain why I'm calling.]

Now, it's this:

Me: "Hi, this is Mark in XYZ department.
[Dead silence. No acknowledgment. Nothing]
Me: [I then explain why I'm calling]

It's a little thing, true. But that kind of banter -- just acknowledging someone -- helps to smooth out social and professional interactions. And the lack of it introduces a thoroughly unnecessary awkwardness into the conversation!

Skittles

(166,089 posts)
19. if the calls are recorded - and they usually are
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:25 PM
Tuesday

they should be fired for such behavior, that is just ridiculous

senseandsensibility

(22,917 posts)
20. Yes, I always hear that my calls are being recorded for training
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:28 PM
Tuesday

Last edited Tue Jul 15, 2025, 07:06 PM - Edit history (1)

purposes, but maybe not the ones that are between employees? But yeah, that should be part of the training.

TxGuitar

(4,315 posts)
27. Right?
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 06:26 PM
Tuesday

How do people not see that they feel the exact same way about young people now as their parents/grandparents did about them?

Think. Again.

(22,412 posts)
22. Wow, they really invented something completely and totally new!
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 04:44 PM
Tuesday

We should blame their entire generation for doing something that nobody has ever done in any other generation befor them!

senseandsensibility

(22,917 posts)
24. Oh I had that stare DOWN when I was a teenager
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 05:47 PM
Tuesday

and I am anything but a Gen Zer. But to be fair, I think the difference here is that they are supposedly bringing it into the workplace.

Think. Again.

(22,412 posts)
25. Plenty have done it in the workplace...
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 06:18 PM
Tuesday

...myself included.

The only real difference here is that cnn decided this was somehow newsworthy over any of the other stuff going on in America that they are not reporting to us.

For instance, has cnn reported anything about the Rockland County, NY vote tally lawsuit? No? But young people are ignoring other people? Shocking.

But I guess we're all supposed to pretend that these are just normal times, nothing to see here, move along.

ZDU

(577 posts)
26. Squirt Bottle
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 06:24 PM
Tuesday

"The same squirt bottle used to remove cats from furniture may be effectively employed into the faces of Millennials with unusual and satisfactory results."

senseandsensibility

(22,917 posts)
34. I kind of like "my bad"
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 06:52 PM
Tuesday

It's polite and self-effacing. "Dude" I can take in small doses too.

doc03

(38,147 posts)
36. Now they have "Hey Dude" shoes, I
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 07:02 PM
Tuesday

ain't their f----g Dude, man. Maybe if Joe Biden would have used Dude instead of man he would have got the gen z vote.

Celerity

(50,943 posts)
40. Hey Dude is a 17 year old Italian-founded fashion firm that was bought up by Crocs three years ago.
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 09:07 PM
Tuesday

Aristus

(70,418 posts)
35. Why are they tagging Gen Z with this?
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 06:52 PM
Tuesday

I've seen 'dead-eye' in people of all living generations. I can't count how many times I've gone in to a fast food place, a retail store, or some other business with soul-crushing entry-level jobs, to be helped by some person whose eyes were so devoid of life, you just knew they were merely warming the air around themselves for eight hours until they could go home. I can't say I blame them. The retail, customer-service gulag is not a place you want to do a lot of time. And some people never escape.

Scrivener7

(56,488 posts)
46. It's more than a stare. It's a lack of engagement. If they answer the phone, they pick up the phone and
Wed Jul 16, 2025, 08:19 AM
Wednesday

wait for the caller to say hello. If you're checking out, they don't say hello, they don't tell you the total, they don't say thank you when the transaction is done. If you are in a social situation and greet them, they don't respond.

I thought it was lack of social skills till MY very beloved GenZer said she does it when she doesn't feel like engaging. I was a little blown away because it's so rude and she's better than that.

Coventina

(28,466 posts)
51. The lack of greeting on the phone REALLY irritates me!
Sun Jul 20, 2025, 06:35 AM
Sunday

And then they act all pissy when I say, "Hello? Hello?"
How am I supposed to tell if the call went through or was dropped or if I called a wrong number, or?????

I have stopped patronizing businesses over that behavior.

If I owned a small business, I would immediately fire any employee who did that.

róisín_dubh

(12,076 posts)
44. I'm an expert at it
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 11:56 PM
Tuesday

Xennial here (‘77). I work in a pub part time. We get everyone from Gen Z’ers to Boomers in. The older folks know what they want and don’t hold me up when I’m busy. The inexperienced drinkers or the young lads often do not.

Some Gen Z folks seem to have the social skills of a damp sponge and will just stare at me when I ask what they want. In return, they get the same dead stare back and I go about serving someone else until they get their shit together to order. No banter, no “I’ll wait”. Nope, you want to play dumb, you either get that in return, get ignored or a snappy Jersey attitude, complete with eye roll. That usually shocks the Brits’ systems.

Conjuay

(2,582 posts)
47. You do realize that grouping people by when they were
Wed Jul 16, 2025, 08:29 AM
Wednesday

born is just another form of profiling, right?

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