enough already.

They must do as well as the women or get kicked out of the military.

And yes emotional IQ, social awareness, etc is an important military combat skill.

Most women can pass the generic PT run, or swim, or bicycle.
They can even pass the pushups or pull-ups with a bit of training, if they couldn't before -just like men who have issues (and yes, I've seen men have problems with pushups, too).
Of course, we tend to carry a wee bit more weight up top and our upper body musculature to aligned to carry that weight, so pushups can be a pain.

Main problem comes in if there's been soft tissue damage in the shoulders or biceps.

However, the PT is not really that good an indicator of stamina and core strength needed to do a job, and this whole "Starship Troopers" attitude of what makes a good soldier, sailor, or airman is just as realistic as expecting the quality of your military personnel depending on how good they look in dress uniform.
The most competent and lethal person I knew - an active duty SEAL officer - looked like a shortish, slightly schlubby looking average accountant in uniform; thinning hair, skinny arms and legs, big ears, and all.
Guys who look like Jocks might be able to hump a lot of weight, but they're usually not fast, reactive, or as flexible in the long term as they should be to actually be good in an emergency or combat situation.
Besides, do you really need to have all your troops - mechanics, drone operators, supply clerks, medics, cooks, IT/cyber/comms techs, interpreters and analysts - to be running over rocky terrain laying down covering fire for your APCs and Tanks in combined arms attack on a terrorist camp or other enemy position?
Have your troops maintain the gender neutral physical fitness expected for their jobs with the bumper qual of "in case of emergency" fitness.
That's all you need.